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Multiples
I'm sorry, just venting, but why is it that other mothers who have singletons get to complain and they don't seem to be asked this question? Why does it seem like everyone else just nods and smiles sympathetically to them but when I talk to my mother, she just seems like it is a piece of cake with the twins? She won't even watch them overnight because on the night she tried, (the boys were 18 months), she stayed awake the whole night listening to them to make sure they were okay. She didn't sleep a wink.
Please don't flame. I just need some kind advice from the women who understand how harder it is than having kids as singletons. I know, I know, all kids are hard and wonderful, it just seems like what I'm going through is physically harder than what another mom with a 3 year old and a 15 year old is going through. I don't know. Even I am being an idiot, please tell me kindly to cut it out. I know the blessings outweigh the hardships, I just feel sorry for myself sometimes. It just seems like the world (and I know there are many multiples in the world, but far more singletons) just doesn't care to understand or thinks multiples are 'easier' than having kids separately because you 'get them done in one go.'
Vent over.
Thanks,
Randi?
Vent: Anyone else finding this toddler phase really difficult?
Hi all,
DISCLAIMER: I KNOW HOW BLESSED I AM. I WOULDN'T WANT IT ANY OTHER WAY. I'M ONLY VENTING BECAUSE THE LADIES ON THIS BOARD UNDERSTAND.
I'm sorry, just venting, but why is it that other mothers who have singletons get to complain and they don't seem to be asked this question? Why does it seem like everyone else just nods and smiles sympathetically to them but when I talk to my mother, she just seems like it is a piece of cake with the twins? She won't even watch them overnight because on the night she tried, (the boys were 18 months), she stayed awake the whole night listening to them to make sure they were okay. She didn't sleep a wink.
Please don't flame. I just need some kind advice from the women who understand how harder it is than having kids as singletons. I know, I know, all kids are hard and wonderful, it just seems like what I'm going through is physically harder than what another mom with a 3 year old and a 15 year old is going through. I don't know. Even I am being an idiot, please tell me kindly to cut it out. I know the blessings outweigh the hardships, I just feel sorry for myself sometimes. It just seems like the world (and I know there are many multiples in the world, but far more singletons) just doesn't care to understand or thinks multiples are 'easier' than having kids separately because you 'get them done in one go.'
Vent over.
Thanks,
Randi?
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Re: Vent: Anyone else finding this toddler phase really difficult?
all I can say is that my girls are like 9 days older than your boys and I think it's very hard. I agree with you, but the problem is that people who have one singleton, have never been in your shoes....same as you've never been in their shoes. So, you're right that here (and to other multiple moms IRL) is the only good place to vent.
There are lots of plus sides to having them, too. And not just the obvious reasons.... they'll always have each other.
I can relate, that's all I'll say. Oh, and I can't vent to any of my or my dh's family members, because they all had their kids 4 years apart- and they think somehow that's just like what I'm going through!?!?!?
Yes - it is hard. I'm just finding now (at a little over 3) that they're more managable when we're out and about. When the girls were babies and they didn't sleep, I was more mentally exhausted. Now, it's physical.
Oh girl, amen.?
It totally pisses me off when people who don't have multiples think it's actually easier to have multiples b/c you "get it over with at once" &/or b/c "they entertain each other".
??Multiple moms know that "getting it over with at once" is like continuously juggling 2 (or more!) balls instead of just tossing one up in the air & catching it repeatedly, & "entertaining each other" means constantly breaking up fights & trying to achieve a level of babyproofing that TWO kids can't collaborate to overcome. ?
I complain to my Mom and girlfriends and they might not understand but they see what I go through and have finally started to realize. Just recently at 2 1/2 my girls have become easier to take out to do errands, we don't do too much because I do not want any meltdowns and I always am prepared with snacks and water just in case. I have learned that singleton parent's seem to think they can complain but when I do I just get - god bless you - I hate that - seriously. When I go out with my girlfirned and her daughter we just watch whichever girls are in our sight and always yell to each other who we have or if we are missing one - I am so grateful for her because she does get it!