Received packets from a couple of adoption agencies

arbutusbride · June 2012

Although we are doing one more IVF cycle this summer, I am preparing for the worst. ( I know, pessimistic, but after IF I can't help but be.)

Part of me wants to fill them out now and send them in but another part still has hope for IVF to work. Anybody start the adoption process before finishing IF treatments? Am I jumping the gun? I am a little nervous but getting excited to get the ball rolling.

meganroselee · June 2012

I think the mostly important thing is to set IVF and your desire for a bio child aside for a moment and ask yourself how you feel about adoption. Is adoption what you would want in any event? If the answer is yes, I would encourage you to push ahead now with the apps. If not, I would ask yourself at what point would you feel committed to adoption. It was a bit annoying with our agency that there was a lot of talk about closure/acceptance of infertility. This comes at different times for everyone. Best of luck in whatever you decide!

kellyrn9956 · June 2012

We are skipping IVF completely. It's not the best choice for us right now. I have come to terms with the fact that a pregnancy for us is pretty much out of the picture. But yes, I have been exploring adoption for the past year.

Its important to note though that the majority of agencies do not allow you to be doing any treatments through the process. So while it's good to explore your options, you likely won't be able to go much further until you have completed your journey through IVF.

Blsd4given · June 2012

DH and I are doing both... treatments and starting the adoption process. From what I've seen so far, it's hard to get too far into the process without laying down some cash. But we agreed that we want to adopt whether I get pregnant or not... We found an agency that we like and that will allow us to pursue both.

c&dwaiting4ourmiracle · June 2012

I think getting the information is a good idea, but a lot of agencies have application fees (I think they want to make sure that the couple/person is committed to the adoption). When we decided on adoption we were completely done with fertility treatments. It's what was right for us. Good luck and I pray that your upcoming treatment is a success!

bmxxtease · June 2012

DH and I are going the foster route, so not entirely the same as far as application fees and not being able to do both at the same time, but I wanted to give my opinion about if you are jumping the gun or not. DH and I were doing IVF #3 when we started the fostering process and signing up for classes. After 2 failed IVFs (you can see my history in my siggy) we were very pessimistic and we didn't want to lose out on the time it took to get that BFN and then start the process. Also for us, having that alternative plan helped give us another thing to look forward to and reduce the stress which in the end might have given us a BFP. At the same time, the classes don't cost anything so it's not any money down the drain, just our time. Dh and I agreed that even if it was a positive we still wanted to continue with classes. Because this was our last IVF, we still wanted to get our license in case we m/c or only got pregnant with one and wanted to add to our family later down the road. I hope this helps

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