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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
JordanL1221
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I'm Really Upset...
JordanL1221
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My SO and I found out our baby had no heartbeat at our 9w4d ultrasound on May 23rd (nothing seemed wrong, no cramping, spotting, nothing). My OB decided not to have me do an immediate D&C and try to wait it out.
I went on vacation over Memorial Day weekend and my OB told me to stop my progesterone supplements on Saturday night and she figured things would progress naturally and I would miscarry naturally this week. She said that if I hadn't started the m/c process by Friday (today) to call and schedule a D&C for Tuesday, June 5th (she does surgeries Tuesdays and Fridays).
I have had no spotting, no cramping, nothing at all. All I can think about is how my baby is still inside of me, I'm still protecting him/her even though he/she is gone. I just want to make peace of this situation and start the healing process and I don't feel that I can do that until the process is finished.
The OB office calls back and says the soonest she can do it, because she is on vacation, is on June 12th. I got really upset at that. I just dislike waiting and dislike that my body isn't recognizing that the baby has already passed away. I just feel stuck, like I can't get out of this nightmare and devastation. Last weekend, I couldn't bear to have a drink or get into the hot tub because I still feel responsible for what is still sharing a body with me. I want to heal, I want to move on and start over.
I'm sorry, I just had to vent and let it all out.
M/MC at 9w4d 5/23/12.
DS1- 8/2013
DS2- 11/2015 (Second round IUI)
DD- 9/2017
Baby #4 Due 5/10/20 TEAM GREEN
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Re: I'm Really Upset...
I'm so sorry for your loss and having to possibly wait for the D&C. Its not fair that your left in limbo regarding the procedure and moving forward both mentally and phycially. Vent here whenever you feel necessary, this board is very supportive and carding.
Like PP mentioned can another physician in the group not do the D&C? What about medication induced?
BFP #1 4/29/12 m/c 5/18/12 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/28/12 EDD 5/10/13 MC 9/22/12 at 6w4d
BFP #3 12/31/12 EDD 9/12/13
Me Dx: DOR DH: all tests normal
Our Pretty Little Nest Blog
Oh, wow hun I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this
I just wanted things to be over too so that I could start to heal and my heart hurts for you knowing that you can't yet. Is there another doctor at the office or in your area that could do the surgery for you? There pretty much has to be... I mean, what if someone needed an emergency d&c while she was on vacation?
Even after my d&c, I still feel uncomfortable doing things that I couldn't do while pregnant. I about had a meltdown earlier b/c I wanted a second cup of coffee. I think this just means we are going to be super parents when it's our time
I hope you're able to have the d&c earlier than the 12th. It's so unfair to have to go through this on top of everything. (hugs)
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
Cycle #1(08/2012): Clomid 50 mg CD3-7, Ovidrel CD13 + Progesterone = It worked!
BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves