Are you kidding me??

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

Last week my husband and I came up with baby names and agreed we are not changing them because they "stuck" with us. We shared them with our parents who absolutely love the names.

However, last night I shared the name for a girl via txt with my SIL. Her reply:

"NO NO NO!!! You can't use ______ !!! That is MY name I have picked for a girl you cannot STEAL it!!!"

Seriously? I have never heard this from her before, nor is she pregnant, or even married. She claims the name has been picked out for her girl since she "was 10". Luckily, my Mom, and MIL both say ignore her and don't change the name, she can deal with it. I agree, but I can't get over her reaction. Totally immature and selfish to me. It's a fairly common name and it is popular so it's not like I "stole" some obscure name only she would know. Now I am just worried about dealing with drama I do not need from my SIL and I am NOT changing the baby's name. Too bad!

jholz0603 · June 2012

This was an issue for my mom and my dad's sister. The solution: both had daughters named Jessica and Catherine. It made family get togethers confusing but whatever. If you love the name, keep it. She can keep it or change it. The babies will be individuals anyway.

mccrazy · June 2012

Use the name if it's the one you love. She can deal. And if she can't, that's not your problem.

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

jesstevens214:
This was an issue for my mom and my dad's sister. The solution: both had daughters named Jessica and Catherine. It made family get togethers confusing but whatever. If you love the name, keep it. She can keep it or change it. The babies will be individuals anyway.

That's what my MIL said.

Nineoceans · June 2012

I think it is beyond weird when people put dibs on names... I wonder if she would feel like a total jerk if you passed up the name and then she never ended up married or having kids. All around bizarre and I'm so glad you are just ignoring her.

FrickandFrack · June 2012

That's ridiculous of her and not your problem. Keep the name you want and don't worry about it. She might not like that name for her own when the time comes anyway.

jordanali09 · June 2012

How would you know that she had that name picked out? I wouldn't change it and she would have to get over it.

mom2skh · June 2012

jesstevens214:
This was an issue for my mom and my dad's sister. The solution: both had daughters named Jessica and Catherine. It made family get togethers confusing but whatever. If you love the name, keep it. She can keep it or change it. The babies will be individuals anyway.

Same here. I have 2 cousins named Colleen, 2 cousins and an aunt Kate/Katie, my mom and a cousin Kathleen, an uncle and cousin Kevin, and an uncle and a cousin Michael. Apparently we are not very original in our family. Your SIL is being immature and needs to just deal with it. I am glad you aren't caving and thinking of changing the name. She can still use it if she ever has a girl, or she can pick something else.

babymama1212 · June 2012

We didn't even consider the names I was "sure" we would use before we got pregnant. They just didn't feel right. I would assume this will happen to your SIL as well. It will probably be a non issue in the future.

KrissyMiss · June 2012

(Lurking from 3rd tri)

How old is she? She sounds like a child.

KatieM558 · June 2012

I don't understand why people get so possessive over names. Maybe that's just a family thing. Every generation in my family has at least one Katherine, David, and Elizabeth, if not more. My husband is Greek so everyone has the same name! That scene in My Big Fat Greek wedding where he introduces his family with all of the nicks is not a joke! : ) I think you should stick to what you want.

mrebecca · June 2012

iheartfriedmacs:
Last week my husband and I came up with baby names and agreed we are not changing them because they "stuck" with us. We shared them with our parents who absolutely love the names.
However, last night I shared the name for a girl via txt with my SIL. Her reply:
"NO NO NO!!! You can't use ______ !!! That is MY name I have picked for a girl you cannot STEAL it!!!"

Seriously? I have never heard this from her before, nor is she pregnant, or even married. She claims the name has been picked out for her girl since she "was 10". Luckily, my Mom, and MIL both say ignore her and don't change the name, she can deal with it. I agree, but I can't get over her reaction. Totally immature and selfish to me. It's a fairly common name and it is popular so it's not like I "stole" some obscure name only she would know. Now I am just worried about dealing with drama I do not need from my SIL and I am NOT changing the baby's name. Too bad!

This happened to us exactly like you described.

I had just found out I was pregnant, and we decided that we would name our baby Abigail if she was a girl.
My sister, who was neither pregnant nor trying at the time, got so mad at us that she wouldn't speak to us, because she wanted to use that name.
Then she was mad because, since she was older than me, she thought she was supposed to have a baby first.
Now, she and her DH got married in May 2009, and she was on BCPs so she wouldn't get KU... and she even had an affair somewhere along the line.
I married DH in December 2009, so it's not like me getting pregnant was some huge unexpected thing.
DH said she should have been at home f-ing her husband instead of out messing around with some other guy if she wanted to have a baby so badly.

But anyway... I say whoever gets KU first gets to pick names first.

My sister did start trying after she heard we were naming DD Abigail.
She had a boy. He's two months younger than Abigail.

BakerMommy · June 2012

She's got plenty of time to meet and marry a guy who has an ex named ______. Wink

Seriously, how does she even know she'll want to name a DD that name when the time comes? I "picked" my DD's name when I was 15, but when she came out it just plain wasn't her name.

