The downside to not looping in family that you are TTC...

BethK22 · June 2012

So, my husband and I decided not to tell our families that we are TTC because we figured it would just be easier that way and would keep the moms out of our business. So last night, I had stopped at my in-laws house and their neighborhood can only be described as Babypaloza - 3 sets of twins have been born in the last 4 months, another set is on the way, 2 more babies under 6 months, and about 5 toddlers (yeah, I drink the water every time I go to their house).

So MIL, meaning well, sees some of these familes and waves them over and before I know it I am surrounded by cutness and promptly handed the sweetest little chubby faced baby to "help me catch the fever". UGH! Loved every minute of being surrounded by the little peanuts, but didn't love all the "When are you going to pop one out? Oh look, you could be like them soon, Don't you want to have one?" comments. I know she meant well, and it's our own fault for not telling them, but dang!

And that's the end of my venting

TaraV86 · June 2012

I know exactly how you feel. We haven't shared with people either. My best friend and cousin are the only two people that know. I am constantly bombarded with questions from co workers, family, friends.... The way I see it though is that if we told them we've been trying for 2 years and all our issues and details, the questions wouldn't stop, they would only become different kinds of questions that I definitely don't want to answer or focus on all the time. So I'm totally fine with still keeping it on the DL.

geana123 · June 2012

its better then telling your family, and constantly being asked if you are KU yet or getting your non baby tummy rubbed !! i could slap a couple of them right about now and its only been a couple weeks! :-)

GrangerWifey · June 2012

WOW can I get some of that water too?? My family must be weird...my parents, brother and MIL know we're TTC and not once ever have they asked us about it. My dad sometimes will say stuff like "I've got a rocking chair, now I just need a grandchild" but he just likes to give us a hard time about some stuff anyway (like how we're not members at the country club where he's the superintendent, or how I'm so picky about the food I eat, etc). It's actually one of my friends and co-worker who asks me about it the most. I'm wondering now why I said anything...

SquirrelGirl522 · June 2012

My dad has created a "race" to the first baby. My brother and SIL got married 9 months before DH and I did. When he went to Alaska last year (I lived there when I was little) for a fishing trip, he came back with a little kids book about Alaska... he said the first one to pop out a grandchild gets the book... I want the book >.<

ruhlinrn · June 2012

Mine is the opposite... Our immediate family knows (and I assume my aunts) but they don't ask about it. It's my damn coworkers who assume that when you tie the knot that automatically means babies. And uts the people i dont even associate with. Ive finally have just started telling coworkers we have decided to put it off for a couple years...(I'm praying it happens before then!)

badrianne · June 2012

We have the opposite problem. We shared way to openly. My DH who ever he comes across (coworkers, long lost friend, etc) intimate details about to conceive. Luckily not about BDing but about me charting, tempting and blogging... TMI. Every comment I have about my body, my thinks is a pregnant symptom. Anyway, I hear you and can imagine it was not a fun experience. There are +/- to telling or not.

Hopefully you'll get a BFP soon!

BethK22 · June 2012

SquirrelGirl522:
My dad has created a "race" to the first baby. My brother and SIL got married 9 months before DH and I did. When he went to Alaska last year (I lived there when I was little) for a fishing trip, he came back with a little kids book about Alaska... he said the first one to pop out a grandchild gets the book... I want the book >.<

Sending baby dust your way that you get the book! I would be the same way, I'm just a little bit competitive

BethK22 · June 2012

TaraV86:
I know exactly how you feel. We haven't shared with people either. My best friend and cousin are the only two people that know. I am constantly bombarded with questions from co workers, family, friends.... The way I see it though is that if we told them we've been trying for 2 years and all our issues and details, the questions wouldn't stop, they would only become different kinds of questions that I definitely don't want to answer or focus on all the time. So I'm totally fine with still keeping it on the DL.

I completely agree. As well meaning as people are with their questions, sometimes they don't realize how insensitive they can come accross. A well meaning friend who had a completely unplanned pregnancy told me I should get pregnant so we could go through the experience together. At that point we hadn't been actively trying, but it had been months of not preventing either. If only it was as easy as just "deciding" to have a baby!

BethK22 · June 2012

geana123:
its better then telling your family, and constantly being asked if you are KU yet or getting your non baby tummy rubbed !! i could slap a couple of them right about now and its only been a couple weeks! :-)

Hahaha! If they are rubbing the non baby tummy, I can only imagine what they are going to do when you have a bump!

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