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Seriously??!! (venting sorry)

I don't normally discuss my IF at work because honestly I just don't want to listen to everyone's advice.  Well at lunch today I had to tell my work friends that I wouldn't be making it to our end of the school year dinner.  I just simply said that I had a Dr appointment.  (Tomorrow is the u/s to check for follies.)  One of the ladies I eat lunch with yelled across the room, "Dr?  Are you having a baby 'cause you've missed a lot lately?"  Ugh!  Seriously!  Then a lady that I have actually talked to about my situation says, "Not yet, but we're hoping this time it works."  So of course everyone starts with their advice...you know the usual...just relax, stop worrying and it will happen, when you quit trying that's what will work, you should adopt that's how Sherri got pregnant....on and on.  I left in tears.  God, sometimes I really just hate having to be around people. 

 Sorry....I needed to vent. 


*January 2011-Start TTC * June 2011 PCOS Diagnosed *
September 2011-February 2012 medicated cycles with TI
Birth Control February 14th-March 17th
March 2012 IUI #1, CP
April 2012 IUI#2 BFN
May 2012 Starting Femara and IUI #3 IUI cancelled, tried at home instead. Chemical Pregnancy.
June 2012 Femara round 2 and IUI#3 IUI cancelled, TI instead. BFP 12dpo
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Re: Seriously??!! (venting sorry)

  • Sony22Sony22 member

    Sorry to hear Alisha!

    How are things now? I've been lucky, in a way, that I haven't been given too much advice or talked to too many people about our TTC Troubles... The only advice I've heard is "get drunk and do it that way, seems to work for everyone else" ugh!

    Me 33. DH 32. TTC Since 6/2011. 12/2012-m/c, CP. DH: MFI. CCT/HSG/day 3 blood work-all nl. IVF#1 ER- 8/7/12, ET- 8/10. beta 8/25 neg, I did not respond as expected. AMH: 0.88. IVF#2 BCP-10/19. Micro flare Lupron-Nov: It's a bust. IVF#3 Planned for Feb '13 with a long lupron protocol ON OUR OWN!!! BFP- 1/12/13. Yay! EDD 9/18, now EDD 9/25
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  • That would make me ragey, sorry.
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  • It just gets so tiring listening to everyone tell you how to get pregnant.  If that worked, I wouldn't be in this situation, you know?  Ugh.  I'm "lucky" enough to work at a school where two women adopted and then got pregnant right after.  So that's everyone's answer.  Adopt, then you'll get a baby. 

    I always get emotional right before IUI because of my nerves.  I know I shouldn't freak out, but I can only handle so much. 


    *January 2011-Start TTC * June 2011 PCOS Diagnosed *
    September 2011-February 2012 medicated cycles with TI
    Birth Control February 14th-March 17th
    March 2012 IUI #1, CP
    April 2012 IUI#2 BFN
    May 2012 Starting Femara and IUI #3 IUI cancelled, tried at home instead. Chemical Pregnancy.
    June 2012 Femara round 2 and IUI#3 IUI cancelled, TI instead. BFP 12dpo
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  • imageAlisha1102:

     Then a lady that I have actually talked to about my situation says, "Not yet, but we're hoping this time it works."  So of course everyone starts with their advice...you know the usual...just relax, stop worrying and it will happen, when you quit trying that's what will work, you should adopt that's how Sherri got pregnant....on and on.  I left in tears.  God, sometimes I really just hate having to be around people. 

     Sorry....I needed to vent. 

    So this lady answered for you? I'd be super pisst! 

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  • Some people have no tact. I'm sorry you had to experience this Alisha! 
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    7 week u/s revealed THREE babies, all with heartbeats.  153bpm, 148bpm, and 136bpm
    9 week u/s revealed loss of Baby B.  A and C are growing on track.  A measuring 9w1d with 172bpm and C measuring 9w0d with 179 bpm.  
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  • alb245alb245 member

    I'm so sorry. That is so incredibly frustrating. I feel as though Im getting closer and closer to telling people about our IF but stories like this remind me that I need to keep it a secret as long as I can. Its so hard to keep my mouth shut when ALL my coworker talks about is her pregnancy. I had to walk out of the office today when she was complaining about how much it's going to suck to have a winter baby!  Ughhhhh!  

