TTC After a Loss

I think I deserve some kind of award (birth mentioned)

So pregnant friend #1 of 4 gave birth on Friday.  I've been dreading this day for several months now, only because I had no clue how I would respond to being around a baby (I hadn't been around a single one since my loss). 

I got off work early, put on my BGPs and headed to the hospital.  I had one small crying incident on the way there, but nothing too major.  Was one of the first in our group of friends to get to the hospital, so I got put on baby holding duty for 45 minutes!  And honestly, I handled it SO much better than I thought I would!  I cried once, but it was really more because someone asked how our IF testing was going.

Then, being the good friend that I am, I volunteered to help clean up the new momma's house.  It seriously took nearly all of Saturday to do (the house seriously looked like something out of Hoarders), and the worst was trying to get the baby's room in order.  I did have to step out a few times just to gain my composure, but thankfully there was no crying.

And now, I have volunteered (seriously, it's like I'm trying to make myself have an emotional break-down) to go over Wednesday to cook dinner for them.  Also, DH hasn't met the baby yet (he was OOT until Saturday night), so I figured we would have to see them sometime this week anyway, may as well be nice and make myself useful.  Luckily, we have somewhere we have to be at 8, so we shouldn't be there too long.

Phew, so glad this weekend's over! Party!!!

Me (28): fine, DH (28): MFI
Married 6/21/09
Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

Current Status: Pursuing Jan '15 IVF w/ ICSI
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Re: I think I deserve some kind of award (birth mentioned)

  • You are nothing short of a hero. I hope she realizes what a good friend she has in you!
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    BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
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  • Totally, I'll call the trophy store and have them get started on engraving one for you! DAMN!
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  • You deserve a trophy. ::slow clap:: I could have (nor would have) never done all of that.
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  • Kudos to you. I definintely don't think I will handle things that well my pregnant friend has her baby.

    TTC since April 2010
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    BFP #2 – October 2011, m/c November 2011
    Surprise BFP #3 – December 2011, diagnosed as cornual, terminated January 2012
    BFP #4 – June 2012, m/c July 2012
    Diagnosed with bicornuate ute and MTHR gene mutation
    BFP #5 – October 2012, missed m/c November 2012
    BFP #6 – January 2013, m/c March 2013
    No longer TTC. Diagnosis: Hostile ute. Heartbroken and bitter. Pursuing surrogacy.
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  • You are nothing short of an awesome friend. Your strength is seriously inspiring. As I was reading your post, I was like, "no way could I have done that"-- but you did it and that makes me think I'll be okay when my cousin has her baby a week before my EDD. Major high-fives to you!
    BFP #1 1.2.12 EDD 9.15.12 :: mmc 2.22.12. / d&c 2.23.12 :: 2nd d&c 3.16.12

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  • You are an awesome friend and I hope she realizes that!  Yes

     Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012

     After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows

    ((BFP 7/29/13))  ((EDD 4/12/14))  It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!

  • It would take a hell of an acting talent for my to keep my composure in all these situations, and nothing less then complete sainthood to keep offering my help.

    And the Oscar, for amazing acting under duress and utter selflessness goes to........... Smootiepie!!!

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    BFP#5: Dec.26.12 EDD:Sep.10.13 MC:Jan.7.13 (4WK6D)-Natural
    BFP#6: Jun.11.13 EDD:Feb.23.13 Beta: #1=8000 #2=24532 US@6wk2d showed 7wk2d size with 143BPM HR * NT US@12wk6d looked good. A/S passed with flying colors and our team color is Blue! *Grow my little Pamplemousse*!!!
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  • imagefunny bunny:

    It would take a hell of an acting talent for my to keep my composure in all these situations, and nothing less then complete sainthood to keep offering my help.

    And the Oscar, for amazing acting under duress and utter selflessness goes to........... Smootiepie!!!

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    This.  Wow.  Truly an amazing, selfless friend.  Major kudos to you!!  :)

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  • Wow- you are a very strong woman!!!!
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  • imagefunny bunny:

    It would take a hell of an acting talent for my to keep my composure in all these situations, and nothing less then complete sainthood to keep offering my help.

    And the Oscar, for amazing acting under duress and utter selflessness goes to........... Smootiepie!!!

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    LOL!

    I'd like to thank my emotions for staying in check and the tears that decided to stay in my eyes!  I couldn't have done it without you!

    Me (28): fine, DH (28): MFI
    Married 6/21/09
    Off BCP and TTC 4/17/11
    BFP #1 (ended in CP) 7/15/11
    Varicocelectomy surgery 9/4/12 - T improved to normal, but still low count

    Current Status: Pursuing Jan '15 IVF w/ ICSI
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers


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  • Wow, I honestly don't know if I could do that. I actually switch my telework days at work, so I wouldn't have to see a pregnant co-worker. Congrats!
    BFP #1 11/27/11 EDD 08/08/12 M/C 01/27/12 12 wks 2 days
    BFP #2 04/25/12 EDD 01/04/13(?) confirmed ectopic 05/16/12 6 wks 5 days 2 doses of MTX-Lost left tube on 05/25/12 Back to TTC, earlier than originally expected.
    BFP #3 01/05/13 EDD 09/17/13 u/s 1/24/13-great appt, measuring 2 days ahead, NT scan 3/11/13-great scan measuring 4 days ahead, A/S 4/29/13-another great scan can't wait to meet my baby BOY!!!!!
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  • I hope they appreciate what an amazing friend you are being!!
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  • You are a GREAT friend. I hope she recognizes and appreciates how difficult all of this is for you! 
    MC 4/09 at 6w2d 
    Rainbow Jude 
    born: 12/31/09
    Pre-E Induction at 36w4d
    11 Day NICU stay due to GBS infection

    TTC#2 10/2010
    M/C: 4/09/11 5w
    CP: 12/26/2011 
    CP: 1/28/2012 
    MMC: 4/16/2012 at 11w2d 
    Ectopic: 6/25/2012 MTX 07/03/12
    CP 11/24/2012 
    Rainbow Violet 
    born: 9/11/13

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  • Wow! I hope she really takes the time to thank you for being a rockstar friend!!! Kudos to you for your awesomeness and grace under pressure!
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  • You absolutely deserve an award!  You are truly an amazing friend.

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