OK if mom hosts baby shower?

bluemommy · June 2012

Ladies, what are your opinions on this one.

Thanks in advance!

olaurenlive · June 2012

my mom is hosting my baby shower. i see nothing wrong with it she is super excited her first grandchild. she knows what i like and how i like things and my friends mostly all live out of state or have their own families and new babies so she was more than thrilled to give it. besides for me i dont feel as bad that its my mom spending money rather than someone else

oncoRN · June 2012

I believe etiquette/Miss Manners would say no, but my mom/MIL hosted my shower yesterday...most of my other family is out of town and my mom was so excited to plan it

It's VERY common around my area to see the mom/MIL hosting, I've actually never been to a bridal or baby shower where the family didn't host or at least weren't involved with the cost somehow...

Vive · June 2012

As in your mother, or you as the mother of the baby to be...

Personally I don't have any issue with the first, and depending on how the second one is approached I have limited issues as well. My mum was the official host of my baby shower (although it was held at a friend's house), but she had never hosted one before do I got a lot of say in how I wanted things to be run etc. I'm not sure how it would fly over in the US but I think here it was perfectly acceptable the way it was done.

megs52881 · June 2012

This is the norm where I live. Being that you are asking about your mom not saying you as the mom throwing it.

BransonsBecca · June 2012

For my side of the family, my mom and 2 sisters are hosting. Most of my aunts, friends, etc, live about 45 minutes from where we and mom live, so the shower is going to be at my mom's house so I don't have to drive far.

temporalrobe · June 2012

my mom and mil hosted mine.

OUKatie · June 2012

This really depends on where you live and what is common in your circle. Where I am, it is unheard of to have your mom or another relative host your shower. Showers are hosted by your friends or your mom's friends. Since my mom's friends daughters are also my good friends, mine was hosted by a combination of the two.

My mom is as excited as any grandma-to-be could possibly be but it never would have crossed her mind to host my shower. It just isn't done here. I would be taken aback if I was invited to a shower hosted by a close relative, mostly just because I've never seen or heard of anyone that I actually know doing it.

allardr · June 2012

I agree it's where you live. In my area it's more the "norm" to have mom host it than anything else. Plus I know my family/friends aren't the follow etiquette to the T so they wouldn't care. I think the only real no-no is hosting it yourself.

caralck · June 2012

My mom doesn't live here so it would have been hard for her to be the host. And she has serious memory issues so it would have been another challenge too for her to do it on her own. And honestly, I was afraid that MIL would invite her friends to my shower if she hosted it, particularly one lady who is nice but kind of creeps me out. I think MIL doesn't particularly enjoy spending time with her but has stayed friends with her.

uppereastgal · June 2012

OUKatie:
This really depends on where you live and what is common in your circle. Where I am, it is unheard of to have your mom or another relative host your shower. Showers are hosted by your friends or your mom's friends. Since my mom's friends daughters are also my good friends, mine was hosted by a combination of the two.

My mom is as excited as any grandma-to-be could possibly be but it never would have crossed her mind to host my shower. It just isn't done here. I would be taken aback if I was invited to a shower hosted by a close relative, mostly just because I've never seen or heard of anyone that I actually know doing it.

This. My mum is the second coming of Emily Post. It's just not something she would ever want to do or feel comfortable doing. My best friends from childhood hosted my Boston shower and two of my closest friends in NYC are hosting our second shower.

My general rule is you do you, I'll do me. It's not done in my circle, but whatevs.

breannie · June 2012

I may be the only one, but I had no idea that anywhere it wasn't okay for a mother to host the shower. It kind of went without saying here with my mom and I think it is pretty much the norm.

sk8erdevil19 · June 2012

My mom is hosting mine too, but I have been very VERY involved in the planning. I don't mind at all. She works Overnight as an L&D RN so her hours that she is awake is very limited. In my case if she didn't do it I don't think anyone else would have because my family is very scattered. But she is so excited when we first told her she started to plan it. lol. So I personally don't see anything wrong with it.

bluemommy · June 2012

Thanks for your replies everyone!!

Everyone was wondering when my shower was gonna be but no one had started to plan it. My mom had one in the works and wanted it to be a surprise but then ended up telling me yesterday so I wouldnt make plans on that day.

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