December 2010 Moms
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My husband has two best friends.He is sort of the middle man here. The two other guys don't like each other. Well tonight my husband was talking with one of them & he asked his friend about the girl that this guys been dating. He just simply asked how the relationship was going. Well come to find out the friend he was talking to has been in a 2yr relationship with the other guys Ex.
My Husband says he feels weird now & wishes he never found this out.
He thinks he should tell the one friend,but I say he should stay out of it. What do you guys think?
I hope you understand what I wrote.Its late & I am on my phone.
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Re: Drama
When men have drama, it's drama!
I think he should stay out of it especially since he is good friends with both.
I just couldn't think of another title.
If it was something new, I would say he should probably just tell the friend, but since they've been hiding it for two years, I think he should stay out of it. The other friend needs to be the one to tell him. Not sure why I think the time period makes a difference, but it does to me.
I guess I think friend with an ex will probably react very poorly to such news and I wouldn't want to be the messenger!
I agree with this!
My husband says he just doesn't want the other guy to think that he (my) husband kept something like that from him.
I can definitely understand this and neither position is great to be in, but if he wants to stop being put in the middle, getting further involved here probably won't help. Ugh, men!
This is the only time he has been in this situation(I call it being The Middle man).
I'll be the odd woman out, but I think your DH should tell Best Friend 2 about his ex. It might not go over well, but I think keeping it from Best Friend 2 would be messed up.
On the flip side, I can understand not wanting to get involved. My sister once found out that her friend's husband was cheating and told her friend. Sh*t blew up and the woman cut my sister out of her life. It was her loss though. My sister was just trying to be a good friend. I still think once you find out vital info like that, you should share it with your friend.
This same thing happened to a friend of mine too. She tried to be the bigger person by telling her friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her, but it blew up in her face and then the couple ended up getting married, and they are no longer friends with her.
I think he should probably stay out of it. Pretend he doesn't know!
Its so irritating that people always get mad at the wrong person!
Somehow in these situations the honest friend that is looking out for you is the bad guy and the lying cheater is forgiven! So backwards.
This really is a tough one. I would want to tell my friend and not hide things from him. But being the messenger is a tough job and it could mean losing both of them as friends.