June 2012 Moms

Feeling bummed and Mom making it worse...

So LO has been measuring behind by a week since our first ultrasound at week 16. They have done ultrasounds every month now to monitor his growth. Last month he fell 2 weeks behind and they said if he fell behind again they would probably have to induce early. When I told my mom this I was really upset because I have been against induction since I found out I was pregnant. I know in some cases it causes labor to be longer/harder and there's a higher chance of a c-section. All of these things I had told her. Well at our appointment yesterday they saw he fell a few more days behind and decided to induce me on June 18. They wanted to do June 11 but agreed that if the next two NSTs come back ok they will hold off until the 18, so only a week early. But they said they won't let me go full term.

So last night I call my mom to let her know the date and everything she said and she just starts freaking out on me about how she doesn't understand why I'm letting them induce me early and it doesn't make sense for them to do this. Then goes on to say "Well you know if you let them induce you your going to have a harder labor and you'll probably end up just getting a c-section". Like I'm not already upset enough that I can go into labor naturally like I wanted to. But I understand why the doctors are doing this and I trust their opinions. Her emphasizing all of this stuff doesn't help me out any, I'm already scared and now she's got me even more stressed... I wish she could have just been supportive

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Re: Feeling bummed and Mom making it worse...

  • Wow, that's a really frustrating situation, and it sounds like she's not being very helpful at all. I'm sorry you're dealing with this... I hope that the NSTs come back ok, so they can at least hold out for awhile.
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  • Aww, that's a tough spot to be in, I'm sorry your mom is making you feel worse. Maybe she is just nervous/anxious for you re: induction & her comments came out wrong?  Hope you feel better soon!
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  • I'm planning an unmedicated VBAC, and my mom is unintentionally unsupportive--she's very apprehensive and questions a lot of the decisions I've made because she had a traumatic birth with me.  I think moms just naturally worry about us. :) I tell my mom only what I think she has to know, and leave the rest out.  As long as you and your H are comfortable with the decisions you make, try not to worry about what your mom thinks.  She's concerned about your and your LO's health and safety. :)
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