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Does anyone else have a frustrated husband?

Dana&PeteDana&Pete member
in May 2012 Moms
DH has been so good and interested in helping with the baby. But unfortunately he is not able to calm him when he gets fussy. He tries singing, rocking, walking, but the baby just wails and DH gets very frustrated and just hands him over to me. He says he feels like a bad husband and father because he can't be of more help. Anyone else going through this? Advice would be great, or just let me know we're not alone!
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  • Jess & DrewJess & Drew member
    DH had some trouble at first and just wasn't quite sure what to do. The hospital showed us a video with the 5 S's from "Happiest Baby on the Block", and that really helped my DH. It was like handing him an instruction manual on how to help calm a baby. After that, he was almost excited when she would cry so he could show me his "baby calming moves".
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  • MrsH11710MrsH11710 member
    Yes!! I could have written the exact post. My poor DH wants to be so comfortable with LO and he just gets too anxious with her. I keep telling him that it will take time and practice but he feels defeated. I wish I knew how to boost his confidence. 


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  • JennyJensingJennyJensing member
    DH AND I feel this way. Sometimes I feel like I'm just not cut out for this and feel so defeated! We took childbirthing and breastfeeding classes and I've always babysat, but it's been such a while and we didn't take any actual infant care classes--we come up empty many times! I'm definitely going to Google the happiest baby on the block and appreciate any other suggestions or tips. You are not alone!!
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  • jewinkeljewinkel
    So glad to see this post. My husband was at his wits end last week and was really frustrated that he couldn't help soothe our LO. What I've started doing is having him take over when he cries to practice the 5 S's and I have him take LO in the mornings before he goes to work when LO is in a good mood. My husband told me this afternoon that his "good" alone time with the LO in the mornings helps his confidence to soothe later on. I usually do an early morning diaper change and feed and then my husband takes him from 7:30-8:45am so that I can get an hour of uninterrupted sleep.
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