Trying to be done moping...

Lacyj67 · June 2012

It's not as easy as it sounds. Me and DH have been in a sad funk which has included alcohol most nights. I figure if I can drink I might as well have some wine every night.... Gotta knock that off! Still sad from failed IVF n?mero UNO and having trouble being positive for n?mero dos so any insight could help me get out of this funk right now. I DON'T WANNA BE SAD ANYMORE!!!!!

Ironmom2be · June 2012

((hugs)) I'm negative nancy tonight so that's all I have to offer

I hope you get out of your funk soon

fabulouspinkmady · June 2012

Sorry I can't provide much help, I'm still in a funk from my failed IVF#1 as well. At least you're not alone?

I think many ladies go though this with a failed cycle. I will be excited to start IVF #2, but I don't know when that will be because of $, hopefully July/August. Good luck, I hope you are able to get out of your funk soon

lovekatespade · June 2012

I'm sorry you are so down, Lacy. I went through the same thing. I'm not a mopey woe-is-me type of person, and I was so sad after IVF1 failed I couldn't get off the couch for 3 days. I literally cried for 4 hours straight one morning and then decided to call the counselor at my REs clinic. I saw her the next day and she reminded me that in addition to the emotional impact of the failed cycle (and the additional bad news we got with it), I was coming off of some pretty serious meds. Within a week after that appointment, I was feeling much more like myself.

So, my words of wisdom are to realize that its not just your emotions you are dealing with, its also your hormones. Let yourself be sad. And call someone if you feel up to it. Oh, and nothing is wrong with a glass or two of wine.

Lacyj67 · June 2012

fabulouspinkmady:
Sorry I can't provide much help, I'm still in a funk from my failed IVF#1 as well. At least you're not alone? I think many ladies go though this with a failed cycle. I will be excited to start IVF #2, but I don't know when that will be because of $, hopefully July/August. Good luck, I hope you are able to get out of your funk soon

Thanks I know it will take time tomorrow will be only a week once beta.... Do you know how long they like you to wait before starting another cycle.... I see dr tue so don't know when I start round two yet!

firesiren · June 2012

I'm sorry. I'm doing the same thing This is my second fail. But we really don't count our first IVF. I really thought this one was gonna work. I guess none of us go into this thinking it's not going to work. DH is taking it hard too. He barely talks. It's definitely a funk. If you need to talk you can PM me. Big ((HUGS))

P.S. One thing that's helping me is focusing on my diet (and especially DH's, since we have MFI) for my next cycle. Keeps me busy.

pinkmickey24 · June 2012

It is tough, but the one thing I learned after IVF #1 was to let myself grieve. And with time it will get easier. I also found writing my feelings down helped because it allowed me to get them out. Take care of yourself.

lalee73 · June 2012

I'm sorry you are feeling so down! I'm right there with you. My BFN came on Thurs. I cried for 2 days straight and then had to get it together to go to work this weekend. At first I was so bitter....I am a nurse and I didn't want to take care of anyone, I was the one who needed to be taken care of. As hard as it was, having something to do did help.

I hope you feel better soon, I also have appt Tues. to find out when we can start again.

Whales124 · June 2012

I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I've been there - after my first failed IVF then FET right after I was in a really bad place. I started therapy between the two and that helped a lot. We took some time off before doing IVF 2 and even though it was hard to feel like we were doing "nothing" it was necessary for me to get into a better mindset.

After a particularly bad weekend of hysterical crying and what just seemed like irrational emotions I reached a point where I had enough. I willed myself out of my hole of despair and tried to put one foot in front of the other. It's not easy and you are completely warranted in feeling the way that you do - I just wish you and your DH didn't have to go though this. Good luck and I hope you can find an outlet to let some of your emotions out. Thinking of you!

versace1008 · June 2012

I am sorry, its so upsetting and disappointing and mentally draining to get a BFN!

The whole process is exhausting, especially mentally! It changes you as a person and I swear I am not the same person I use to be and it sucks!!!

I dont know what to say except I am sorry and do what you do to make yourself feel better but you have every right to be sad!!!

Ms H13 · June 2012

So sorry you are hurting. No advice here, just sending lots of cyberhugs.

fabulouspinkmady · June 2012

Lacyj67:
fabulouspinkmady:
Sorry I can't provide much help, I'm still in a funk from my failed IVF#1 as well. At least you're not alone? I think many ladies go though this with a failed cycle. I will be excited to start IVF #2, but I don't know when that will be because of $, hopefully July/August. Good luck, I hope you are able to get out of your funk soon
Thanks I know it will take time tomorrow will be only a week once beta.... Do you know how long they like you to wait before starting another cycle.... I see dr tue so don't know when I start round two yet!

I didn't make it to transfer; our one egg did not fertilize after ER. That was the end of April and my doctor said I could start again early June. I don't know if it is different if you did an ET or not, but FX you can start again ASAP!

thecuddleeffect · June 2012

I am so sorry Sad

I have been a negative nancy recently too, its hard to get yourself out of that funk. I'm glad DH is there to support you tho. A little liquid mood booster is not always a bad thing, I think at least. Good luck with IVF #2, when do you start?

imwithrebel · June 2012

I'm sorry. ((hugs))

Lacyj67 · June 2012

thecuddleeffect:
I am so sorry
I have been a negative nancy recently too, its hard to get yourself out of that funk. I'm glad DH is there to support you tho. A little liquid mood booster is not always a bad thing, I think at least. Good luck with IVF #2, when do you start?

Thanks, not sure when i start again my dr told me summer...? So im hoping july aug... I dont like waiting but i know i need time to heal. Im just reallyreallyreally nervous for number two...tue i will know more. Seeing doc and hopefully he can give me some hope for round two... I know since i didnt respond well to stims its gonna be much more meds this time and more intense but im ready! Hopefully he get my body to produce more then two eggs!Bring it!!!lol

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