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February 2012 Moms
MeganSony
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BFP # 1 - June 2nd, 2011 - EDD Feb 5, 2012 Birthday Feb 10, 2012
BFP # 2 - Jan 19, 2012 - EDD Sept 24, 2013 - CP Jan 24, 2012
I hate naps, bedtime, STTN... vent!
MeganSony
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I have to say as a FTM, I spend major time agonizing over Gabriel's sleep schedule and I hate it. No one has told me the same thing... and who on earth knows what is actually right! How long should he nap, how many times a day, should he be on a schedule, do I sleep train, what the heck is sleep training if I don't do CIO, he is STTN, now he isn't STTN. There is too much material out there on what to do with sleeping. Do I always do the bath before bed.
I'd just love it if there was one right way to do it and go with it. Plus I'm always stressing about being out and disrupting his sleep and of course he would fight me to the death before he goes down some days.
Anyways, I do follow his cues and he is a good sleeper outside of my insecurities about it! Vent over.
BFP # 1 - June 2nd, 2011 - EDD Feb 5, 2012 Birthday Feb 10, 2012
BFP # 2 - Jan 19, 2012 - EDD Sept 24, 2013 - CP Jan 24, 2012This discussion has been closed.
Re: I hate naps, bedtime, STTN... vent!
I hate that everyone gives different advice like it's fact. Everyone has different advice because every baby is different.
Personally, I think using bath time as part of a 'bedtime routine' is stupid. I don't want to give my kid a bath every single night to get her to sleep. What if we happen to be somewhere where a bath isn't an option? Besides, DD loves splashing around in the tub, it definitely isn't a relaxing/calming thing for her. It's playtime.
We had a nap schedule for a little while but it changes too much as she grows so we just go with the flow for naps. When I start seeing tired cues, we try to take a nap. If she isn't having it, I try again 30-60 minutes later. I don't like fighting her, it's exhausting for both of us so we just come back to it later.
This totally! Sometimes the smile and nod is best. . . or the stink eye depending on how incisistent they are that they are right and their way will work with my baby.
I used to stress because DD didn't like baths. It seemed like so many people did that to help LO relax, and I thought if I could just get her to like the bath then I can incorporate it into her bedtime routine and she'll be so much happier... well, that never happened, and now the only routine we have is DH rocking her to sleep every night and she loves it, she STTN and naps great during the day. She is overall a happy baby. Oh, and now she is enjoying baths but we do it in the AM to get her ready for the day, and we do it daily only because she has eczema and it helps to moisturize her skin. So yes, every baby is different and you have to go with what works for them...
I pretty much let DD set her own schedules and routines. She naps when she wants, but it is usually around the same time of day, but not always for the same amount of time.
But bath time is part of her routine. It doesn't calm her down, she actually kicks, splashes and plays; but I guess it signals to her that she is going to sleep and stay sleep. I learned this one night when she refused to go to bed and I hadn't given her a bath. I literally bathed her at 12am and she went to sleep within 20 minutes. And I never wake her from a nap unless we are going somewhere no matter how close to bed time it is.