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October 2011 Moms
Liz4444
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Military wives and single moms
Liz4444
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I don't know how you ladies do it but I applaud you! I have been alone with this child since Thursday and holy hell, I'm pooped!
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Re: Military wives and single moms
My sentiments exactly!! I had baby for over a month at our last place because our house wasn't ready. He had his new orders and had to start work. The first week was the toughest. Now he works 12 or more hour shifts every three days, so we only see him for 3 hours those days.
He leaves us in Sept for training to go to Afghanistan and I seriously contemplated going to Minnesota....but know I cannot pack up every time he leaves since he is leaning towards staying in. I will have family come stay for blocks of time if his being an alternate turns he is a primary. Our last deployment away from each other we didn't have the baby...this will be harder.
I applaud single moms and other military wives as well!!
Thanks...it isn't easy. I honestly don't know how I would do it if my ILs hadn't decided to move here for the year that DH is deployed (They were so considerate that they moved to the other side of the country to help out but still picked a place 20 min away so I have some distance.) I applaud the people that do it with no family around to help-that happens a lot with the military b/c they move you all over.
The hardest thing for me right now is that I need to find a reliable sitter and don't know where to start. ILs watch him while I work (10 hrs a day), so I don't want to ask them to watch him any more than that, but sometimes I need a manicure or to get my hair done or to go to a movie or something. I'm dying for some "me" time right now!
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
I just found this in the Military Spouse magazine...the DoD funds the membership to Sittercity for Army, Marine, Navy, and Air Force families including active duty, Reserve and Guard.
I don't have anyone here and like you wondering what I am going to do for a haircut, etc when he leaves. I am contemplating using this Sittercity. Let me know if you want the link for the free membership.
I'd love the link-can you PM it to me? Thanks!
Hi! We are living on an Air Force base. I haven't visited the Child Development center yet...I admit I got a little weirded out seeing the strollers parked outside that seats like 9 babies...it irrationally reminds me of an orphanage. What's FCC? We're Navy, but think since this is a joint base we can use whatever facilities. Do you use them?
You have mail
Ok, I am glad to hear you like the program. I think I would like the FCC better. I will check it out this week. I wonder if I can just use them periodically since I am at home finishing my college, but would like to use them here and there once he leaves. Thanks for the info!!
I will say that I am extremely lucky. DH and I met through some friends while he was deployed and then he came home 3 months later. Then they moved him to a non-deployable unit. We did of course have to think about him randomly being moved but no longer have to as he is on a medboard and has very little time left.
If he had been deployed through any of our relationship or marriage, we probably would have held off on having kids. There are a lot of things he didn't want to miss out on since he never had his own father around. If we did get KU at a deployment time or before, I would have probably moved home to be close with our families.
But yeah, I have seen some women who do it on their own and they are awesome! It's still hard having a DH in the service and at their beckoned call, but much harder when they're gone completely.