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Miss my DH (vent/whine)

chouli77chouli77
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My stepson is in Little League and its reached the end of the season, but they made the regional championship tournament level. I attended every single game up until last Thursday, but now I am too big, swollen, crampy, etc. to sit in the bleechers for 2+ hrs. I totally support DH still going to all the games, but it takes up every weeknight now that they're at this level. So they come home from work/school and head right out to the game until 10pm or later. I regret sitting here at home alone. Sitting, b/c if I stand up too long, my cervix starts hurting bad. I miss him. I want his attention and I feel guilty for that.

If SS's team makes it to the final tournament game it is on Saturday, that's the day after my c-section. I did tell DH I want him to go to the final game. He said there's no way he'd leave me right after LO is born. I told him its only for a few hrs and there would be nurses at my call if I needed something. LO and I will be napping and BFing. He thinks I am a bizarrely wonderful woman for "letting him" do that. I see it as the right thing to do. But emotionally....I still miss him.

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  • jamiah18jamiah18 member

    That's horrible timing! You are definitely being an awesome wife and I give you lots of credit:)

    Just hang in there and take it day by day! 

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  • notfrancienotfrancie
    That timing sucks!  You are a wonderful woman for letting him do it.  I am sure he and your SS will look back and appreciate the sacrifices you have made.  To me, this is just a very accurate predictor of what a terrific mom you are going to be!
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  • chouli77chouli77
    Aw, thanks, ladies. I needed a pep talk.
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  • acbfreireacbfreire member
    If it makes you feel better, my DH is 8.5h away for work until 2 days before my EDD. My OB thinks I am not going to make it that far... So basically I am home alone, no family around and possibly going into labor early...
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  • FemShepFemShep member
    Of course it's natural to miss your DH, especially as pregnant, uncomfortable, and anxious as you are.  For the record, you are being an awesome wife and mother!  I'm sure your DH and SS appreciate it (even if they don't say it).  As someone with a fantastic stepdad and an amazing DH who is so good to my DD by my first husband, thank you for being so considerate.  It really will pay off, I promise.  You rock!
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  • linds0130linds0130
    Coming from someone who is a stepchild, you are doing more for your SS than you are your DH.  I don't know how old he is but he will always remember that you didn't take his dad away from him during an important time.  Way to take the higher road and do the harder thing so that DH and SS could share these special moments!  If they make it to the final game and you are sitting there alone in the hospital for a few hours and feeling lonely, just think about the impact you are making on your SS and making him feel important instead of making your husband have to choose and then your SS feeling like his dad was forced to miss out on his younger years.  

    Sorry for the ramble, I am just really happy that a stepmom would make this sacrifice!
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  • chouli77chouli77

    imagelinds0130:
    Coming from someone who is a stepchild, you are doing more for your SS than you are your DH.  I don't know how old he is but he will always remember that you didn't take his dad away from him during an important time.  Way to take the higher road and do the harder thing so that DH and SS could share these special moments!  If they make it to the final game and you are sitting there alone in the hospital for a few hours and feeling lonely, just think about the impact you are making on your SS and making him feel important instead of making your husband have to choose and then your SS feeling like his dad was forced to miss out on his younger years.  

    Sorry for the ramble, I am just really happy that a stepmom would make this sacrifice!

    He's 11 and I've been his stepmom since he was 5. DH and I have 50% custody/visitation. Our relationship is good, but I am definitely the stepmom (he calls me by my first name).  I am always conscious of doing right by him and showing him affection appropriate for his age. For example, when he was 4 and 5, we'd cuddle. But now that he's a big boy we just hug a few times a day, and I tell him I love him, and I'll kiss the top of his head. I just want to do the right thing because I know its so common for kids to resent stepparents.

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