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The new question that I am being asked lately...

SandyAliSandyAli
in June 2012 Moms

"So are you having a natural birth or C-section?"   I find this question annoying because i think this is a personal question. Some of us will have a natural birth, some of us are planning for a natural birth but might end up with a c-section, while others are having a planned c-section...why the question?  Well because its just another way for them to put in thier two cents where it isn't welcomed! I learned that by answering the question to some lady who asked.  I told her that I was planning for a natural birth and I was going to end with " but you never know" but she interrupted me and began telling me her horror stories. that i should expect the worst so that I am not surprised..why would you tell me that??

I am so tired of people and thier opinions! 

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  • venussapphirevenussapphire member

    At least most people seem to entertain the idea of a natural birth for you. Most people seem to just tell me their tips on how to get drugs the fastest way possible.

    When I tell them I'm having a home birth and no drugs will be available, they proceed to tell me that labour is really painful. Really?? no one had ever told me that before.

    Also annoying:

     People who tell me all I need is to have spicy food, have sex, or go for a walk and the baby will come. Like I've never heard of this?? If you are going to give advice at least be something original.  

     

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  • samibear74samibear74
    OMG this drives me nuts.  First of all it's none of your freaking business how I am going to deliver and second I didn't ask you for any advice.  I made the mistake of answering that I wanted to try a natural delivery with no pain meds and the woman (WHO DOESN"T HAVE CHILDREN) proceeds to tell me how I'll never be able to make it etc etc. I just responded with "Well, women have been having babies for hundreds of years without all of our modern medical advances, and I think I'll be able to handle it.  If not then I will make a decision at that point." 
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  • slowden86slowden86

    Oh gosh I hear you. My Brother in laws girlfriend who is a stage 5 clinger, as in she is always around and should know by now, just posted on my facebook if I am wanting to be induced or "wait for your water to brake".... *eyes roll*... If she has been around me the last nine months, and she has, she would know I would rather it happen naturally. Second of all facebook is NOT the place for that. I finally went to lunch with my SIL, my other brother in laws wife, and she and I agree she has got to go! She is so annoying and inappropriate in her questions and responses.

    She keeps telling me everything her mom says about pregnancy, her mom also gave birth 20 years ago, things have changed honey! 

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  • giggles0918giggles0918 member
    Most people are asking me how much weight I've gained.  When was my weight any of your business before in got pregnant?  I hate these questions and I know they only get worse once LO comes along with "parenting" advice.
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  • SandyAliSandyAli
    imagevenussapphire:

    At least most people seem to entertain the idea of a natural birth for you. Most people seem to just tell me their tips on how to get drugs the fastest way possible.

    When I tell them I'm having a home birth and no drugs will be available, they proceed to tell me that labour is really painful. Really?? no one had ever told me that before.

    Also annoying:

     People who tell me all I need is to have spicy food, have sex, or go for a walk and the baby will come. Like I've never heard of this?? If you are going to give advice at least be something original.  

     

    I am with you on that! I am planning on have a drug-free birth but everyone just tells me how painful it will be and that I should just go for an epideral right when I get to the hospital..i get the rolling of the eyes...i get the "you won't be able to do it" look...it just pisses me off! just because that person couldn't handle the pain doesn't mean that I won't be able too...but you know what? it makes me that more determined to go for a drug free delivery!!!

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    imagesamibear74:
    OMG this drives me nuts.  First of all it's none of your freaking business how I am going to deliver and second I didn't ask you for any advice.  I made the mistake of answering that I wanted to try a natural delivery with no pain meds and the woman (WHO DOESN"T HAVE CHILDREN) proceeds to tell me how I'll never be able to make it etc etc. I just responded with "Well, women have been having babies for hundreds of years without all of our modern medical advances, and I think I'll be able to handle it.  If not then I will make a decision at that point." 

    Doesn't this just make you more determined to go for the drug free delivery? Sh!t women, can we please support other women instead of dragging them down??!! I just want to punch women who tell me that I should stop trying to be superwoman and just take the drugs..F/U. there is more to my reasons of going drug free than trying to be "superwoman"..And you know what?? I am superwoman because being able to create and have this baby is my power, b!otch!

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  • khill86khill86 member
    imagevenussapphire:

    At least most people seem to entertain the idea of a natural birth for you. Most people seem to just tell me their tips on how to get drugs the fastest way possible.

    When I tell them I'm having a home birth and no drugs will be available, they proceed to tell me that labour is really painful. Really?? no one had ever told me that before.

    Also annoying:

     People who tell me all I need is to have spicy food, have sex, or go for a walk and the baby will come. Like I've never heard of this?? If you are going to give advice at least be something original.  

     

    My sister's now MIL gave me a laundry list of things not to do to "ensure" I wouldn't go into labour before my sister's wedding (this past Friday). I ordered buffalo chicken fingers at the rehearsal dinner, she told me not to risk the spicy food. Don't go out walking, don't eat pineapple, don't drink castor oil, don't have sex, don't do anything but sit with my feet up until after the wedding. You know what the worst part was? At the reception, she came up to me and said that I had her permission to have the baby anytime now, but she would appreciate that however the birth goes and however the first few weeks or months go, she'd like me to only tell my sister the positive things so I don't discourage my sister and her now husband from wanting to have a baby right away!

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  • calibroncosfan5968calibroncosfan5968 member

    This made me laugh outloud!  While I am all for an epidual and having as painless birth as possible, my hat is off to those who have natural births with no assistance :)  I am a BIG baby so I have the utmost respect for you and agree that if they are going to give advice, at least let it be original :)  

     

    imagevenussapphire:

    At least most people seem to entertain the idea of a natural birth for you. Most people seem to just tell me their tips on how to get drugs the fastest way possible.

    When I tell them I'm having a home birth and no drugs will be available, they proceed to tell me that labour is really painful. Really?? no one had ever told me that before.

    Also annoying:

     People who tell me all I need is to have spicy food, have sex, or go for a walk and the baby will come. Like I've never heard of this?? If you are going to give advice at least be something original.  

     

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  • kaceandpointkaceandpoint
    i used to get a lot of people at the store telling me that i shouldn't be eating that brownie because of the caffeine in chocolate, or make sure my water bottle is BPA free. I think people think I'm a teen mother because i look a lot younger than i am (24 btw). but the thing that annoys me is "go take a walk" walking sucks i can barely take my dog outside to poop let alone go for 'a walk', so if one more person tells me to take a walk i'll tele-kinetically throw something.
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  • SummerMama12SummerMama12 member
    I have been asked this a lot, too.  It's weird to me.  It seems to be mostly other moms, who ask what type of birth I had with DS.  And, it seems everyone who asks had a C-section and "can't imagine having to push out a baby."  Really?  Because it wasn't bad at all!
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