MIL rant....maybe i'm overreacting? I don't care, it's my right!

wanticecream · November 2008

My husband's family has a tendency to give EVERYONE two names: birthname and a pet name. The pet name is usually nothing close to the real name. For example Jane will be called Sue. Doesn't even make sense. If they picked normal names, that would be one thing....but for our baby they decided to call him a stupid indian pet name that I HATE. It sounds like someone is peeing. I've asked them twice to not call the baby that because I know that once it spreads, the name will stick. Finally, i gave up and had my husband talk to them. Of course, he can't be firm with mommy dearest. He tells them jokingly and half laughing/half serious that we really don't wnat the baby to be called that name. Today his cousin calls, asking how the the-name-that-must-not-be-used is doing. Then she said that my MIL told her how I didn't like that name. UM YEAH LADY! SO STOP USING IT! It just really irritates me that they know i don't like it and yet they keep doing it AFTER they mention to other people that i don't like it!!

Crissybell · November 2008

That's just rude... When people refer to the baby using the not-to-be-used-name look them straight in the eye and say 'I don't like that name, my baby's name is ****'. If they don't get the hint, then clobber them.

mma1029 · November 2008

do you know what you're having? Is there a chance that they're calling the baby a certain gender specific name and if you have the opposite they'll have to change the nickname? (I know that's a 50/50 shot). That sucks, I'm sorry that they're giving you a hard time about it!

bancbev · November 2008

Ok you know you have to tell us the name now.

Mumma2B · November 2008

Wow I'm sorry to hear that... I wish I had some good advice for you. Hopefully once the baby arrives he/she will be so cute the just can't use the horrible name-that-must-not-be-used.

Neudorfer · November 2008

thats just plain annoying. and rude. and disrespectful. they must think its all in fun. i suggest writing an email- word it very nicely but kind- stating you do not want the baby called that anymore. that way it is in writing, they know you're serious and hopefully will be more likely to stop. you could also try calling mother in law yourself since dh can't man up the balls...

jnealet · November 2008

I want to know what the name is too!! All I can think of is Squat - but that's probably because that's what my dad called me when I was young.

Whatever it is, coming from someone who was called Squat, it makes for funny stories when the baby grows up.

JillBean78 · November 2008

I'm so sick of people and MIL's. Maybe you should give MIL a pet name that sounds like someone is pooping and see how she likes it.

I'm on a huge rant today after being with my MIL and DH's grandma yesterday, they should have my blood pressure up for at least a week now until I get over the 5 hours I spent with them.

laura&dan05 · November 2008

That's annoying! You need to tell your DH to stand up to his mom. When she is doing something that is upsetting to you it's not ok for him to lightly address the situation. If they don't get the hint or listen to your numerous requests to stop using that name I'd think of something really rude/obnoxious to start calling them (her). I'd make sure it was on ther verge of being disrespectful and each time they refer to the baby as XXXX call them by the rude name you picked.

nuttybunch · November 2008

I'd say the next time they say anything about the-name-that-must-not-be-used, say, "Our baby and I are both fine. How are you, Crap Bag?"

mommy411 · November 2008

Call ur MIL troll

itsmevkb · November 2008

I think the best way to handle this would be to confront it head on. The next time someone calls your baby a name they already know you don't like respond with "I'm curious as to why you continue to call my baby a name you know I'm not comfortable with." They keep using the name even though they know you hate it because they think it's funny and they also figure you won't confront them. Once confronted they'll feel pretty stupid and they'll stop using it.

ChiOmegaGirl · November 2008

nuttybunch:
I'd say the next time they say anything about the-name-that-must-not-be-used, say, "Our baby and I are both fine. How are you, Crap Bag?"

Totally appropriate. People are so rude...

FMIL&MOB · November 2008

itsmevkb:
I think the best way to handle this would be to confront it head on. The next time someone calls your baby a name they already know you don't like respond with "I'm curious as to why you continue to call my baby a name you know I'm not comfortable with." They keep using the name even though they know you hate it because they think it's funny and they also figure you won't confront them. Once confronted they'll feel pretty stupid and they'll stop using it.

I agree especially since this cousin was rude enough to use the name knowing full well you asked them to stop. Your H is going to get a new nic if he doesn't stand up for you and this baby. If confronting doesn't work, then refuse to even respond to the name. Stare blankly or say do you mean <insert real name> because I don't know why on earth you would refer to my child by any other name. Rename them all Crap Bag if they continue this outrageous behavior, they deserve it.

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