IRL friend totally crossed the line..

tayray1 · June 2012

or did she? Set me straight if I'm being melodramatic. Been close"ish" friends with this chick for 10 plus yrs..she gets mad at me every few months for not spending enough time with her, and spending more time with our other mutual friends, ( 1 in particular who is my BFF)..I usually deal with it, but this time I couldn't take it, and was like " I don't want to meet up with you if you are going to blame me for shiit again.." and thus launches this whole text fight in which she spews, "Guess what, I'm having a boy. H and I are thrilled! I will announce it however I want. Babies are a blessing. I will not feel like I have to walk on eggshells around you anymore"!

Say what? Did you just throw your pregnancy in my face?! This fight had nothing to do with her pregnancy..and she totally dropped the "boy" bomb on me..endless to say we agreed to not be friends anymore. I just don't feel like she get's me, or my situation..am I a total ***?

Nanners1007 · June 2012

I think that she crossed a line. No one should ever throw fertility issues in your face as a way to hurt you. I would C*nt punt that Biatch.. Just saying..

Juicy71 · June 2012

Nanners1007:
I think that she crossed a line. No one should ever throw fertility issues in your face as a way to hurt you. I would C*nt punt that Biatch.. Just saying..

Agreed!

MonsterBean3815 · June 2012

I think she crossed the line. No matter how angry you are, I don't think pregnancy or lack thereof should ever be thrown in someone's face... Ever! I wouldn't want someone to feel that pain even if it was someone I no longer wanted to be friends with. I'm sorry you are going through that! Sounds like a crappy situation!

imwithrebel · June 2012

Any comment that is tailored to specifically hurt someone you're close to because you know what struggles they're facing or what upsets them is definitely crossing a line. It sounds like you'll be better off without her in your life.

daisiesr4ever · June 2012

I think she totally crossed the line....not cool at all.

whoberry · June 2012

imwithrebel:
Any comment that is tailored to specifically hurt someone you're close to because you know what struggles they're facing or what upsets them is definitely crossing a line. It sounds like you'll be better off without her in your life.

Well put rebel! Also, she sounds like a drama queen anyway. Good riddance!

Ms H13 · June 2012

whoberry:

imwithrebel:
Any comment that is tailored to specifically hurt someone you're close to because you know what struggles they're facing or what upsets them is definitely crossing a line. It sounds like you'll be better off without her in your life.

Well put rebel! Also, she sounds like a drama queen anyway. Good riddance!

Couldn't have said it better, Rebel. Also going to quote brooklynpaisley and call her a total douche canoe.

I really think going through something like IF lets you know who your true friends are, it's obvious she is not.

LtlAngL · June 2012

Wow. Really? Why would anyone think this sort of comment would be a good thing to say to someone? IF is a medical condition. Would this beeyatch tell someone with cancer "I'm sooo healthy I don't want to deal with you and your cancer anymore!" You better not EVER forgive her for this. She is not your friend. Multiple throat punches are in order.

JaeMae · June 2012

I think she crossed the line, how cruel of her. I am so sorry that this happened. If this was my "friend" she would not be in my life anymore after that.

notquiteblushing · June 2012

She is not your friend nor is she a good person. You are better off.

alpCRNA · June 2012

This would have made my blood boil! I can understand someone not wanting to walk on egg shells because I would be ecstatic if I was pregnant, but it should NEVER be used to intentionally hurt someone.

Hinessn · June 2012

Thats way way over the line in my opinion! I would not be able to help myself, I would probably drive over to her house to b!tchslap her and then just walk away. Thats just a really awful thing to say and only an awful person would say it.

You're so much better off without her!

lesleyzeb · June 2012

Ummm yeah that totally crossed the line. Obviously if she pouts and gets mad at you for "not spending enough time with her", comparing herself to your actual BFF, then she's not that great of a friend in the first place. I'd totally write her off and be thankful that's one less freakin' baby shower you have to go to....

buckeyebaby814 · June 2012

You are not being melodramatic and she absolutely crossed the line. I would definitely cross this friend off your list. I've had a friend like this in the past and I found she caused me more grief than friendship. What a b!tch for throwing her pregnancy in your face. She is clearly way too self absorbed to be a good friend to anyone. Sorry you had to deal with that.

ChrisH22 · June 2012

Wow. I'm glad you made the decision to be through with her! Like someone else said one less baby shower you have to go to!

JSG8tr · June 2012

Line totally crossed. You are better off without a friend like that.

tayray1 · June 2012

Thanks everyone for the opinions..she did text me a few hrs later and tried to backpedal..I told her that I thought it was best we have some distance for a while, so I can really figure out how I feel about our relationship. I never thought it would be this hard..IF is one thing..but now I will lose friends because they can't understand the sensitivity behind this issue?!

Raggedy1 · June 2012

Friendship OVER. It's sad that you're losing a friend, but IF will be something you always carry with you and if she can't/isn't sensitive to that then you don't really need her drama in your life. I like what PP said about it being a medical condition. If you had hit the wall and decided it's over with trying for a bio child - would she have said the same thing? Why is it different? You don't need her.

LyssRob · June 2012

lesleyzeb:
Ummm yeah that totally crossed the line. Obviously if she pouts and gets mad at you for "not spending enough time with her", comparing herself to your actual BFF, then she's not that great of a friend in the first place. I'd totally write her off and be thankful that's one less freakin' baby shower you have to go to....

This is what I was thinking!

I'm sorry...its hard to fight with friends (or lose a friend, for that matter).

Jezebell26 · June 2012

That was a low blow. Someone did that to me once and I remember that pain. It stings in a different way. In my opinion IF is not something we can control or fix so we shouldn't be held accountable for it. No one should make you feel bad for what is going on and Im so sorry she did that to you. That is just unexcuseable and she purposely hit you where it hurts. You are better off without this so called friend. Big hugs to you!

daisy19782011 · June 2012

dawn2zzs:

Nanners1007:
I think that she crossed a line. No one should ever throw fertility issues in your face as a way to hurt you. I would C*nt punt that Biatch.. Just saying..

Agreed!

Agreed here too! The fight had nothing to do with babies or fertility and a true fiend (fight or no fight) would never hit that low below the belt just to hurt you. That is just hateful. So sorry you had to deal with that!

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brookelynpaisley · June 2012

BrazilianPeach:

tayray1:
Thanks everyone for the opinions..she did text me a few hrs later and tried to backpedal..I told her that I thought it was best we have some distance for a while, so I can really figure out how I feel about our relationship. I never thought it would be this hard..IF is one thing..but now I will lose friends because they can't understand the sensitivity behind this issue?!

I'm sorry you are going through this. I think she understood the sensitivity just fine, especially if she tried to backpedal. She got mad and and said what she knew was going to hurt you the most. I never thought people like that make good friends anyway.

(((HUGS)))

Agreed. Don't you dare forgive that girl. Back pedaling or not, if she had the audacity to say those hurtful words to you, she is NOT the kind of person you need in your life. That is absolutely heinous to say to anyone, friend or not. To make Ms H happy, that snatch is a douchecanoe.

GraceInCA · June 2012

I sometimes like to watch catty teenage girls from a distance because they're entertaining, but I don't have any interest in befriending them. Consider yourself lucky that you found out, instead of wasting more of your time with this girl-child. Just walk away and cut your losses. It's not worth it.

Aurora1181 · June 2012

horrible, horrible, horrible! It would take a lot to get to forgive someone who says something like that. I'm just going to "ditto" what everyone else has already said- she seems like someone you can do without.

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