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2nd Trimester
MIL leaves me stressed out!!
I don't even know where to begin. I have been having problems with mil judging me based on her relationships with the other sils, and grandbabies, when our baby isn't even here yet. Yesterday was the second time she has made me cry, and dh does not get it at all. Supposidly I attacked her about a carseat. Not true, I said something to her over a year ago re:carseats. Then, all of a sudden us telling her about the pregnancy over the phone/pics via the web, is not good enough. Why? Because we drove to my moms house to tell her. Yet at the time mil told me on the phone how special it was, for us to tell her that way. I guess she just doesn't want me being her grandchilds mom. I have no idea how to deal with her! Dh just says ignore her, which is not going to help things. Yet she wants to put him in the middle of it, and I can't say anything to him without him blowing up on me. I just sent her an email, and I have no idea if she will even read it. I just can't spend the next 6 months, and sure as hell not the next 18 years crying because she thinks " I'm as much of a grandma as anyone else, in fact I'm better then all of the others." WTF? I wish she would realize that I am me, no one else, and that this baby will have 4 sets of grandparents. She can't expect to have the same experience at the same time as all of the other grandparents. Sorry for this rant, it probably doesn't make much since, but I have NO one to talk to. According to dh, I'm just too hormonal, and being silly about the whole situtation.
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Re: MIL leaves me stressed out!!
That really sucks
I'm sorry you have to deal with that! There are some people you just can't please.
I know that I'm a hormaonal mess, but if DH said I was hormonal, the next words out his mouth had better be a prayer, because he'd in so much trouble. Of course you'd like some support and it sounds like you completely deserve it. It's impossible to put stuff like this out of your head and stop worrying about them, but that's my best advice. I just figured out that our lucky little baby will have THIRTEEN grandparents and great-grandparents. My husband and I are lucky enough to have all of our grandparents and parents still alive and within 1.5 hours of us, and they're all so supportive and excited. I can't imagine dealing with all the hormones and issues that come with pregnancy without their support. I'm sorry your MIL isn't adult enough to realize that she's hurting herself with this immature behavior.
On a total side note, we're both due on May 14th, I think. Woo Hoo for us!
LOL. I love this.
I think your MIL is being a drama queen and you need to ask your husband to support YOU in keeping your relationship with her civil. It may be getting to you more because you're hormonal, but a fight about a carseat for an unborn baby is ridiculous and she shouldn't be antagonizing you.
I would definitely distance yourself from her. Be as polite as possible, but don't really involve her in your life. Stop emailing. Email is the worst way to communicate with people like that.
Ahhh. Our MIL's would get along great! I'm sorry you are going through this I know its hard. My MIL is very difficult as well. She doesn't want my DD to call her grandma because according to her my mom is the grandma and there can't be two of those.. wtf?! DH told her that shes going to be called grandma whether she likes it or not and that she better get used to the idea that there will be two grandmothers involved in our DD's life...my mom and MIL. Of course my MIL through a fit, because she also wants to be the "A" grandparent. The woman is crazy!! Anyway always stand your ground with your MIL and when she still gives you a hard time then distance yourself as much as possible. You don't need the bs. GL!