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Gonna slap the next person who says to let her CIO
My child cannot cry it out. Not because I am weak or indulgent but because she is self-destructive and crazy. She will scream till she is purple, hoarse, sweating, and choking on her own slobber and this will go on for 45 minutes--- that's as long as I have ever been able to stand it and I didn't have a choice as I was driving. I get so irritated with people because they act like they know my kid better than I do. Now, don't get me wrong because she is spoiled beyond rotten but I don't jump every time she gets a little annoyed. I'm not going to let her scream until she passes out from lack of oxygen though.
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Re: Gonna slap the next person who says to let her CIO
Amen to this one, it doesnt work for my dd at all. plus I dont like at all to have her scream or cry her self to sleep. good job mama you know her better than anyone in this world ever will.
Totally agree with your stance. It sounds like she is a baby who creates tension when crying, as opposed to a child who releases it by crying. I read a really great article about this and found that my twins are one of each. One fusses to fall asleep but the other simply becomes more enraged when fussing and must be calmed via rocking and singing to sleep. You can read the article yourself here:
https://www.askmoxie.org/2006/06/babies_and_cio.html
Maybe it will help you fend off the CIO advocates that are so adamant at telling you how to raise your child. Props to you for standing up for yourself and doing what's best for your child.
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My theory is that some kids are good sleepers and some are not and many are somewhere in between. I don't think it actually has anything to do with the parenting or method involved. See exhibit A - My two year old who still doesn't STTN and needs me right there with him in order to fall asleep, and exhibit B - My 6 month old who has been STTN since 2 weeks.
So I think that many (if not all) of the proponents of CIO had babies like my daughter (or maybe not quite that good) and they just happened to use CIO around when the baby was ready to start sleeping through the night. So they think that's what did it. In fact many CIO people actually have to "re-train" and I think that comes from it not lining up with exactly when the child was ready.
Anyway, moral of the story is that people want a magic fix and since CIO worked for their friend/neighbor/whoever they think it will work for them. If it doesn't work you rarely hear about it.
THIS!! Mommy knows best:)
I've had to let LO cry while I was driving a few times to. He doesn't calm down easy. It concerned me because it was a constanct cry. I don't think I could let him CIO...plus I don't think my downstairs neighbors would appreciate it either. othing wrong with snuggling it out instead of crying it out.
My DD is that way too and there is no way in hell i am going to let her CIO... i can tell when she's just whiny and those times I usually ignore her. but when she gets into a cryng fit the only way to stop it is to pick her up and cuddle and soothe her that way. no way in hell will she settle on her own...
my mom told me to leave her - it;s good for her lungs.
yeah right... coz YOU know her...
It is up to every parent to do what is best for them and their child. I find the best way to avoid reactions like this is to not talk about sleeping habits, etc if you can avoid it. Especially don't complain about your lack of sleep if you dont want unwanted advice.
Not saying you do that- just a point.
God that's how I feel too. It's so irritating when people tell me to just let him cry, but if I KNOW something's bugging him I just can't find it in me to just leave him to be alone when I know I can help him.
Totally agree!!!! I've had the same experience with the crying in the car and other people. I wouldn't let an adult sit there and cry so why would I let my baby. My baby only crys when something is wrong.
If I'm doing something wrong then why do so many people keep telling me I have the happiest baby they have ever seen?
Read Dr Sears.
This! My MIL says "you know, it doesn't hurt them to let them cry..." Ugh! It also doesn't hurt to do what you can to make them feel better! And dammit, it hurts me to hear him cry!