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Military Wives..

Kyla SiscoKyla Sisco
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Any of you lovely ladies have DH leaving soon (or later) for the first time or remember what it was like the first time?? How did you deal - having really hard time hubby is leaving in a month or so!
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  • desmerelda317desmerelda317

    I definitely remember the first time DH deployed.  It was hard, I won't lie.  The night he got on the plane I cried like a baby and cried myself to sleep.  I stayed home the next day and kind of moped around the house.  I always give myself 24 hours to feel sorry for myself right when DH leaves.  Then, the day after I pick myself up and re-join society. 

    The important thing is to get your feelings out, if you're feeling sad or upset when he leaves then don't keep it in, but you can't live in pajamas, hiding out from the world forever so at some point you have to make yourself get up and leave the house and either go back to work or find things to do to keep busy.  I had a job, so I went back to work but I also started taking ballet classes because it was something I'd always wanted to do and I did it just for me.  Halfway through the deployment I planned a vacation trip to Germany and Austria . . . you don't have to do anything huge like that, but definitely plan something for the middle of the deployment to look forward to . . . it is a smaller countdown than the one til DH comes home.  Also, keep in touch with the other wives and husbands in the community whose husbands are gone.  They are HUGE source of support for you and you'll all get through it together.  And really I was surprised to find that the one of the worst parts was the time leading up to the deployment.  The anticipation is really hard, but once he's gone you get to look forward to "hello" instead of "goodbye."

    I hope that helps.  You will be okay, I promise.  The first time always seems the hardest but you'll be amazed at how strong you are.  My prayers are with your DH for a safe return home.

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  • shaysmom05shaysmom05 member
    I understand what you are feeling. My DH is leaving in March for the first time. He'll be missing DD's birthday and the birth of our next baby. It is hard to deal with. I just remember what it was like while he was in training. Also, I suggest (if he has a computer and depending on where he's going) both of you get webcams. That's how we're going to see and talk to each other through alot of this. If you need, send me a private message and I will email you or add you to my myspace. We can talk more there. GL!
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  • ameliadaisyameliadaisy

    My DH has been in training squadrons for about 2.5 years now so he has not had to deploy yet. I am due in March and we move to North Carolina in May and he is deployable once we get there.

    I feel so fortunate that he has been around thus far. And I am even more thankful that he has been around for my whole pregnancy and definitely will be here for the delivery.

    The web cam idea is great! 

    So for those of you with children who have had your husband deploy- how has it gone? Do you feel like a single parent while he is gone? Is it difficult once he returns?

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  • Jason'swifeJason'swife
    I don't know how you ladies do it. I don't know if I could handle it. Please thank your husbands for their service. And thank YOU for supporting them.
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  • shaysmom05shaysmom05 member
    imageameliadaisy:

    My DH has been in training squadrons for about 2.5 years now so he has not had to deploy yet. I am due in March and we move to North Carolina in May and he is deployable once we get there.

    I feel so fortunate that he has been around thus far. And I am even more thankful that he has been around for my whole pregnancy and definitely will be here for the delivery.

    The web cam idea is great! 

    So for those of you with children who have had your husband deploy- how has it gone? Do you feel like a single parent while he is gone? Is it difficult once he returns?

    It does feel like you are a single parent. DD is old enough to realize that Daddy is gone. I just let her know that he's at work. During his last field exercise, that lasted a month, I would let her talk to him on the phone every day. And we said prayers for him every night. Also, when he deploys, I am putting up a paper chain. One link for every day he's gone. Before bed time, we'll take a link down. It does take some adjusting when they come back. You are so used to doing everything on your own, that they kinda feel left out. It'll take a little time, but things do go back to normal. :)

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  • Roothie427Roothie427

    I am always the one on the other side of this...I have been in the army for 8 years now and it is always really hard to get deployed.

     Thanks to all of you ladies for supporting your men...I have seen too many friends come home to wives that have moved on in their absence.

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