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Godparent question - WDYT?

Tippy05Tippy05 member
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I'm Catholic and am trying to decide who to have as DS2's godparents.  It's important to me to choose someone who will raise DS in the Catholic church should something happen to DH and I.  I want to choose someone who is active in the church already and who attends mass regularly.  The problem is, none of my siblings go to church anymore and DH's side is not Catholic.

One option is to have my parents as godparents, which is fine, but.  Another option is to choose one of my siblings even though they aren't as good about attending mass as I'd like.  We all grew up in the church, but none of them go anymore and that's kind of an important "requirement" for me in choosing a godparent.  I suppose it's not that big of a deal since going to church doesn't make you any more catholic than being in a garage makes you a car, but it would be nice.

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?  Any other Catholic momma's in the same or similar situation?

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  • MelissaMisoMelissaMiso member
    I would choose who you want and explain clearly what your wishes are if anything were to happen to you and your husband. Likely, nothing will happen, so in the rare case that someone would have to step in they will know how you would like your little one raised. You're no doubt picking someone who will love your child and guide them with strong morals. Trust in those people and in your faith.

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  • jlsweetsjlsweets member
    Your situation sounds just like mine! I had a very conservative Catholic upbringing and we never missed Church on Sundays. My parents are extremly religious and practice faithfully however my sisters no longer do. Not that they don't believe in the Catholic religion, they just never go to Church or practice. My husbands side practices no religion. None of my friends are very religious and the ones that have a religion don't go to Church or practice. Soooo with that I am still choosing one of my sisters and my husbands best friend. All though they may not be active members anymore they are both very spiritual and great people that I know would be a great influence in my son's life. They know that its important to me and would be very supportive in a Catholic upbringing. My parents are the most religious out of everyone I know but I really didn't want to have to pick them. Hope this helps in your decision, I totally know where you are coming from! :)

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  • benz2010benz2010
    How old are your siblings? I feel a lot of people go through a period of not attending church. I have and now we would like to go but with 3 kids 2 and under its really hard. But before that I wasn't good with going but as I age I have been more interested in going and finding my way through Christ. I guess I'm saying I wouldn't base it on the here and now, they could start going to mass/church more in the future. But definitely express your feelings if something were to happen to you and how you'd like your child raised. And then ask if they are comfortable with that and could abide by it. If not then you have your answer, and have to respect it. When you decide who you wish to raise your children if something were to happen to the 2 of you, you have to have it in writing and signed, you could probably put your wishes in that too.
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  • winter-shockwinter-shock member

    First I am not catholic, but we had a bit of a similar situation.  For us we viewed the godparents as people who our girls could talk to and have spiritual advice and someone they could potentially go to church with.  We are United.  Anyways for our DD1 I did choose my sister and BIL. They do not go to church but the thing that was important to us is they have the same spiritual views that we do, they just simply don't attend church.  

     This time was our problem.  We wanted different godparents for DD2 so we had decided my parents would be best.  They go to church with us and my mom and I are super close.  But my mom and dad declined...I know right?!  They didn't want the other set of grandparents to have a reason to be upset, and they are probably right they likely would have been.  We ended up going with my aunt and her partner, her partner just so happens to also be the minister at our church.  My husband and him are quite close and I have always been super close to my aunt. 

    In short we decided it wasn't a big deal if they went to church, it was just more important that they have the similar thoughts and beliefs as we do. And even then I just wanted people who would give advice but also encourage our girls to explore different faiths and find what suits them best. 

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  • JennyJensingJennyJensing member
    No one in our family really practices, so for me it was about choosing people I love that I think would raise my LO in a similar way me and my DH will. I think this is a very specific case and you have to decide what you can live with!
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