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It's amazing how one comment can ruin your day...

KikiCohenKikiCohen member
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I was actually doing pretty well emotionally these past few days.  I've been staying focused on my appointments next week and praying to get the answers to my questions. 

Today I log on to FB to find that my niece posted a ton of new pics of my great niece.  She's only a few months old, so I forced myself to look at the pics b/c honestly I want to see how she's grown since we saw her last month.  I was FINE until I read a comment on one of the pictures where someone said how much my great niece looks like her mom.  My niece commented back and thanked the woman and stated that everyone says she looks like her dad.  I LOST IT. :(

I want to know what our babies will look like!  Honestly that's one of the hardest things about our loss... we'll never get to know what the baby would have looked like.  Would he/she have had DH's hair?  My eyes?  Ugh :( 

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  • Mmm79Mmm79 member

    ((Hugs)).  That is just one in a long list of unfair things in this whole crappy experience.  I understand why it upset you so much and how it makes you think about what you have lost.  Sometimes there are so many reminders everywhere, and sometimes we are completely blindsided.  Either way, it often ends in tears.

    We can all relate.  I hope your day gets better.   

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  • megemoneymegemoney member

    I'm so sorry that you had to read a comment that tugged at your emotions.  I have those days as well.  It's funny how some of the littlest things can just tear up our hearts. 

    I hope that you get to feeling better soon!

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  • kiki4kiki4 member
    I'm so sorry. ((hugs))
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  • luvsdogs2luvsdogs2 member
    I'm so sorry Sad  Some days you think you're ok and then BAM the small things hits you upside the face.  ((Hugs))
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  • behapy2daybehapy2day
    I am so sorry. Little, random comments seem to always hurt the most. I hope your day gets better!

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  • panacea05panacea05 member
    I'm so sorry. Grief's a funny thing, the way it can just sneak up on you like that. I hope the rest of your day is happy. ((hugs))
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  • ChloBubChloBub member
    (((((HUGS))))) I'm so sorry. I hate when triggers sneak up on me like that. I hope you have a better day.
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  • BootsOrHeartsBootsOrHearts member
    That happens to me sometimes too. Hopefully over time those things will become easier to deal with. HUGS!
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  • imwithrebelimwithrebel
    I'm so sorry. It is really hard to deal with sometimes.
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  • minicheezburgminicheezburg member
    Oh sweetie I am so sorry, I know we each have different things that upset us about our losses. I am sorry that have to go through all this and hope you feel better soon. Hugs.
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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    imageKikiCohen:

    I want to know what our babies will look like!  Honestly that's one of the hardest things about our loss... we'll never get to know what the baby would have looked like.  Would he/she have had DH's hair?  My eyes?  Ugh :( 

    That was/is always one of the hardest things for me too. It kills me that I'll just never know. (((HUGS))) 


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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    Oh sweetie I am so so sorry.  I wish I had the right words to make you feel better.  I try to comfort myself that I will see my babies in heaven someday, but at the same time that's not really enough for the here and now.  Just try and hang in there, (( hugs))


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  • csspencercsspencer member
    I'm so sorry!
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  • sunsetlovesunsetlove member
    ((HUGS)))... i feel you... sometimes I think about my angels.. and what type of personality would they have.. mine or DH.. it hurts to think I will never know..
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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member

    Thank you all.  I just can't believe how things sneak up on you like that. 

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