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February 2012 Moms
pinkshades05
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MIL Monday
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I don't usually start this post, but since I had a weekend with the in-laws last weekend, I wanted to get this started!
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Re: MIL Monday
My MIL watched my LO while I grocery shopped the other day. I gave her enough milk for 3 feedings, but I only had 2 nipples. I told her that if she needed to give him a 3rd bottle to just wash one of the nipples. I said I usually just use my finger and some dish soap.
She said, "Ewwwie. We don't want a soapy nipple! Can't I just rinse it with hot water?"
What does she think normal people do?! I mean everyone washes their dishes with soap then eats off of them. How is this any different?
She is so weird.
I have an old one but I usually miss MIL Monday so here it is.
When MIL was up for LO's baptism, she took her for a walk. I was happy to let her go, so I started pulling out the car seat to get LO strapped in and ready for the walk. MIL gives me crap and says how she doesn't need the car seat and just puts her in the stroller lying flat. WHAT?! Ummm, no. So I stop MIL and say something along the lines of, "Sorry but this is my decision and if you are going for a walk you are putting her in her car seat first."
Later I hear MIL on the phone with FIL about how I'm too overprotective and obviously a new mom. No kidding! What a biotch...
However, in general my MIL is great!
We visited my husband's aunt and uncle and cousins last weekend. The oldest cousin is married and has one son who is almost two. That child did not stop whining the entire weekend! I can understand the whining when he was tired, hungry, etc. but he was whining all hours of the day because he was bored and his parents did NOT pay attention to him (example: mom sat on the couch watching a movie and dad was on his phone looking at youtube videos). And he had no consistent bedtime, so he didn't go to bed until 11-12pm most nights (and WHINED the entire time, sometimes even waking up DD). I was sooooooooooo annoyed and couldn't wait until they would leave after Day 4 because it was just getting to be too much.
His aunt also made several comments to us--1) it doesn't seem like she's eating a lot (mind you, this child is in the 85th percentile for weight, I think she's fine) and 2) do we always respond to her every cry? Not always, but usually we do. And we were extra vigilant that weekend because we didn't want her to cry excessively and annoy everyone else. So yes, yes we did respond to her cries more often.
Argh, family! You love them and hate them at the same time...
I have like, a million pictures of my son on Facebook. A couple of weeks ago, I was actually on a desktop and had realized that she had tagged herself and my FIL in every single picture of him.
I denied the tags and asked her to please not do that again because I don't know her friends, etc.
She blocked me and deleted me from FIL's friends list. Now she's not speaking to us at all. And because FIL can't stick up for himself, they won't see us. But they want us to drop LO off overnight. Yeah... No.
Wow, what a peach! I am so glad my MIL isn't on facebook.
I just have a short one. We skype with MIL almost weekly. She makes animal noises at DS to try to get him to pay attention to the computer. Most annoyingly, she barked at him last night, and whistled like you would call a dog. Ugh.
This is my concern exactly!!! They think I'm crazy. Oh well
OMG, this made me laugh! I hope she doesn't do this in public XD
My MIL Monday:
MIL hasnt talked to me or even seen me since I started back to work in April. She was/is upset because I wont let her watch DD while I work. She can barely walk (walks with a cane or walker) and cant pick anything up that isnt above her waist because she cant bend over without falling....I wouldnt for a second trust her with my DD's care.
We stopped by the IL's house this weekend so DH could drop off something for FIL. MIL wouldnt come outside to see DD becuase I was in the truck (she told DH it was because she was tired) so I offered to wake DD up and bring her inside so MIL could see her...she told DH no, she was having a bad day and didnt want to "deal with" DD. Then she called DH crying because she never gets to see DD. ugh lady makes me crazy!
I have a strange aunt who we don't talk to much, she's also on my facebook and started "sharing/tagging" herself in pictures of my son (that my mom posted) so the pictures were going out to her weird friends and then they started tagging themselves to my son! I got so pissed, deleted all the tags of course, and sent pretty rude and nasty emails. None of the freaks responded to my email- who tags themselves on a baby thats A) not theirs and b) they don't even know!
Ok so for my MIL story- last Sunday my MIL had her other grandson over and he was sick (mind you she was supposed to watch my son all last week Tues-Friday, for the first time, while I am back work). She was hugging, kissing, and sharing drinks with her grandson. My FIL said what are you doing, you're going to get sick! And she responded with I don't care if I get sick! I'm like gee thanks for caring about my kid, you know you're supposed to be watching an infant during the week and you don't care if you get sick! Now me, my son, and husband are all sick.
I hate that when someone comments on a picture all of their friends can see it. My FIL has commented on some and then all of sudden I had comments from all of his friends. It seems like no matter how high your privacy settings are, FB doesn't want you to actually have privacy. I've been considering deleting my account because of this.
My MIL grievance - two weeks ago the girls had bad colds, and DD2 was choking on the phlegm. The pediatrician said to take her to the ER so I did. They did nothing, sent us home, and now they're both fine. Well BIL's bf told me that my MIL said to her that the reason DD2 got so sick is because we give her cold formula and don't listen to her (my MIL) about how to care for them. She said if I would only listen to her then I wouldn't be bringing my babies to the ER.
