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Loss of my mother

lona0516lona0516
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I am currently 25 weeks pregnant i lost my mother 8 weeks ago. I am having a horrible time dealing with it, her and I were best friends. We did everything together, even lived together. Her death was very sudden and unexpected, she passed away in her sleep and I went in to her room to wake her up and found her. We still are waiting to find out the cause of death, should be getting it soon. I  have not  fully grieved yet and i want to know if anyone else has experienced this while being pregnant? This is my 3rd child, i have 2boys already and i am now expecting a little girl. My mother had no blood grand daughters and we found out before she died that i was having a girl and she was so excited. So now the thoughts of raising this little girl without my mother in her life is so hard to even think about. She was a BIG part in my 2 boys life. So i hope some of you can give me advice on how to handle this. I am also starting to get nervous about possibly having post pardom after she is born. Please help me i need some advice!!!

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother.  I'm not sure if anyone else here has experienced something like this - we're here because we've all experienced later pregnancy and infant/child losses.  I don't really have any advice, but it might be helpful to talk to a grief counselor or therapist.  I'm sorry you're going through this.
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  • Petunia844Petunia844 member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss.  One of my best friend's dad's passed away the very same day that I lost my son... even though the losses are very different our grief has been very similar in some ways.  She had just had her first daughter (his first grandchild) right before he passed.  One of the hardest things for her as well is that she has to raise her daughter without him in her life.  I'm don't really have advice, just to do what feels right to you. 
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  • nuttycoconutnuttycoconut member
    I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother. My good friend's mother passed away just before she got pregnant. She had some anxiety throughout her pregnancy and went to acupuncture to relieve some of the stress. She also goes to therapy. She made sure to include pictures of her mom in her baby's room so her baby would always know her grandmother. We honored her mom at the shower with a candle and she mentioned her mom in the thank you speech. Also, she is trying to accept help from her mother in law even though she wishes it was her mother instead. It has been a little over a year and things have been difficult but in my opinion she's doing the best she can.
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  • littlepenguinslittlepenguins member

    *** Siggy Warning ***

    I lost my mother while I was trying to get pregnant and kept failing. She passed away the day after my husband and I got married and it was the most acute pain I have ever felt. I am normally very hesitant to post on this board, but I want you to know you are not alone and that going through a pregnancy without a mother feels incredibly isolating and sad. In my case, I don't have a sister or close female relatives and my MIL is a self-involved cow. Please PM me if you need anything. 

    This book helped me during the first year after loss, because there was a different page to look at and reflect on every day:

     https://www.amazon.com/Healing-After-Loss-Meditations-Working/dp/0380773384/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1339512236&sr=8-2

     

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