    (((hugs))). I hope your day brightens up soon. 

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  • So sorry!  That sucks.  Can't believe your other co-worker decided to chime in, this would have been the time for her to stay quiet or change the subject!  It's so frustrating.  Sometimes I wish people would just shut it!  Hope your day gets better.

     

    Unexplained infertility; TTC #1 for 5 years
    IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012
    IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????
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  • That is not cool at all.  Are you friends with this co-worker that outed you?   I would say something, that is not ok.   You have every right to vent, I would be really upset too. 
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    That would make me ragey, sorry.

    This exactly. I have gotten to the point if it comes up somehow and people start on their advice I cut them off and say "I am in the care of a specialist because clearly none of those things have worked." And I walk away. By now I really do.not.care. how people see me or judge me regarding the matter. You shouldn't have poked around being super nosy with your questions to begin with!

    Sorry you had a rough day!

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  • Thanks so much ladies.  ((hugs)) 

    *January 2011-Start TTC * June 2011 PCOS Diagnosed *
    September 2011-February 2012 medicated cycles with TI
    Birth Control February 14th-March 17th
    March 2012 IUI #1, CP
    April 2012 IUI#2 BFN
    May 2012 Starting Femara and IUI #3 IUI cancelled, tried at home instead. Chemical Pregnancy.
    June 2012 Femara round 2 and IUI#3 IUI cancelled, TI instead. BFP 12dpo
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  • ksfryeksfrye member
    I had this exact same thing happen to me at work.  Totally annoying!  Sorry you have to deal with ignorant co-workers.
    Happily married Since May 2008. TTC#1 Since May 2010.
    Me: 29, Mild DOR
    DH: 31, SE mostly normal, 1st SE morph 5%, 2nd SE morph 15%...yeah!.
    BFP July 2011, Natural MC August 2011.
    3 cycles of 50mg Clomid = BFN
    *New RE* Feb/Mar 2012 100 mg Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    *3rd RE* April-June -Break Cycles begin prep for IVF by doing 2 Heparin injects daily....fun fun!
    IVF #1 - ER 7/19, ET 7/24, 2 beautiful embies transferred. Beta 8/2 = BFN
    *New RE...yes again* FET Nov 2012 with our lone ranger = BFFN
    RE Suggests Trying IUI Again, Jan. 2013 IUI #2 =BFN
    Feb. 2013 IUI #3 = BFP!!!, Beta #1 (15dpIUI) = 90, Beta #2 (17dpIUI) = 210, U/S Scheduled for 3/18
  • Good grief, what is wrong with people? I would have slugged the lady who outed you ... or at the very least, let her know that was a serious violation and she totally violated your trust.

    Every time I read a story like this, I am happy we haven't told anyone. I wouldn't be able to be nice/bite my tongue/stop de-friending people who made such asinine comments. 

    TTC since 1/11. "Unexplained" IF. 6/12 - 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN. 7/12 and 8/12 - 50mg Clomid + IUI = BFN. Taking a break and planning for a final IUI before the end of the year, but back to considering adoption. Repeat AMH of 0.67, ouch. 3rd try 10/12 - 100mg Clomid and back-to-back IUIs = BFP!
  • I did talk to her after school today about the fact that I have only shared my IF with a few select people for a reason.  I know she didn't do it to hurt me, but she understood by the end of our conversation that she did in fact hurt me and that now people will be asking questions that I really don't want to answer.  Thankfully we are off for summer break after next week.  Usually people are so concerned with their own lives that they'll forget over the summer and leave me alone. 

    *January 2011-Start TTC * June 2011 PCOS Diagnosed *
    September 2011-February 2012 medicated cycles with TI
    Birth Control February 14th-March 17th
    March 2012 IUI #1, CP
    April 2012 IUI#2 BFN
    May 2012 Starting Femara and IUI #3 IUI cancelled, tried at home instead. Chemical Pregnancy.
    June 2012 Femara round 2 and IUI#3 IUI cancelled, TI instead. BFP 12dpo
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