Kissing: Repost from Toddler 24+ board (for STMs)

music247 · June 2012

My daughter will be 3 in July, and she's always been SUPER attached to me. To the point where I couldn't leave her side to run to the store, go to the bathroom, etc. Even when she was around 2 months old she didn't like anyone to hold her except me. Yes, even my husband.

Well, recently she's into this kissing thing. Not regular kisses. Long kisses. Ones where she wants to hold my face. I know she gets it from tv, because everytime someone kisses on tv (yes, even the Disney movies), she comments on them kissing. She doesn't kiss anyone else like this. Not even my husband. As a matter of fact, she won't voluntarily give ANYONE a kiss, except for me. And it's usually long, and sometimes afterward she'll tell me "I love you".

Is this normal? I know she's only showing her love for mommy, but I don't know if I should turn away her kisses and show her more appropriate "mommy/daughter" kisses, or what!

sassysally1 · June 2012

I personally think it's ok. I'm sure she'll grow out of it soon and as long as she isn't doing it to inappropriate people, I think it's ok. If you are uncomfortable with it, maybe find the times that she's seeing this, like during a Disney movie, to point out that is how adults kiss when they love each other like Mommy and Daddy.

kincaid44 · June 2012

It is definitely normal. My daughter is the same way. I just have explained to her that kissing other people like that wouldn't be appropriate.

music247 · June 2012

It's not making me uncomfortable, but I worry that:

1. She'll think this is how you kiss...everyone

2. We'll be at the store, church, etc. and she'll want to plant a long passionate kiss on me.

3. Someone else may see her kissing mommy and quickly judge and turn a harmless situation...ugly.

OceanLover26 · June 2012

Totally normal! Both of my boys went through that and they are out of it now. I just told them "no, we do not give sugars like that, we do it like this" and then demonstrate what is more acceptable. Only took a few times of repeating it for them to understand. Now they are into hand shakes since they see their dad shake the neighbors hands and his friends too.

mrsjenni · June 2012

My daughter just turned two a few weeks ago and does this exact thing. I don't think she gets it from movies, I think she just thinks it's funny. She'll grab my face and kiss me and keep her eyes open wide and then start laughing. I don't mind... I think it's cute. Unlike you, she does do it to my husband as well. We say "Brynn is 'making out' with me again, watch out!" I think it's perfectly normal and completely fine.

AmberMH08 · June 2012

don't worry about what others will say your LO is just showing you that she loves you... My son only kisses me like that when he really really wants something he's not supposed to have aka-playdough or icecream lol

Twizzle · June 2012

My son does this with me too. I know it is from watching me and DH kiss because he wants to do it more after he sees us. Yesterday we were out at lunch and he was being especially lovey and kept saying, I want to kiss you on the lips!

Usually I will just give him a quick peck on the lips to appease him and then tell him that mommy likes it best when he kisses me on the cheek and only daddy kisses me on the lips. He's never tried to kiss anyone else like this so I'm not worried about that. I also know that many little boys want to marry their mommies so I think it's pretty natural and not a big concern.

orange_roses · June 2012

I think it is normal to go in and out of these stages.

My DD (5 years old) has gone in and out of these long kiss phases. She is back into it now. I explain to her that it makes me uncomfortable and explain that although we love each other, it is a different type of love. A little worse is that she loves to kiss friends she "loves." At her 5th birthday party, her and her best friend (a girl) decided that before she blew out her candles, they were going to kiss (and even more surprising, they kept it a secret). They wrapped their arms around each other and kissed. Then she blew out her candles. A few of my friends got the picture... it was cute and funny at the time. But we again and the talk about how we kiss friends that we love and relatives that we love.

jw87 · June 2012

Perfectly normal. Our son has done it to me and my DH. It's not something weird or uncomfortable for him and normally if the kiss is getting to long, I usually laugh and say "okay mommy needs to breath!" It's rare, and he's just being goofy/loving.

myluckypig · June 2012

It is totally normal and when DD does it I think it is so cute and I get the biggest kick out of it. She doesn't do it in public but if she did I wouldn't really care. She is still so little that it does not weird me out at all!

Daniellekrista · June 2012

I actually remember doing this as a kid. My dad just said, "That is how you kiss boyfriends." I never did it again.

cchill01 · June 2012

I'd just enjoy the kisses. DD doesn't like me to give her kisses and she only gives them out occasionally.

mrsmklynch · June 2012

My son did the exact same thing at around the same age. He would grab my face and plant a long, hard kiss on me. He grew out of it pretty quickly though. I'd say it's totally normal and should pass soon enough. Hell, just be glad that you're getting kisses. DS is almost 6 now and I'm lucky if I can even get a hug!

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