Anyone else keeping their names a secret?

rakle99 · June 2012

My hubby and I are team green and am not revealing our names until the baby is born. We are naming the baby after relatives and we do not want any snarky comments. Anyone else doing the same?

melody921 · June 2012

YES! We aren't telling anyone. We did this with DS and it worked out great. I don't even like to get into talks about names that we like bc then relatives and friends start weighing in. You have a much better chance of people being nice about whatever name you choose if it's already attached to your child.

mommybear77 · June 2012

I wanted to but hubby felt we should ask permission to use the names of people.

jessilynnwilliams · June 2012

We are too! (well.. we both told our parents, but that's it.) We love the name and don't want everyone else's opinion on it. And maybe I'm a bad person, but I know a lot of other ladies who are pregnant right now and don't want anyone else deciding they like our name enough to use it!

LittleLocks · June 2012

I was trying to keep it just between me and DH! At first he didn't understand why I wanted to keep it a secret so he'd just tell everyone he met!

1) I feel that it's something special between me and DH! I don't want people knowing what names I'm thinking of or decide on til LO is born! I don't know why.. it's just how I feel!

2) I don't want a million opinions on the name, why it's not good, what would be better, etc! Not everyone will agree and automaticly love or even like the name you choose so you can't win! It's better to keep it to yourself so you don't end up second guessing your choices..

He get's it now since people started driving him crazy w/ opinions.. lol

KatieKim0815 · June 2012

With DS we kept the names a secret and it was amazing. No one even thought about his name when we introduced him (we were also team green so it was all very exciting).

About a year ago in a flourish of excitement of TTC we revealed a few names we loved and a few people turned their nose up at our favourite boys name. No one remembers it I don't think or has brought it up. We've officially spread the word again that we're not sharing this time around. It hurt knowing people didn't like our top boys name. However it's still at the very top of the list. We now just have a few others up there too.

Team Not Share for sure. It's also special to have it just between DH and I.

tinyhumantoe · June 2012

I should have but my family knows and I blabbed it to a couple friends to test the waters. That resulted in some turdy reactions, so maybe I'll keep it to myself.

Then again.... I kinda like making people feel awkward if they can't act like they like someone's baby name. I have heard some doozies and I have never had anything but nice things to say to the parents... it's not that hard.

EmeraldEyedLady · June 2012

With my first I had a LOT of people flat out do everything they could to convince me to change my mind. My step mother actually tried to get me to use a name from HER family because my dad wouldn't use it for my brother.

This time we're team green for the first time and the only person we've shared the names with is my sister. She is due 6 weeks after me and I wanted her to know the names we were going to use so that she would know that I was going to use those names when she started thinking about names. I've also told her that the name could change if it doesn't fit when baby gets here so she's going to give me her top choices when she decides so that I don't use them.

Eaky77 · June 2012

We are! We are using family names for the middle names, that's all our families know. We will tell them the sex, only because my mom and mil want to throw the shower for us, and I would prefer getting girl/boy clothes rather than having a bunch of gender neutral clothes. I'd like to avoid the "is it a boy or a girl" after its born as much as possible lol.

I also don't want a bunch of people giving their opinions about a name we love. I don't want to second guess the names. Plus, its something fun and special just for my husband and I to have for the last few months of our childless lives.

kelnyc · June 2012

We are Team Sneaky, so we know the sex, but are keeping it AND the name a secret. Best decision ever. We get to buy our gender-specific clothes, etc. and no one bugs us with their opinions.

m3l0d1 · June 2012

We did this with our first and will do the same for the sec

m3l0d1 · June 2012

We did this with our first and will do the same for the second one.

mschocokitty · June 2012

We are keeping the names to ourselves so we don't have everybody throwing in their two cents. Our middle name is quite unusual, but we love it. We have been very open about the sex, so at least we threw everyone a bone on that one.

alice2Bcheshire · June 2012

We were Team Green with DS, and only shared middle names (since they were family names). We have mostly kept names a secret this time, too. I've told two neighbors/friends, and we told MIL our daughter's name since we're naming her after MIL's mom (she knows not to tell anyone else, not even FIL). That's it, and no one else will know anything until they're born.

esthergreenwood14 · June 2012

DH and I are also team green and not revelaing the name. With DD we tried to kind of skirt the issue. With baby 2 we are flat out telling people "we are not sharing are name choices."

patientnwaiting · June 2012

People know that the baby is a boy but we're keeping the names a secret until he is born, Before we found out the sex, we were considering different names and didn't like the input some people gave. I have a very pushy aunt who forgets that this is my baby, not her's. Another reason for keeping them is we don't know the name yet. We have 3 choices and when he is born, we'll decide which one suits him.

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brookew86 · June 2012

I've told my mother and FIL/MIL some of our thoughts on the subject, but all they know indefinitely is that the middle name (if it's a boy) will be Christopher after my late brother.

