Everyone keeps asking if I'm excited

Re: Everyone keeps asking if I'm excited

• melody921 member

  May 2012

  People ask us that too. I am excited, but I don't have to be jumping up and down to express it. I view it more as I'm happy to be expanding our family and looking forward to our little one's arrival.

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• Emilyck83

  May 2012

  It's funny how people expect you to instantly be ready or excited for your first baby.  Personally, it's scary when I think about it too much. 

  Don't worry, I think what you're feeling is normal.  People are just way too judgmental.  Yesterday a man asked me how it feels to feel the baby move and I was completely honest and said that it can be annoying sometimes.  She's getting big enough that it can be pretty intense.  I think he wanted to take away my "mommy license" right there.  He said "I have never heard anyone say that" in an exasperated tone and walked away. 

  

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• Ken&Anna member

  May 2012

  This is something I've wanted for such a long time so I feel like I should be jumping off the walls excited, but I don't feel that way.  I think part of it is that it hasn't quite sunk in... I mean sure I know there's a baby in there because I've seen her picture on ultrasound, I've heard her heart beating and I think I have even felt her moving (for the first time a couple of days ago) but it's still hard to believe there's something in there that's growing and is going to become a little person. 

  A lot of people have told me it won't really hit me until I've been home from the hospital for a few days and feel very sleep deprived.

  I think the other reason I'm not jumping off the walls excited is because it's scary... even though this is something I've watned for a long time, the reality is that this is a huge change and it's going to affect our lives forever and in very profound ways so I think the heaviness of that balances out the excitement I'm feeling.  It's a big responsibility I'm taking on and that's a lot to process over just 9 months!

  
  

  
  

   
  

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• ovechkium member

  May 2012

  I'm right there in that boat with you. I'm not excited, thrilled, upset, disappointed, anything really. My life just carried on, we're just getting ready. I guess maybe because it does take 9 months, the novelty of "OH MY GOD" wears off. I dunno. 

   

  Edit: I'm not saying I don't want this child, because I do, we are looking forward to having him in our lives and loving him to bits. It just doesn't seem real quite yet. 

  

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• rsayad

  May 2012

  Glad to hear someone else thought the baby moving was annoying besides me.  I think people expect pregnancy to be this awe inspiring magical thing 24/7.  Between the gas, constipation, morning sickness, and now hip pains its tough work and not as glamorous every moment as I think everyone thinks.  Don't get me wrong, I'm excited to meet our little girl, just wish there was a way for the magical moment of conception to birth be overnight.

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• milkandhoney77 member

  May 2012

  I get this a lot too. Usually the person asking me seems more excited than I am. And I am really really excited and incredibly grateful, but on a day to day basis it's not really the topmost thing on my mind. I think it's ridiculous people to expect you to be head over heels baby-crazy for 9 months. I have my own life and I expect to have it after baby arrives too.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• KorieAngela member

  May 2012

  Some of the girls I work with have asked me that several times...its kind of annoying lol

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• TreblEM

  May 2012

  We get that too....and this is our second (and slightly sooner than planned). I've had trouble getting as outwardly excited about it. I'm excited about having our little girl and having DS meet her. BUT--I'm hung up on the logistics of it all and that has made me less excited for others to see. I think that as the time grows closer, you'll get more excited. And by that time, you'll be SO sick of people asking you if you're ready to pop or when are you due or are you SURE you're not having twins, that you'll be thrilled to talk about being excited
  

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• MamaDobbs member

  May 2012

  Thanks guys! This has really been helpful. I think it's that it hasn't completely sunk in and the fact that it's going to change my life as I know it. Glad to know it sounds like I'm not the only one who's had these feelings!

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• lisastro member

  May 2012

  People ask me that, too, and I think it's weird.  I am super excited and giddy and all that, but whether I was or wasn't, I wouldn't say no.  There's only one socially acceptable answer.  I guess it's kind of like people asking how are you when they know you have to say good whether you are good or not. 

  

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• mec986

  June 2012

  I'm appreciating this post at the moment!  As a FTM, i'm in the same boat as someone else said...we weren't preventing this from happening but didn't expect it to happen so quickly!  There are moments when I get the super giddy and excited feeling, like thinking about the nursery, talking with my husband about names, and finding out that this baby inside of me is going to be a boy!  But there are also so many moments of fear and wondering how we are going to make everything work.  The practical parts of a new bundle often times outweigh the crazy cute parts.  I am also the first of my friends to have a baby, (I'm 25...so I feel ready but still sometime too young) so I don't have anyone who I can be brutely honest with about the sometimes personal and gross questions.  This board and other boards have been a wonderful saving grace that there are people out there who understand and I feel less crazy to hear I'm not the only one feeling a certain way.

   Thank you ladies for being a support system   I hope that everyone can have a good rest of our pregnancies and that our babies all are born happy and healthy!!

  

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• Daniebanes

  June 2012

  Everyone asks me this!! It is annoying because when they ask me, what do they expect me to say?

  This is my first baby and my answer to them is always the same. "Yes I am excited but I am scared shitless too!"  Haha

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• AnotherPreggo member

  June 2012

  I am in the same boat.  Wasn't TTC, but not doing anything to prevent it, as we had talked about having children soon.  People have asked me if I am excited, and one girl could not believe for the life of her how I waited until the end of the 1st trimester to share the big news.  She was like... I wouldn't be able to hold it in, yadda yadda.  Made me feel like I wasn't excited enough! 

  I am delighted to be having a daughter joining our family, and I don't have to be constantly freaking out over it to know my feelings.  I think the nervousness hasn't sunk in for me yet though, but as the EDD gets closer it for sure will :-(
  

  
  

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