Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
lgirl1205
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Re: 2nd c-section
Was the first one emergency or scheduled? Are you sure all future births have to be c-section? From everything I've read and been told, VBAC is successful about 70% of the time.
If you read people's recovery stories, you'll see that all recoveries are different. I had an emergency c-section with DS, and recovery was no problem. I was on pain pills for about a week. My scar has no feeling to it, but it's just a plain white scar, way low on my abdomen so not too many people will see it.
What made recuperation difficult?
Ditto the pp's question about scheduled or emergency - there can often be a big difference between emergency and scheduled c/s. I've had 2 scheduled c/s and the recoveries were pretty easy. I was up and walking the evening of the c/s and felt fine to shower and blow dry my hair the next morning. Did they get you up and walking asap? That makes a huge difference as well. The longer you lay there, the harder your recovery gets to be. It helps to stay on top of the pain meds, too - take them right at the scheduled time throughout your hospital stay.
Every c/s is different, so it's tough to say if your next will be better. My 2nd was slightly better, if only because I knew to pester the nurses to get me up and not be afraid to ask for the pain meds if they were running even a few minutes late.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
It was induced labor into emergency c section. There was something wrong and therefore from here on out it is csection, doctor said that.
The day I was to get up and walk I had trouble. My legs weren't moving, still too numb. I got up day 3. I had no problem with pain meds, they gave them to me.
BFP #2 11/2013, MC 11/26/2013 (6/7WKS) -NO SACK JUST EMBRYO, NO D&C
I didn't read others responses
Not sure why you had a C-section but there is alwasy the hope of a VBAC for your next one. You are not 100% doomed to more C-sections.
With that said each person recovers differently from the next. My first was emergency and it was a breeze. Super easy recovery. I am not a good VBAC candidate so I will be having a RCS this time. I am ok with it and only hope that my next will be just as easy.
Makes me feel better! I'm having one in November......first one was Horrible recovery!
I recovered a LOT quicker the second time, which is what I have heard from others as well. I went off my meds as soon as I got home from the hospital and was also up and moving a lot sooner.
I will say that it was difficult the second time b/c I had a toddler to take care of, who wanted me to hold her (and I couldn't b/c of the 6 week thing). But, as far as my recovery it was a lot easier.