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I'm sorry, odd(ish) ? -- 2nd tri m/c & need to deliver
I had a c/s w#2 and was hoping for a VBAC this time.
Sadly, things have changed & yesterday, when I had my level 2 u/s, we discovered that #3 had passed (was 18w2d yesterday, she measured 16+w, but it looked like she'd only passed very recently).
Now I need to deliver. I don't know all the options, I was kinda in & out when talking to my OB yesterday, but I'm pretty sure she said my options were induction or being put under for a D&E.
I honestly can't remember which drugs/methods for induction/super early delivery are safe/good(?) if we decide to have another child & hope for a VBAC.
I've somehow lost all my google-abilities and can't touch the VBAC books I have w/o sobbing and scaring my girls, so I'm here, asking.
I think my OB was recommending D&E b/c the muscle & scar tissue around my incision haven't fully stretched, but I might have misunderstood.
MH has very little recollection of the conversation w/ her at all, so he doesn't know if I heard her correctly or not.
tia.
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Re: I'm sorry, odd(ish) ? -- 2nd tri m/c & need to deliver
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I may not be much help but when a close friend of mine lost her baby at 22 weeks she had a foley bulb induction but I don't know all the details. She did have previous sections. I remember her saying that was her best option at that time.
Again I am so sorry.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice, other than to call the doctor and have her explain it to you again so you can make the right decision. They are very used to repeating information after traumatic news. Most people retain very little information when told under tense situations.
T&Ps
I agree with this. I am so sorry for your loss. I had a friend who had a second tri loss and she opted for the induction because she wanted to see and hold her baby. I don't think this was an option with the surgical option where they put you under. She was not a VBAC candidate, though, so I don't know if that changes anything.
I am sure the doctor expects to hear from you agin with many more questions before you make your decision. T&Ps.
thank you all.
I'm actually headed into the office in about 45minutes so I'll be speaking with the OB again then.
I lurked a bit on the loss & the m/c / pregnancy loss boards early this morning (my fabulous neighbor decided 4am was the perfect time to crank the radio while he hooked up his boat ::eye roll::) and I was going to post there, but I felt like I'd probably get more responses regarding a more VBAC friendly procedure here than there.
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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I am so so sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy was a late m/c at 18wks 2 days as well. I had the D&E because I thought that it would be less emotionally traumatic for DH & I. My recovery went well & there was very little cramping & bleeding afterwards (similar to a normal period, but lighter & a little longer).
Good luck! I hope your physical recovery is swift no matter what method you choose. Hugs.
again, thanks to everyone for the kind words & advice. I really wanted to be sure to come back & say thank you for taking the time to answer a question that isn't typically asked around here (at least I haven't seen it in all the time I've spent lurking/posting here).
consensus seems to be that I can do either & it'll still be safe to attempt a VBAC with a later pregnancy (should there be one). I'm scheduled on Monday & Tuesday for pre-op & the surgery, but my body is starting to realize what's going on so we're just waiting at this point.