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Poll: How long did you wait?

missred75missred75 member
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I know this has been done before, but I looked back the past several pages and couldn't find it. Because of the "What were you doing when you got THE CALL?" post, I was wondering what everyone's wait time was.

1. How long did you wait for a match?

2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?

3. Did you have any failed matches?

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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    imagemissred75:

    1. How long did you wait for a match?  This is a complicated question... we waited 22 months for DD1. However, at the 16 month mark we matched with our first failed match, and then at 19 month mark we matched with our 2nd and 3rd failed match.  So, all in all, we had "hope", albeit failed, beginning at month 16. 

    For DD2, we matched three months after DD1 was born... so really no wait at all.  We hadn't anticipated it being "easy" so we kept our file active and it happened....

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?

    DD1-  we matched on Wedneday and she was born the following Tuesday.  No time at all :)  DD2 we had a 5.5 month match and waited the that entire time.

    3. Did you have any failed matches?  Yes, we had four failed matches. 


     

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    1. 3 months from when our profile went active, 10 months from when we submitted our app

    2. The next day. She was already born when we got The Call

    3. Nope

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  • pinkzebrapinkzebra

    1. How long did you wait for a match?

    We waited 14 months from the time we were officially approved and waiting until we were placed with our DD. Adding in paperwork, we waited about 18 months.

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?

    With our DD, we found out about her at 5pm on Monday (and met her then too) and brought her home at 11 am on Tuesday! :)

    3. Did you have any failed matches?

    Yes, we had 4 failed matches before we were placed with our DD.

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  • Julie721Julie721 member

    1. Only about a month from when our profile actually went active, but we started the adoption process in November and were matched at the end of February.

    2. End of February matched, home in early May. 

    3. Not exactly. We had a situation with a friend of a friend that ended up being VERY complicated and not our baby. 

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  • jenbabejenbabe member

    We waited just over 3 weeks from when our profile was active until we got the call.  About 3 months from when we first applied.

     We are still waiting but if baby is born on due date it will have been 2 1/2 months from when we got the call. 

    None so far and praying the answer to this will remain 0 failed matches!

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  • kmkaull2kmkaull2 member

    1. We waited 4 months from the time home study was complete. 

    2. Matched in February, baby born at the end of May.

    3.  No

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  • summergirl79summergirl79 member

    1. 2.5 months after went active with National Agency; 9 months since submitted initial application to local agency.

    2. Depends on what you mean by home ;-), our child was born 12 days after the "call". We had an extremely long ICPC process/travel.

    3. We had a failed almost match, it wasn't official but we had been chosen by an EM and were setting up a phone call to talk when she lost touch with agency so we guess she changed her mind about making an adoption plan. 

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  • steph196steph196 member
    1. How long did you wait for a match?We were a certified family for 9.5 months before we were matched. 2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?Our baby was born 2.5 months later.3. Did you have any failed matches?No 
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  • nursesrhnursesrh member

    1) About 4 weeks of going active we matched.

    2)We brought DD home 8 weeks later:)

    3) No failed matches

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  • slaintexasslaintexas member

    DD#1 - matched at 10 months,  born at 12 months, home with us at 13 months (had to spend one month in transitional care)

    DD#2 - Waited 20 months; matched when she was almost 48 hours old.  Home with us when she was 72 hours old

    Failded match - sort of.  Received a call at 6 pm that a baby had been born that morning and the parents chose us.  We were to talk to the birth parents the next day, meet them the following day and bring the baby home after the meeting.  About an hour before the call, we were told the birth father was reconsidering.  They talked about it for 48 hours and finally decided to parent.  Turns out we got the call about DD#2 10 days later!

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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    1.  Waited 6 months

    2.  About 2 1/2 months

    3.  No failed matches.

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  • firecracker8firecracker8 member
    1. How long did you wait for a match? About 5ish months2. How long after the call did you bring baby home? Got the call on Jan 3rd. Met BM on Jan 13th, officially matched Jan 14th. Our guy was born on Feb 8th.3. Did you have any failed matches? No
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  • babywisherbabywisher member
    imagemissred75:

    I know this has been done before, but I looked back the past several pages and couldn't find it. Because of the "What were you doing when you got THE CALL?" post, I was wondering what everyone's wait time was.

    1. How long did you wait for a match? We waited 8 months to be matched with the first bmom. Before we knew it had failed we were chosen again by 9 months.

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home? 3 months

    3. Did you have any failed matches? We had 1 failed match. However we did not know that until we were already matched again. I can not thank God enough for that!

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  • IRRIRR member

    1. How long did you wait for a match?  Our homestudy was completed in February '12, and our website went live in April.  I am being cautiously optimistic, but we did just get a call today.  BM is 13 weeks pregnant.

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?  If this works out, still another 6 months to go.

    3. Did you have any failed matches?  We have had a couple of other contacts with  BMs, but not sure they were all real, so not really matched but some back and forth contact.


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  • taparhamtaparham member

    I know this has been done before, but I looked back the past several pages and couldn't find it. Because of the "What were you doing when you got THE CALL?" post, I was wondering what everyone's wait time was.

    1. How long did you wait for a match?  20 days

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home?  9 weeks

    3. Did you have any failed matches? no

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  • sw_in_kcsw_in_kc

    1. How long did you wait for a match? We were "officially" waiting 5.5 months

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home? She was born about 3.5 weeks after we were matched

    3. Did you have any failed matches? Fortunately, no

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  • sw_in_kcsw_in_kc
    imagefirecracker8:
    1. How long did you wait for a match? About 5ish months 2. How long after the call did you bring baby home? Got the call on Jan 3rd. Met BM on Jan 13th, officially matched Jan 14th. Our guy was born on Feb 8th. 3. Did you have any failed matches? No

    So funny - DD was born Feb 8 (but of 2011), we got the call on Jan 12th and met BM and officially matched on Jan 14th Big Smile

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  • MBrodeMBrode

    1. How long did you wait for a match?  11 months

    2. How long after the call did you bring baby home? 1 month

    3. Did you have any failed matches? No

    Needless to say, we were very, very lucky!! And I am grateful every single day.

     

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  • JermysgirlJermysgirl member
    1. 8 months and 3 weeks the first time, 1 year and 2 months the second time. 2. A little over a day later the first time, and about a month later the second time. 3. No failed matches either time.
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