Has your husband ever..

alber2am · June 2012

I hate golf right now too! But as soon as Emmett is old enough I think it will be fun for us to take him out, I have clubs I am just not very good but would love to get better at it so I can go with my husband, before Emmett we would go sometimes and I would just hit a ball here and there, I think riding out on the course with him is a lot of fun. That would be my suggestion-take your LO as soon as you are able to and go with your DH if you can it is good quality time together!

DH has only taken him into town to see him parents and grandparents, usually he does this when he is home with him, they only live 10 minutes away. He has never taken him to the store.

rockychryslerb2010 · June 2012

I don't think this is a big deal. H has taken E to the pedi once when I had to work, but that is the only time he has been out with him alone. Maybe we are strange, but we don't really go out during the week. On the weekends, we usually go out and do things together. I have no problem leaving E at home with him, and do while I run errands or do things on the weekend. And I watch E if H is doing something on the weekend. I guess my point is, we usually are going places together when it is logical to bring E. I'm not going to tell H to take E with him to get an oil change, just so H can take him out of the house. They spend every other Friday together and I'm sure they will soon start doing trips to the park together on that day.

uncharch7 · June 2012

ruby soho:
Of course, he is her father. Some of the husbands and dads on this board need an asskicking and reality check

This. I'm floored at the number of dads who haven't taken their child out alone yet. Our babies are closing in on 6 months old!

DH is actually out with DS now, they went to breakfast and to get the car inspected. They go out very regularly together during the week when they're home together (wakeup-1230) and on the weekends when I'm working or need a break.

secretsout · June 2012

I don't understand why this is such a big deal. I rarely take the baby out alone, either. It seems like a pain in the butt to pack up the baby and put him in the car just to say my husband has taken him places alone. He works longer hours and it's harder for him to get off work so I'm the one who takes the baby to most doctors appointments. We have in-home care, so we don't have to drop him off or pick him up anywhere. I can't think of a situation where it would make sense for my husband to take the baby out on errands when the baby would be perfectly find staying home with me. And when I have to run errands, I leave him home with my husband.

rockychryslerb2010 · June 2012

uncharch7:
ruby soho:
Of course, he is her father. Some of the husbands and dads on this board need an asskicking and reality check
This. I'm floored at the number of dads who haven't taken their child out alone yet. Our babies are closing in on 6 months old!
DH is actually out with DS now, they went to breakfast and to get the car inspected. They go out very regularly together during the week when they're home together (wakeup-1230) and on the weekends when I'm working or need a break.

I think it is just a different way of doing things. I wouldn't want to take E with me while waiting for a car inspection, so why should H? We just schedule these things so one of us or the nanny watches E. I know H is perfectly capable of taking him places alone, we just chose not to do things that way. When I need a break, I leave the house and they hangout together there.

iluvmylab · June 2012

jsgrl613:

I don't understand why this is such a big deal. I rarely take the baby out alone, either. It seems like a pain in the butt to pack up the baby and put him in the car just to say my husband has taken him places alone. He works longer hours and it's harder for him to get off work so I'm the one who takes the baby to most doctors appointments. We have in-home care, so we don't have to drop him off or pick him up anywhere. I can't think of a situation where it would make sense for my husband to take the baby out on errands when the baby would be perfectly find staying home with me. And when I have to run errands, I leave him home with my husband.

This is how I feel. The baby can't "do" anything, so packing him up and taking him places just for the sake of doing it seems silly to me. DH spends alone time at home with the baby all the time. If I want to go out shopping for instance or to the gym. I wouldn't expect DH to take LO on his errands any more than he expects me to take him on a shopping trip. It's just easier and everyone is happier if baby can stay at home if possible. But we do go out shopping and eating out together.

When LO is old enough to actually do things, I'm sure we will take him out more. Plus, it's been freaking hot as heck here the last month, so I'm not too keen on leaving the AC house at all to be honest....

Kelly1109 · June 2012

Actually taking the kids out of the house to do things without me? Maybe once or twice. I know he did take DD to the zoo last year once w/o me and I was bummed! I wanted to do that with them but couldn't because I was at work.

However, spending time alone with them w/o me? Lots! He has stayed home on days when daycare was closed many a times because he has an insane amount of PTO days & I used most of mine for maternity leave. He also gets up a lot of mornings before me and will let me sleep in and does the morning duty of diaper changes, feedings, etc. He has also stayed at home with them while I'll go out shopping, run errands, etc.

I think there is a big difference between saying going out with them alone and spending time alone with them. My husband is a great daddy and spends lots of time with the kids, even though he might take them out of the house alone that many times.

uncharch7 · June 2012

rockychryslerb2010:

I think it is just a different way of doing things. I wouldn't want to take E with me while waiting for a car inspection, so why should H? We just schedule these things so one of us or the nanny watches E. I know H is perfectly capable of taking him places alone, we just chose not to do things that way. When I need a break, I leave the house and they hangout together there.

For us, nothing would ever get done if we're trying to schedule something when the other is home. DH works 4-10s, so he's off on Fridays and uses them to get stuff done. He's not home in the evenings when I am, so it's just me and DS-I try to save all errands for the weekend and get them done in one shot, but it doesn't always work that way. I work on Saturday mornings usually, it's a tossup between whether or not DS comes with me or stays home. I don't necessarily love taking DS grocery shopping with me on Sunday mornings, but I also know DH needs some "me" time.

rockychryslerb2010 · June 2012

uncharch7:
rockychryslerb2010:

I think it is just a different way of doing things. I wouldn't want to take E with me while waiting for a car inspection, so why should H? We just schedule these things so one of us or the nanny watches E. I know H is perfectly capable of taking him places alone, we just chose not to do things that way. When I need a break, I leave the house and they hangout together there.
For us, nothing would ever get done if we're trying to schedule something when the other is home. DH works 4-10s, so he's off on Fridays and uses them to get stuff done. He's not home in the evenings when I am, so it's just me and DS-I try to save all errands for the weekend and get them done in one shot, but it doesn't always work that way. I work on Saturday mornings usually, it's a tossup between whether or not DS comes with me or stays home. I don't necessarily love taking DS grocery shopping with me on Sunday mornings, but I also know DH needs some "me" time.

This makes sense. DH and I work the same schedule pretty much, so we both have evenings and weekends off. I think some (not necessarily you) were implying that there is something bad/wrong about fathers who have not taken their children anywhere alone yet. I don't think that is a fair measure of a good dad - H spends plenty of time with E at home or when we are out and about together, and that makes him a good dad. I know he can handle taking E out somewhere alone, just for us, that situation hasn't really come up more than once.

uncharch7 · June 2012

rockychryslerb2010:

This makes sense. DH and I work the same schedule pretty much, so we both have evenings and weekends off. I think some (not necessarily you) were implying that there is something bad/wrong about fathers who have not taken their children anywhere alone yet. I don't think that is a fair measure of a good dad - H spends plenty of time with E at home or when we are out and about together, and that makes him a good dad. I know he can handle taking E out somewhere alone, just for us, that situation hasn't really come up more than once.

It's just shocking to me that so many fathers haven't, but you're right, it's not a fair measure of being a good parent. It's so second nature to us to take DS out alone that it's hard to think of things being different. I do tell DH regularly though that I'm glad he does take DS out alone, it gives him an appreciation of the difficulties/obstacles of going out with a small child so he's a bit more understanding when there's hiccups in a morning out and can help plan/prepare more for when we're all out as a family.

beka0404 · June 2012

Nope. Up until recently she was still nursing every 2 hours so I've had to be with. I'm comfortable with our current situation. I'm confident that he'll take her out and about as she gets older.

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