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Rant **Pg mentioned** (long)

asglover514asglover514 member
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Okay to keep the background as short as possible: We had a group of friend who were living with us (meaning my family because my FI moved in with us but that's a whole-nother complicated story).  They lived with us for a while, one girl W on and off, L for about a year and a half helping me help my step-mom through her first deployment, and C a friend of my step-mom's from HS.  My step-mom is prescribed Percoset (narcotic pain meds) for back pain from a tumor she had. L's bf moved in with us after a little while and suddenly my step-mom's meds started to go missing.  L freaked when asked if she knew anything and they left. W went with them. C followed shortly after.

Okay now my rant. I feel like if I don't put this somewhere I'm going to go off on someone soon.

L claimed to be Pg last July before I found out about my first Pg.  At this point she was gone and we weren't talking to her.  When I got my first BFP she somehow found out and started slandering my name and my family's saying my step-mom owned a w***e house and I sleep with every guy that goes in, that's how I got Pg and I didn't know the father (100% false!) So within 2 weeks her life goes from Pg, no h/b, wait never mind baby is fine, due early June. W openly admitted to my cousin that L lied the first time she said she was Pg to keep her bf around, then got Pg for real.  This was all around the time I m/c my first pregnancy which I found out recently she said I deserved to m/c.

Well just before I lost Aaron my step-mom started talking to C again to get money that C owed for a TV her son broke.  When they all found out about Aaron they suddenly cared again, sending sympathy and C even organized a car wash to help with Funeral expenses.  Don't get me wrong, my FI and I greatly appreciate everything everyone has done for us but now we're waiting for them to turn around and say we owe them something.  We appreciate it but we haven't forgotten or forgiven them for all the hell they put us through before.  

On top of that everyone wants to talk about L's baby and now W is expecting and honestly I don't care. I just lost my son and the last thing I want to hear about is how L can't go into labor even though she's tried everything or how W is going to u/s appointments with 2 or 3 different guys cause she doesn't know who the father is.  After Aaron's funeral we came home (where everyone just happened to be) and all they talked about was L wanting her baby here and how she's tried everything to dilate and make him come.

Like I said we're grateful for all the help they put in with the car wash and making money for the funeral and my family may have forgiven them for the past but my FI and I haven't not do we intent to.  And we're supposed to be having a thank you BBQ Saturday and if all I hear is about L's baby or W's Dr's appointments I may just hurt someone.

Okay rant over...just needed to get that off my chest. 

Stephanie Lynn 
*BFP3:7/10/14 EDD: 3/19/15--Renley Alexander born 3/12/15!!*
11/17/14-adopted a furbaby named Luna (born 9/05/14)
BFP2: 11/25/11-Aaron Alexander born sleeping at 31 weeks on 05/31/12
BFP1: 07/28/11-EDD:3/19/12, natural MC 09/12/11 at 12 wks-HB and growth stopped at 6wks
S&A together since 05/14/11

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Re: Rant **Pg mentioned** (long)

  • mollywobbles13mollywobbles13 member
    I'm so sorry. That's a crappy situation to be in. I can only say that right now you deserve to feel however you want, and if that means kicking everyone out if they start talking about L's baby then so be it. I found after Ellie died that my feelings (and my husbands) were far more important than anyone elses. We did (and will continue to do) things that make life easier for us. If that means stepping on someone elses toes, then oh well. We lost a baby, we deserve to try to make our lives as good as possible considering the circumstances. Let us know how it goes!
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    I agree with PP.  I'm sorry you're in that situation, but I agree that you should be able to feel what you want and if you don't want to be around conversations like that, it's absolutely your right.  I hope it ends up going ok.
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
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  • tubbsy32tubbsy32
    exactly...do what you feel. don't keep it bottled up, you are going through too many emotions about losing your son; you don;t need to deal with nonsense from them. i'm sorry u r going through any of this. ((hugs)) good luck and let us know how you do.
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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member
    Sometimes you just end up in a room where uncomfortable conversations are happening, despite your best efforts to avoid this stuff. In fact, it happens to me a lot. I just walk out. Even if that looks weird, it's better than me sitting there and enduring it. I wish you luck!
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  • asglover514asglover514 member
    I haven't killed anyone and will probably be spending the rest of the night away from everyone.  To put it simply I was surrounded by a lot of people I absolutely hate, who I know are only pretending to care.
    Stephanie Lynn 
    *BFP3:7/10/14 EDD: 3/19/15--Renley Alexander born 3/12/15!!*
    11/17/14-adopted a furbaby named Luna (born 9/05/14)
    BFP2: 11/25/11-Aaron Alexander born sleeping at 31 weeks on 05/31/12
    BFP1: 07/28/11-EDD:3/19/12, natural MC 09/12/11 at 12 wks-HB and growth stopped at 6wks
    S&A together since 05/14/11

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