Originally I had a fall back on a junior to my DH, but seeing as there are four other Charles William's in the family and they've recently had trouble with death certificates (apparently my FIL was deceased for while there and they had to fix it to where it said his dad was deceased -- whew, so nuts!) I decided it's a good idea to at least have a different middle name.

Still trying to convince hubby we should be Team Green, but he's being stubborn about it. At the very least we'll be Team Sneaky with some of you ladies -- I don't think I want people to know the sex or the name of the baby. I don't want to end up with any more neon pink gear if it's a girl (I have a neon pink stroller that gives me a headache when I use it in direct sunlight), or camo themed gear if it's a boy (if someone did this to me...I'd be so POed!).

cautionwillburneyes · June 2012

We are team green and we are also keeping our name choices a secret. It's driving my mother bonkers.

pawstech09 · June 2012

I wanted to keep the name a secret anyway, but the fact that we aren't 100% decided has been helping! Whenever someone asks me about names I just tell them we haven't decided on one yet, and just leave it at that. I plan to do this the rest of my pregnancy and announce the official name when he's born.

willowdust7 · June 2012

m3l0d1:
We did this with our first and will do the same for the second one.

This. mainly because I do not want to hear my mom's comments

CraftyKayla · June 2012

Yeah. We told them a few of our choices when we told them about the pregnancy, but they know we've found a few new favorites since then that we're not telling anyone.

Kadyra · June 2012

We're not telling. We are also Team Green. We're not telling because we don't feel like dealing with opinions and criticism. If anyone insists, we tell them it will be D'Brickshaw for a boy and D'Brickshaawna for a girl.

beckpreg · June 2012

We told our names then I wished I hadnt....why do people feel like they get to have an opinion?!? gets on my nerves.

+SleepyJean+ · June 2012

We aren't sharing names either.

1) I know I won't be able to decide 100% until after it's on the birth certificate, so I don't want to have to deal with having to telling people I've changed my mind for the millionth time.

2) I don't want anyone's opinion. Even if people only say nice things, if you say you're thinking A or B they're likely to try to convince you to pick whichever option they like best. I don't care what other people like best, I want what we like best.

3) We're probably going to name after a family member in some way or another. I'd hate to make someone think we're going to name after them and then have to take it back if we change our minds. I also don't want to feel stuck with a name just because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

EverydayMommy09 · June 2012

Yes! We did the same thing with DD, and loved it. No one had any time to think about the name they were just focused on her and accepted the name because, well, they didn't have a choice. That was it!

We will be finding out the sex of #2, but still not sharing our name, or names that are even on our top list. Some of our family likes to throw out names that they like, and if we come across something that we might like we take it into consideration, but don't actually affirm that we like it. Call us team sneaky, haha.

deidra1978 · June 2012

I guess I just have a higher tolerance for not-giving-a-crap for others peoples negative opinons...lol..We have told people our very unique baby names and some people have looked less impressed, but I surely dont care. we LOVE the names, and I would never let anyone change that for me..Alot of people didn't care for my first daughters name Malika (Ma-lie-ka)...but I didn't care, and she gets compliments on it ALL THE TIME, and even from the very same ppl that didn't like at first untill they seen it on her.

ballstar · June 2012

I have to admit that I thought it was a little too AW and precious when friends of mine refused to tell what they were naming their baby, and the first few months of my pregnancy we had decided we weren't going to keep the name secret because we figured what's the big deal.

But over the last few months, the more stories I read here on TB about people's families being out-of-left-field weird and turdlike about the baby's name, the more we're considering not sharing. I'm 99% certain that neither of our families would ever make a mean comment, but I think it'd be easier for us to say, "Meet ________" when she's here and all cute and disarming and people are clear that there's no point in trying to talk us out of a name than to feel like we have to defend the name that we chose for our child if someone decides they don't "get" it or like it. I just don't have the patience for nonsense at this stage of the game. Wink

L8kissie · June 2012

We are too, but my MIL is irritated and wants my husband to tell her. She finds it "stressful" to not know. A guess a little background might be necessary. We're Jewish and I was told by his family that the name would be revealed at the Bris. It turns out that it didn't need to be the whole name, but rather the Jewish name. However nobody explained this to me until I was quite attached to the idea. Therefore my inlaws stayed with us the first week and didn't know ds's name. We didn't tell anyone until the Bris except the birth certificate woman at the hospital. Now poor Dh is all upset because he has to choose between making his mother angry or his wife. I vote his mother.

At least people won't get a vote or a chance to be rude if they don't like it.

iheartfriedmacs · June 2012

We are sharing the names and everyone loves them. It makes it more "real" that we have the names picked out and luckily our family loves the names. Except my SIL is being a bit of a turd over one of the names, but that's another thread

fellinginlove · June 2012

Hubby wants to keep it a secret, but i've kinda had a hard time not talking to my two best friends about our choices :P

misspunky · June 2012

After my mother-in-law decided to blab that we were pregnant at 9 weeks after being told not to tell anyone, we've decided the name is a secret. His mother is quite pissed, and I find it pretty funny

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