First of all, we don't give them cold formula (not that I think that would be bad, they just like it warm). We make a batch in the Dr. Brown's pitcher and then use as necessary and heat it up. We just don't put freshly boiled (as in, fresh off the stove top!) water into the bottle like she wants us to. Second of all, how DARE she say that my baby was in the ER because of me?! I get that we do things differently, but saying that is not okay. I said to H that she's lucky she's smart enough not to say it to my face, and that what she says behind my back is one thing, but that the first time the girls come home and say that she said something crappy about me her access to them alone will be cut off.
I cut my long hair off this weekend. My MIL's comment this morning was.
"You cut your hair off! Well..... it will grow back."
Thanks.
HAHA...my MIL once said the SAME thing to me when I cut my hair off once too...its like gee..thanks for your unwanted opinion.
Mine is more SIL Monday....I always think its a pain when she and her 4 yr old come over b/c she does NOT discipline this child! It has been this way since her DD was a yr old. So LO was sleeping they come in, she goes to look at my DD and see's her diaper is wet (so she says...I wasn't there) and proceeds to wake her up to change her. Then throughout the evening her DD would stand/lean on LO's swing seat, play with her bouncing chair, kick my dog, talk in a shouting voice (while LO is napping again), do cartwheels around the living room, stand up on the bathroom counter, complain nonstop that she's bored etc. Mind you not once did her mother say anything to her. I just don't understand why her mother NEVER brings toys with her to play with!
MIL is moving out of state at the very end of June or the very beginning of July. I am happy about this, but I'm sad for DH. I think he is hurt because she doesn't need to leave; she is choosing to move away from him and DS. She has a good job, and she is moving to take the EXACT SAME position somewhere else b/c she can't stand her boss. She has to work for 2.5 or 3 more years in order to collect retirement from her company, so she's only relocating for that time.
DH was very upset this weekend for other reasons, but when he was venting about that, I could sense the hurt as he brought up the move. His words were, "I'm losing my mom!".
As much as she drives me crazy, I can't believe she would leave her grandson, her son (who has had major health concerns over the last 8 months), and her very elderly parents who are in and out of the hospital all the time.
My sister works with her husband and FIL. One of FIL's friends from work was downloading all my sister's pictures off facebook onto her phone. She would come into work the next day and show them too my sister. She couldn't figure out for the longest time how this lady was doing it. She finally had to completely block her and her MIL's facebooks from any non-friends viewing the pictures and then they deleted everyone they weren't really close with. Who downloads pictures of a work friend's kid?
This is more FIL than MIL. FIL was diagnosed with diabetes. DH and I have been trying to get him to take care of this for months and months now. His sugars were dangerously high when he first got tested. Well, then he got a pill and thought that was all he had to do. We kept pushing him to go back to the doctor because his sugars were still too high with the pill (we're talking in the 200's). So, after months of that, he is told he has to take insulin shots, too.
So, last night they came over for dinner. I made sure to make a diabetes-friendly meal. We ask how the new diet plan is going because he finally saw the dietician. He's not doing it yet!!! Seriously?!?! His fasting sugar was 166 before dinner!. That is 166 while on medication. He shouldn't be above 120 before a meal. How does he not understand the damage that extra sugars in your blood does to the body and that it is not reversible???
I know this is not my health we are talking about, but this is my son's grandfather and my husband's father. He is seriously impacting his own health in such a negative way. It is like he is still in some sort of denial that he can just take medication and not change his eating habits. We keep trying to explain to him how serious the complications from diabetes can be. He just doesn't listen. When he saw his doctor about a month ago and he told him the SAME stuff we have been telling him for months, he was like "Hey, did you know..." - um, yeah! We did know! We've been telling you this for months in the hope that you would take care of yourself. My MIL just kind of shrugs her shoulders.
I am so frustrated with this. My DH would be devastated to lose his father. I really don't want to have to see him and DS go through a loss too early because he refused to take care of himself. And there is nothing I can do about it except keep trying to offer information. It's driving me crazy....and honestly, it is making me a little angry.
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Are you my sil?? (JK, if you were, 2 things would be true: 1)BIL wouldn't be a giant douchebag 2) I would actually have a sil I would willingly speak to... But I digress)
Hubs and I met 7 years ago... And his dad had terrible sugar problems then. He still has them to this day because, just like your fil, he doesn't take care of himself. Seriously, his doctor has old him "you're committing suicide... Just slowly, and with food". He's been on the shot for a couple years now, simply because he won't get it under control. If he would, he could go off meds completely. (he did this once... For A few months. Then it was right back to the old habits because he "didn't like denying himself")
We tried and tried to get fil to help himself... But he won't. Mil doesn't help him either, she still cooks what he wants instead of what he needs.
Hubs has finally just come to terms with the fact that, while it sucks, this is his dads own selfish choice... And we can't do anything about it. Even having grand kids hasn't made fil want to change.
Unfortunately, you can't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do... And that's a hard pill to swallow.
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