One and done or just sleep deprived LOL?

stoneycakes · June 2012

I am an only child who wished for siblings my whole childhood. I always loved being around big families and assumed I would have two or three children of my own. Now that I finally have LO in my arms; I find myself totally overwhelmed by the idea of going through this newborn stage again, especially with a toddler or two. I am worried about birth control now, whereas I originally wasn't concerned and thought what will be will be. Is this just the sleep deprivation talking or am I getting a true reality check? It's only been two weeks, but I have a totally new appreciation for moms of more than one. Anyone else feel this way?

winter-shock · June 2012

Wait until LO is closer to one to decide on siblings. I have always wanted a big family, after my first I swore she would be an only child, I now have a 2nd DD. But I would say when my first was 6 months is when I really started to feeling the urge for another.

NatPhoto09 · June 2012

i thought i was one and done until DS was about 2. i'm with you and i don't enjoy the newborn stage but i know now that this will pass and in no time our newborns will be all grown up.

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FLOWERandSUNSHINE · June 2012

I totally understand you. My LO is 6 weeks and DH and I feel the same way. Although it is easier than a few weeks ago it's still hard. I guess we'll see as LO get older but for now we do not want any more babies!!

Good luck!

HotChocolate79 · June 2012

I must be nuts but I am totally ready to do this again and DS is not even 3 weeks old yet. Before he was born I was totally in the one and done camp, and I really didn't enjoy being pregnant. In the interest of full disclosure, he is an amazing sleeper, and I have a lot of help so that probably has a lot to do with it.

bellelamb · June 2012

It's too early to even think of such things, enjoy your lo and don't think about another your not even healed yet. My first was four before I was ready for another!

jewinkel · June 2012

Don't worry, you are certainly not the only one! I am in the one and done clan as of now, as is my husband. We both wanted two before this LO but no one and no book could have prepared us for how hard and exhausting the newborn phase is.

We have no family here to help, my friends have moved out of state, and my husbands friends are useless. We have actually decided in the past two weeks that we are moving to Oregon to be closer to family for more support.

Maybe I will be singing a different tune in a year, but I doubt it.

It is so good to hear from other moms who aren't fond of this phase.

faydre · June 2012

I still want number 2. It hasn't been all roses here either, but I know it'll get easier.

Yeah, I'm nuts...

wypadek · June 2012

I'm saying one and done as of right now but that's more because E is SO easy. She's been sleeping 5-6 hours at a time since we came home unless I woke her up. I keep telling DH that we're using all our good baby vibes so can't have another. I also HATED being pregnant so that's part of it as well.

Divashrink1982 · June 2012

My husband said that we were one and done on our LO's first night home from the hospital Smile Right now, I'm saying that we definitely aren't doing this again any time soon but am not making any commitments about the future one way or another. I should point out that we are now 8 weeks in - and I'm a little more rested than I was when LO first came home (at which point I also would have said that we're one and done!).

I also had some bumps at the end of the road of my pregnancy (high BP and low platelets, led to pre-e and induction at 35w 5d, IUGR diagnosed after LO was born) and wasn't prepared for some of the preemie issues that we had (even though he was only a week before term - every week truly does make a difference). I am really nervous about having another preemie - particularly not making it as far in my next pregnancy if I would develop pre-e sooner. So - we'll see!

MelissaMiso · June 2012

My friend has three kids (the youngest is now 3) and she said she absolutely hated the first 6 weeks each time. Bonus is, you survive and it gets better. I keep thinking about this since I'd really have to do it soon as I just had this first little one at 39 years old (the lovely "advanced maternal age" label). I always thought I wanted 2 kids but time and finances may force us to have an only child.

TnG05 · June 2012

I think it's too soon to try and decide about more. I'm also an only child (my husband is too) and neither of us wished for siblings so we have always said we were one and done. I'm actually on the fence about it now.

jmgcoggins · June 2012

winter-shock:
Wait until LO is closer to one to decide on siblings. I have always wanted a big family, after my first I swore she would be an only child, I now have a 2nd DD. But I would say when my first was 6 months is when I really started to feeling the urge for another.

This.

Once you get into the groove of things and it gets easier, especially when they start to STTN, you will want another. After DD was born I said I was through-- I didn't want a 3rd. She's now STTN and I told DH last night I wanted a 3rd in a few years.

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