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I'm SO glad we gave people "Decoy" names! (rant)
When I was pregnant with DS, we mentioned a few options that we were considering to my mom and MIL. When he was born, my mom assumed we were naming him Joseph Derek (which we DID), but it wasn't official. She basically blurted it out when they were taking him to the nursery, and told everybody that was there. She took away DH's chance to announce it, and he will hold that against me forever!
Whth this pregnancy, we just told everybody we had a few names picked out and we gave names that aren't even on our list. We tried telling them that we weren't sharing name ideas, but they pushed until I wanted to kill them. Both my mom and my MIL are already saying "I like this name because..." or "you should name her...". It's so annoying! MIL is even being manipulative and saying "My great aunt was named Emily and she was an amazing woman. You should honor her.". It's getting annoying with the "name her this" "name her that". Had we let them know the names we actually DO have picked out, I would probably get rude and say something mean. Why do people think their unsolicited opinions count when it comes to naming your baby?! Rant over.
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Re: I'm SO glad we gave people "Decoy" names! (rant)
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With my DD, when I told my mom I was naming her Brooke, she told me I didn't know what I was doing, and hung the phone up on me.
this.
Originally, we weren't going to share names b/c we didn't want unsolicited opinions...but we got them anyways.
We ended up sharing our name when we found out it was a boy b/c we knew no one would try to make us change it b/c of the meaning behind it.
HOWEVER, before we shared any names, DH and I came up with "fake" names in case someone guessed. And sure enough, when everyone was guessing names, they guessed our "fake" name and we couldn't stop giggling. And they thought it was going to be that name for sure. It was actually pretty funny.
We aren't telling people either.
My mom was like "I was going to order the monogrammed chair from PBK, but I don't know her name".
Then she was like is it Emily, is it Erin, is it Collette. I'm like no, no, no. Then I'm like I'm not answering you anymore.
People at work want to know the letter it starts with or how many letters. I'm like no.
I did tell someone the close second name "Sadie" and they were like oh - isn't that one of Charles Manson's kills? See this is why I'm not telling anyone. Also the baby's initials are going to be NAW. Not that it's a huge deal, but the middle name is a family name we love and we aren't changing her last name and we love her first name, so it is what it is.
My grandfather told me he didn't like our choice because he had a traditional name (Henning: he's danish) and and got made fun of when they moved to the US when he was a kid - they called him Hen...
Sorry g-pa but Adelheide can be several things and Hen isn't one of them. Addy, Adel, Heidi... not all traditional european names are hard to pronounce or come with silly americanized nicknames.
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I seriously don't understand why people are so pushy with the names. I mean, it's not like you EVENTUALLY won't know. DH and I have kept people in the loop (only when they ask, this info is never voluntarily offered) as far as naming since day one, BUT, we're both pretty good at ignoring any comments or opinions. I've gotten relatively lucky though; no one has said anything ridiculous.
I say ignore it all. Once it's established what your baby's name is, they'll learn to love it. And if they don't...oh well
I made the mistake of telling this lady at work that it started with an "A" and now she shoots A names at me rapid-fire all day. Even if my door is closed. She will poke her head in and holler "Adele! April! Annie! Abbey! Audrey!"
it's never ending - I pass her office on the way to the bathroom and I can hear her the whole way there "Annika! Addie! Augusta! Apple! Andrea!"
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Oh my hell had I thought about Decoy names I would have saved myself ALOT of anger towards my in laws.
We told the in laws our list of names and I happened to tell them which one DH liked the most so they instantly gravitated to that once because "Their son" likes it best. Because of that they have told the world that we are naming baby that. Its such a bummer because it totally takes away our moment if we do go with that name.
People are so rude at times.
We didn't give out DD's name at all! It's different, has a special meaning to us, and we knew that the opinionated people on both sides would say something. We knew they couldn't say anything sarcastic or make suggestions for 'other names' when their grandchild was already associated with the name.
And that's our thought process with DS. You can guess, pester or beg and we won't budge.
We decided not to tell because of what my DH's brother went through with their son. His mother and sisters would hate any name my SIL came up with until she mentioned that it was BIL idea.
We call him Antonio Banderas Carter for now instead of the chosen name. My MIL even went as far to say that she had a dream and the baby told her what his name is going to be, she was wrong of course, but continued to ask if it sounded similar to that name.
I love having this a secret!! I've already decided for the next one, we aren't telling the sex of the baby!
Our situation is similar. My mom made a silly mashup of mine and DH's first names (like "Brangelina," etc.) as a joke, and that's what she calls the baby when she's talking to family and friends. So far, it's turned out to be the perfect distraction; family doesn't ask us about names. When our friends do, we tell the truth, which is that we haven't come up with one yet, and that it'll probably be down to the wire because DH and I are taking two different approaches to finding ones we like?I'm using books and he's convinced that a name will just come to him.
We haven't shared names and don't know the baby's sex either...and it's driving my older sister nuts too. Must be something about those older sisters ;-)
We are really going in for the torture-- DH isn't even going to tell family over the phone after the baby is born or anyone in the waiting room. They will have to come back to visit and see for themselves.
Ughh my dad does this too!! Even though we've told him we have a name but aren't sharing. He calls my baby Cinderella, Molly, and Nicarah which I HATE (it's a mixture of my husbands name- Nick and mine- Sarah) He thinks it's so funny and I find it annoying!!
Wow... Really?! You seem to be one of the only people who feel this way. Announcing your baby's name isn't as importantly as actually naming them. When you have family who pushes you EVERY day, it becomes annoying and yes I have every right to be angry. My child is a human, not a new pet. We won't name her something because we are pressured into doing so. I'm sure if you had to put up with this, you would feel the same.
Well aren't you just a ray of sunshine?! Every single post you've made today has been negative. Either you're calling someone immature, silly, corny, or just in general putting them down. What's your deal?? Is your life really that sad that you have to put internet strangers down in order to make yourself feel better?
I think I smell a troll...
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My husand and I are telling people the name of the baby and our feelings are if you don;t like his name, then oh well. Its our decision. We did not ask anyone for their opinion or their suggestions because this is something that we wante to share together and we don't want everyone esle butting in. I did get lucky however, no one really gave us any suggestions and they were always very positive with the names we were thinking of.
Just go about your business and name your baby what you want and announce it when you are ready. I think maybe it sounds like you should wait until the little one is here and let your DH announce it this time.