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

mrebecca:
iheartfriedmacs:
Last week my husband and I came up with baby names and agreed we are not changing them because they "stuck" with us. We shared them with our parents who absolutely love the names.
However, last night I shared the name for a girl via txt with my SIL. Her reply:
"NO NO NO!!! You can't use ______ !!! That is MY name I have picked for a girl you cannot STEAL it!!!"

Seriously? I have never heard this from her before, nor is she pregnant, or even married. She claims the name has been picked out for her girl since she "was 10". Luckily, my Mom, and MIL both say ignore her and don't change the name, she can deal with it. I agree, but I can't get over her reaction. Totally immature and selfish to me. It's a fairly common name and it is popular so it's not like I "stole" some obscure name only she would know. Now I am just worried about dealing with drama I do not need from my SIL and I am NOT changing the baby's name. Too bad!
This happened to us exactly like you described.
I had just found out I was pregnant, and we decided that we would name our baby Abigail if she was a girl.
My sister, who was neither pregnant nor trying at the time, got so mad at us that she wouldn't speak to us, because she wanted to use that name.
Then she was mad because, since she was older than me, she thought she was supposed to have a baby first.
Now, she and her DH got married in May 2009, and she was on BCPs so she wouldn't get KU... and she even had an affair somewhere along the line.
I married DH in December 2009, so it's not like me getting pregnant was some huge unexpected thing.
DH said she should have been at home f-ing her husband instead of out messing around with some other guy if she wanted to have a baby so badly.

But anyway... I say whoever gets KU first gets to pick names first.

My sister did start trying after she heard we were naming DD Abigail.
She had a boy. He's two months younger than Abigail.

It is so crazy and immature! She is not anywhere near being ready. I love your Dollywood pic btw!!

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

KrissyMiss:
(Lurking from 3rd tri)

How old is she? She sounds like a child.

26..I was a bit thrown off by the immaturity

hcdmdf · June 2012

I wouldn't worry about it. I had my girl name picked out years ago and my DH loves it. His best buddy's wife got KU and they picked the same name for their girl name. We sat down and had a chat and decided we both loved the name so much (Lily) that if we both ended up having girls there would just be two Lilys. Hey Lily was born Easter and mine is due October and we are both just thrilled to have two girls being similar ages and the same name. When they are together, we will just call our Lily with her first and middle name. This is what grownups do, make decisions with compromise and don't just pitch a fit.

HopeNotLost · June 2012

Am I the only one who wants to know the name??? OP, please share!

As for SIL, she can shove it. I think it's dumb when someone claims a name.

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

hcdmdf:
I wouldn't worry about it. I had my girl name picked out years ago and my DH loves it. His best buddy's wife got KU and they picked the same name for their girl name. We sat down and had a chat and decided we both loved the name so much (Lily) that if we both ended up having girls there would just be two Lilys. Hey Lily was born Easter and mine is due October and we are both just thrilled to have two girls being similar ages and the same name. When they are together, we will just call our Lily with her first and middle name. This is what grownups do, make decisions with compromise and don't just pitch a fit.

HAHA! How funny is that....that's our name :P

chicagobridelibby · June 2012

Just make sure you have your baby first. Sucker!

Bexxy10 · June 2012

I swore up and down from the age of 16 I would name my little girl Savannah Ashley. I said that until I got pregnant and found out I was having a girl. My first daughter is named Ava Marie, and our on teh way daughter is going to be Lulu Jane. Things change when you're actually pregnant, not to mention who's to say she even has a girl. Family or friend, that was the most immature reaction possible for a grown woman to have.

jlh2716 · June 2012

How old is she, like 15? Sheesh...

I say use the name; if she has a problem with it, that's all on her. Besides, it's not like she can't use it later anyway...

LadyNikon · June 2012

SmileyGirl18:
Seriously? How old is she? What an immature reaction. I am glad you are not caving in.

this. I mean really what will she do when her daughter meets another person with the same name? I actually find it cool when I meet people with the same name especially the spelling

ballstar · June 2012

Are you sure she was being serious? You said this was a text conversation. Maybe she was being more "humorous" than would come across in a text?

GHBEA · June 2012

I had two names I was going to use for girls forever, then family had little girls before I did and used the two names. Oh well first come first serve, I came up with other names and survived. She needs to grow up.

graciesmurf · June 2012

If I were you I would look up how many girls in the US already have that name in send her a text back saying... "Guess what! Your secret name is already in use. ___ many women are already named ____."

What she said was so stupid. No one can "steal" a name.

KrissyMiss · June 2012

iheartfriedmacs:
KrissyMiss:

(Lurking from 3rd tri)

How old is she? She sounds like a child.

26..I was a bit thrown off by the immaturity

Wow... Maybe she's feeling a little jealous. Still, that isn't an excuse for her to pitch a fit! She'll get over it eventually, especially when she sees your sweet LO for the first time.

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

ballstar:
Are you sure she was being serious? You said this was a text conversation. Maybe she was being more "humorous" than would come across in a text?

no, she was being serious

RissKay · June 2012

She replied to a post that mentioned the name Lily and said that was their name.

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ourbabyk · June 2012

my sister didn't talk to me for nearly 4 years for "stealing" her baby name... she barely knows her nephew, and yes, she is an adult :P

TaylorP5 · June 2012

Wow she doesn't need to be bringing you drama like that. Maybe if she was pregnant I could see her saying that but shes not so go for it! That is very childish and make sure you don't give in!