Invited to a baby shower, WYYD?

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

Thats going to be a month and some weeks after I give birth, I explained to my friend that I would have a newborn, and I can't have my mom watch her, as I plan to be exclusively BF on demand. When I explained this my friend said she didn't mind and that another one of her friends would also have a newborn with her and that it was not a problem... but I still don't feel like its 100% right..

what should I do?

EastCoastBride · June 2012

Is it a kid free shower? If so - I feel nursing newborns are absolutely an exception to the rule, and even your friend has told you so! It's when kids get older, are more mobile and take a lot more of their mom's attention that I feel the "no kid" rule needs to be respected.

But a 6 week old? Go for it.

kes77 · June 2012

I attended a shower 1 month PP and I brought my newborn daughter since I was nursing, my SIL understood and thought nothing of it. She slept the whole time and nobody even knew she was there (except for the people who sat at our table). I was worried the baby would take attention away from the bride but she didn't and I wouldn't have been able to go otherwise. It all worked out, do what's most comfortable to you though.

jeffsjayme · June 2012

Decide when you get an invite.

If you want to go, bring your baby.

If you don't want to go, decline.

That said, they're planning this really far in the future if the shower is 1+ month after your baby is born and you're still pregnant. That's 13 weeks away. So worry about it then.

daisy662 · June 2012

One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

EastCoastBride · June 2012

daisy662:

One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

Really? Pumping SUCKS and if you don't have to do it, why? A newborn isn't the same as an (as I saw in a recent post) 8 month old. I had to EBF for 8 weeks and when you have a newborn who is eating a lot AND you're also trying to pump - it sucks. Really really sucks.

I side-eye women who can't leave their older babies. I don't side eye moms of newborns.

Liz4444 · June 2012

daisy662:
One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

I'm this way too.

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

Bottles are a no no

morethancottoncandy · June 2012

ShelbehhRawrr:
Bottles are a no no

This is kind of a silly statement for someone who isn't even BFing yet. What do you plan to do if you can't breastfeed?

pam1005 · June 2012

EastCoastBride:
daisy662:

One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

Really? Pumping SUCKS and if you don't have to do it, why? A newborn isn't the same as an (as I saw in a recent post) 8 month old. I had to EBF for 8 weeks and when you have a newborn who is eating a lot AND you're also trying to pump - it sucks. Really really sucks.
I side-eye women who can't leave their older babies. I don't side eye moms of newborns.

I totally agree with ECB. Both my children had a hard time when it came to BF because of their latching issues. The second I offered a bottle it got even worse. At 6 weeks or so I still feel it is important to keep BF going if there are issues that have not been worked out.

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

pam1005:
EastCoastBride:
daisy662:

One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

Really? Pumping SUCKS and if you don't have to do it, why? A newborn isn't the same as an (as I saw in a recent post) 8 month old. I had to EBF for 8 weeks and when you have a newborn who is eating a lot AND you're also trying to pump - it sucks. Really really sucks.
I side-eye women who can't leave their older babies. I don't side eye moms of newborns.
I totally agree with ECB. Both my children had a hard time when it came to BF because of their latching issues. The second I offered a bottle it got even worse. At 6 weeks or so I still feel it is important to keep BF going if there are issues that have not been worked out.

You read my mind..

twister22 · June 2012

Some mom's want to EBF, some exclusively formula feed, and some somewhere along the middle. No need to side-eye someone for their feeding choice, whatever it may be.

If you plan to EBF, then you have two options:

1) Take baby to the shower. He/she will probably sleep the entire time anyway. If he/she becomes a dis

2) Don't go to the shower. Send your regrets, a nice card, and a gift.

danieliza1127 · June 2012

I don't see any reason not to go.

ccam · June 2012

If your friend said that bringing the baby is fine, then I would do that. If you don't feel right doing it still, then send a gift and don't attend the shower.

rach7883 · June 2012

pam1005:
EastCoastBride:
daisy662:

One word. Pump.

Sorry - I side eye people who refuse to leave their children for an afternoon.

Really? Pumping SUCKS and if you don't have to do it, why? A newborn isn't the same as an (as I saw in a recent post) 8 month old. I had to EBF for 8 weeks and when you have a newborn who is eating a lot AND you're also trying to pump - it sucks. Really really sucks.
I side-eye women who can't leave their older babies. I don't side eye moms of newborns.
I totally agree with ECB. Both my children had a hard time when it came to BF because of their latching issues. The second I offered a bottle it got even worse. At 6 weeks or so I still feel it is important to keep BF going if there are issues that have not been worked out.

I agree with ALL of this, especially when you have a LO who has BF/latch issues. You never know how your LO will be till it gets here but still at that point youre still getting into a BF routine and comfortable with everything! Plus at that age all they do is sleep! Take the baby, especially since she said it was fine!! It is NOT the same as taking a 5-6+ month old that is starting to more and such! Go to the shower and enjoy!!

hboo2011 · June 2012

morethancottoncandy:

ShelbehhRawrr:
Bottles are a no no

This is kind of a silly statement for someone who isn't even BFing yet. What do you plan to do if you can't breastfeed?

This. I'm curious what will happen if you can't BF.

LER091811 · June 2012

What doesn't feel right about it? I would totally take my LO to a shower and just breastfeed there, I'll do anything for a chance to get out of the house and interact with other humans!

jeffsjayme · June 2012

hboo2011:
morethancottoncandy:

ShelbehhRawrr:
Bottles are a no no

This is kind of a silly statement for someone who isn't even BFing yet. What do you plan to do if you can't breastfeed?

This. I'm curious what will happen if you can't BF.

I'm guessing/hoping that she was being sarcastic as we often are on here. My guess.

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

jeffsjayme:
hboo2011:
morethancottoncandy:

ShelbehhRawrr:
Bottles are a no no

This is kind of a silly statement for someone who isn't even BFing yet. What do you plan to do if you can't breastfeed?

This. I'm curious what will happen if you can't BF.

I'm guessing/hoping that she was being sarcastic as we often are on here. My guess.

I was not being sarcastic, I was using my phone (which doesn't allow me to write very much without stopping) When I wrote that, I meant if I can BF without problems, Why start pumping and using bottles and confuse LO?

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