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2nd Trimester
MIL Crib Saga.
Ok, so my MIL bought us a crib. She spent $7.50 at a RUMMAGE SALE to buy it. (mmhmm). SO, she told DH she was going to paint it in a particular way. In an attempt to stop her from completely wasting her time, I sent her the bedding we're using, which is Carter's Love Bug.
So my MIL calls my DH, to talk about how she's going to paint the crib (which she says is with no voc pain, but, yeah right). I said all white is my preferance, because that will match the dresser. Nope. She's going to paint the slats of the crib alternating pink and brown.
I'm trying to be open minded about it, and DH has assured me that if the crib gets her (MIL is in Texas) and I hate it, we can pitch it and get a new one after she leaves, but I'm just really HATING the concept of putting my brand new "preshus babee" in a rummage sale garishly painted crib.
*sigh*
She means well...it's just like after we got married, and she wanted to buy us a wedding gift of new furniture - and by "new", she meant thrift store, and I admit it pissed me off, because if I wanted thrift store stuff I'd have gotten it myself...and I realize I'm sounding like a total snob, but I've NEVER been a second-hand kinda girl, and the thought of putting my new baby in a crib that I have no idea how old it is, who slept in it, what may have happened to it in the mean time, and - you know - just for S&G was probably painted in lead based paint.
Ok. Whiney snobby bizzitch post over.
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Re: MIL Crib Saga.
I am all for second hand, but only if you know the make and model or the crib to look up and make sure it hasn't been recalled (tons of cribs by one maker where recently recalled, and others have been recalled over the years). I would also make sure the slats are close enough together.
I love second hand toys and gear, but I would rather not have a crib than one I don't know the orgin of. (we used a pack n play for DD and will for new baby too.)
That was DH's solution too - since she's been here 1 time in 5 years, it's not like we have to worry much.
The weird thing? She's insisting on coming up to help with the nursery before the baby gets here, but won't be coming back once the baby is born.
She's an odd duck.
WHAT????
Strategy - Let MIL do her thing and be incredibly over the top thankful to her. Display it proudly in nursery and take a picture.Don't talk to her at all about safety concerns.
THEN (and only when she is not around) find something wrong with the crib.. slats, missing hardware, a loose rail, a splintered piece of wood, anything - it doesn't matter. Even better if you can find a recall of the crib, or if it just looks like your crib and isn't the same one. Dump the crib and set up the one you want.
This sounds like somthing my mom would do!
I understand what you mean about wanting the baby not to be in a secondhand crib, everyone around me wants to give me their hand-me-downs but I want to be able to go out and pick out the stuff I want so that the nursery is just as cute as I picture in my mind.
Safety issues would be main concern. Like how old is the crib? It might have been used with lead paint.?
My MIL bought a crib for the baby at a garage sale. I don't know what she spent but the guy had the box and everything repackaged in it along with the instructions and the receipt of purchase. It was from BRU, only two years old, and seemed clean. MIL said she'd take care of it appropriately. I decided to let it go. ?
I'm not a second hand kind of girl either, but I don't think of it as a snob thing. For me it's more about safety. Please be very careful with a crib that was bought at a rummage sale. Everything I've ever read says not to put your child in something (crib, pack and play, or car seat) that either you or someone you know didn't put together. Not only do you not know if it was put together correctly, but you don't know when it was made, it if meets the latest safety requirements, if it was painted with lead paint, if it was recalled, if it was taken care of, etc. To me, considering what the risks could be, it's just not worth it.
DH's grandmother is very simliar and has a pack and play for us that she bought at a yard sale. We've discussed it and we're going to thank grandma and tell her we love it, but then we're going to throw it out. We don't want to intentionally hurt her feelings, but our child's safety is more important. I don't know if I can deal with second hand clothes (I don't even buy second hand for myself) or toys, maybe I'll be able to, but we've got enough friends with kids who can give us their stuff and at least we know they're clean and they took good care of things!
Samantha Skye - Aug 30, 2006 AND Maxwell Griffin - April 14, 2009
Yes, donate something that is probably not safe so some poor people's baby can get hurt instead of yours. WTF?