Moms with LOs whose birthdays are close in date?

AimeeL85 · June 2012

Just curious, do you plan to have separate or joint birthday parties for your LOs?

DS was born on New Year's Eve (2010) and this LO is due on New Year's Day, so their birthdays will definitely be very close. Because we don't know when this one will arrive, I think it will be hard to swing a party for DS this year. Maybe we can have a small family party in later January.

I am just wondering for future years what we'll wind up doing. On the one hand I think it would be nice for them to each get their own party, on the other, I don't know if it's fair to expect family/friends to attend 2 parties so close together. We're moving in a few months and won't be very close (about an hour) from most of them.

I have 2 brothers and we were all born in February. Sometimes we had joint parties and sometimes separate, I think. Just curious what others think they will do.

CnAnA · June 2012

::dirty lurker butting in::

Me and my sister's birthdays are three days apart. We shared a party (even the big ones!) until the day she moved out. Now that we're adults and live in the same city again, we're back to sharing a "party." Except now it's just an excuse to get together and grill and eat DQ ice cream cake. LOL

kate3636 · June 2012

once they are older and have their own friends from school to invite we will do separate friend parties. We will always do joint family parties. Their bdays are 9 days apart fwiw.

hayleydeee · June 2012

My kids' B-days are two weeks apart, so I'm planning on doing joint parties. That might change as they get older, depending on if they even want parties. (I always chose a day at Disneyland over a party when I was a kid). But for now it's the plan.

But I'm wondering what to do about gifts! Seriously, their birthdays are months away and I'm already worried about people feeling like they need to bring 3 gifts to a party.

It seems like A LOT to ask. But I don't want my kids to miss out on presents entirely by saying "no gifts". Requesting guests only bring a gift for one kid sounds presumptuous too, because it's still expecting them to bring a gift. How do others handle this issue?

Cherryblossoms07 · June 2012

My kids are 11 days apart and Christmas is around the same time. Right now we are planning on keeping their family birthday parties on their birthdays and separate. When they get older and start having friend parties then we will still have their family party on their actual birthday but their friend party in the summer.

sdo_082989 · June 2012

Right now we just have DD who is 5 months old so I can't say for sure what we will do in the future, but in my house growing up we all seperate parties and it was a big PITA. My dad and 2 sisters are in May and my mom and I are both in August. August wasn't too bad because my moms is the at very beginning and mine is at the very end. May is a nightmare though. We have 3 birthdays, Mother's Day, then the years the 3 of us graduated, and Memorial Day. This year we all decided to just have one big bash for everyone and it was nice. It was a lot of work, 3 different cakes and lots of food but it was all over with in one day.

EnglishMajor03 · June 2012

I am due w/ #3 only a few days after my oldest turns five. I plan to do joint parties for them. My friend has sons two weeks apart and she does joint parties for them as well.

danienross · June 2012

I'm due two weeks before DD's bday and have no idea what we'll do. October is already a crazy month for us (my EDD is the 11th, DH's bday is the 22nd, DD's bday is the 26th, Wedding Anniversary is the 30th and then Halloween). This year I may throw a small family get together on her birthday (unless the new baby is less than a week old). I think every child should have their own first birthday party so next year I know they'll be separate. After that I guess we'll take it one year at a time and decide. DD will be old enough to decide what kind of party/celebration she wants and I'll decide if I should do them together or separate.

atc282 · June 2012

Growing up, I always had joint b-day parties with my older sister (we're 3y 4days apart). My mom would just have a theme that incorporated both of our interests (i.e. pool party, slumber party,roller rink, hair/nail salon, etc). It was always a great time and never did we think we each needed our own party.

My 3 have b-days that are 3 weeks apart and they are different genders (twin girls and a singleton boy) so I am thinking when they're older we'll do separate but I might do joint when they're little as trying to get all of our family (both sides live very far from us) and friends together for 2 separate parties is too difficult, expensive, and I feel it's asking too much of our guests.

AgrippaRidesAgain · June 2012

A friend of mine has three boys with birthdays on Nov 20th, December 16th, and December 27th, and she has one big party for all of them. Since it's holiday season, it's tough enough for people to get out to the one party, let alone for three!

Lately, the boys (now 6, 4, and 17 months) have been choosing to go on trips instead of having parties, which seems like an awesome solution too. Last year they did Sea World. This year they're considering Great Wolf Lodge.

pumpkinwife07 · June 2012

I'm due a few days after DD's birthday this summer. We are planning to throw DD a big bash when I'm 34 weeks (6 weeks before her actualy bday). We've been to a ton of parties this year and she keeps asking when she can have one. It's important to me, she gets a celebration, and that the babies birth doesn't impact her bday.

Not sure what we'll do it the future. I guess it depends on when # 2 arrives.

terpsfan · June 2012

Lurker butting in...my kids were born on the same day 3 years apart, totally unintentionally (different due dates, both spontaneous births). It is also in between T-Giving and Christmas and also happens to be my dad's bday. It's a crazy day! We've only had 1 "shared" birthday so far (well aside from the day #2 was actually born). Their bday was on a weekday so we had a cupcake/singing on their actual bday with just me, DH and kids, and DD had her big preschool/friend party on the weekend. I really have no idea how we will handle, it'll be a year to year thing but I foresee a lot of joint bouncy place/swimming/gym type place parties for the next few years at least.

mrswright2006 · June 2012

We will be doing both ways. DD and DS are 5 days apart, and for DS's first birthday, we had two small family parties, and a family mini-vacation (zoo, hotel, children's museum). I am going to TRY to do family vacations instead of friend parties every other year, so I don't go crazy trying to plan parties every year. If our kids were closer in age (5 days shy of 4 years apart), we would probably do joint parties, but since there is a decent age gap, and a gender gap, I doubt we will do too many joint parties.

MrsBalletStar05 · June 2012

My kids are exactly a month apart for their birthdays...

That first year DS#1 just had a very small celebration. We just went to Chuck E Cheese (ew, I know....) with me, DH, and DS#2 and DH's brother. I made a cake at home. No biggie since DS#2 was 1 month old and time and money were both tight.

Since then, we've done combined parties. They like them. They are fun. We don't have a lot of family here and not too many friends, so they all know the same kids anyway. I figure when they are older we may do separate celebrations if they choose, but for now it works and they don't mind a bit. They share most everything else, so why not?

ETA - this year's most awesome theme is Train Rangers! (Thomas the train and Power Rangers, lol)

dpdw · June 2012

My kids' birthdays are 2 days apart. DS's 2nd birthday was the day I came home from the hospital with DD - for that birthday we had a birthday cake at his daycare a few days earlier and had immediate family at the house on his actual birthday for cake & presents.

Every birthday since we've had a joint party. The only year that it didn't really work was when DS was 4 & DD was 2. I mistakenly choice a party that wasn't age-appropriate for the younger kids. It helps that DD isn't super girlie, so she has no interest in having a "princess" party.

That said, I don't know how much longer DS will want his little sister & her friends at his party. Planning a joint party is way easier than planning two, so I'll do it as long as both kids want to do it.

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