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abbyful
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How on-board is your SO?
abbyful
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We just finished Bradley Birth Classes last week. I'm lucky that DH is 110% on-board. In fact, I think he's even more into natural childbirth than I am now! We're delivering at a hospital, but he's mentioned a couple times lately that for the next baby, if I'm up for it, maybe a midwife/homebirth would be nice. (Our Bradley instructor had her most recent child at home.)
It's funny because when I first got pregnant and started thinking about natural childbirth, he was like "um... ok... whatever you want I'll support you..." and though he didn't voice his opinion on it, I think he probably thought midwives and homebirths were things crazy hippies did.
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Re: How on-board is your SO?
Glad your husband got on board! Mine was the same as yours--totally on board after our Bradley classes.
Which I have to tell you, REALLY helped me in transitioning, which I got "trapped" in for a long time after an already lengthy Natural Alignment Plateau. I was begging for it to be over, telling him that I didn't want to go on, etc. (Only I wouldn't use the word epidural.) He just stuck to the script and only said supportive things, which is so, so important. Transitioning and the NAP are an especially suggestible time--anything negative said to you (i.e. "she's so tired!") you can/will easily believe.
Tell him to stick to the script and remove all negativity from the room. If YOU end up making the decision on your own, he will know if/when you are for real.
My DH was all, "why wouldn't you take the drugs. Why go through the pain if you don't have to? But it's up to you"
Then at our childbirth class they went through the risks of an epi. Then he was all, "i'll support you whatever, but hoorah for med-free."
Then we had DD1 and it was a great natural birth.
When I was pregnant with DD2 I was talking about the upcoming birth and said, "I think I might go for an epi this time." (I was just teasing to see what response I'd get.) and he was all, "ahhh no. why would you do that?"
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He was very supportive of my decision to go med-free when I was pregnant (even though I eventually ended up requesting an epi). From the very beginning of my pregnancy, he always said "you're the one going through pregnancy, you're the one going through childbirth, and everything is completely, 100% up to you. I'll support you in whatever decision you decide to make." That being said, when he saw how much pain I was in, he gladly agreed that I should get an epi. We've talked about our son's birth, and I told him next time I want to have a doula. When I asked for the epi, I had been laboring for 19 hours and neither of us had slept in almost 36 hours. We were both so exhausted and couldn't think clearly anymore, and I think the support of a doula would have been very beneficial.
I'm so glad your husband is so supportive!
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Mine seems to be 100%, but I can tell he's a little unsure. We are having a hospital birth solely because of finances, and for like reasons, no doula or midwife. So I really need him to be my advocate with the doctors to express that I truly do not want to be medicated unless absolultely necessary.
I worry he's not up for that; he doesn't seem to believe me that the epidural, inducement, and cutting are done without discretion to get as many mommas in and out of the hospital as possible, and that he's not going to question these decisions once they're offered to me.
I don't know. We'll see. We missed out on the Bradley classes in our area, mainly because I didn't think they were offered, and when I found out they were I was too far along and they were too full. I think that would have helped.