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WWYD: late night away

tlxh7tlxh7 member
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DH, DD, and I will be visiting his parents and BIL & SIL (married) in a few weeks.  SIL joined an adult dance group last spring, and they have their first official show the Friday night we'll be there. She is so excited that we'll be there. I would love to go. But, it starts at 7pm, and will be done somewhere between 9 & 10pm. We would be at least 20 minutes away, probably closer to 45. DDs bedtime is typically around 830 pm. FIL is probably not going to the performance (various unimportant reasons) and has volunteered to watch DD, which would be fine, except for bedtime.

DD still nurses before bed, and it's not something I want to stop just for this one night. I don't think she would do well with a change in bedtime routine in a new place with a new person. I also don't want to hurt SILs feelings, because she is so excited about all of this.

So, what would you do?

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Re: WWYD: late night away

  • BeachBum73BeachBum73 member
    It sounds like you already made up your mind and you don't know how to tell your SIL.  I would just tell her what you explained here.  Can someone record it so you can watch it later?
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  • tlxh7tlxh7 member

    imageBeachBum73:
    It sounds like you already made up your mind and you don't know how to tell your SIL.  I would just tell her what you explained here.  Can someone record it so you can watch it later?

    They're planning on recording it so my FIL can see it, so it wouldn't be any extra work.  I guess I'm just looking for validation that I'm not doing the wrong thing.  They don't have kids, MIL nursed until her boys were about 10 months, and I know they all think it's a little odd that I'm still nursing.

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  • FancyFrenchieFancyFrenchie member
    I nursed until 18 months and nursed to sleep until then, but if there was a situation where I couldn't be there to put him to sleep, then he fell asleep other ways. If you want to go the dance recital, I'd leave DD with FIL. He'll figure out how to get her to sleep. You might be surprised, it could be easier than you think!
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  • judahsmommy1judahsmommy1
    I agree that you DD will probably do fine not nursing with your FIL putting her to sleep. When you get home, you can always nurse before you put her in her own bed. If my DS were still interested, I would still be nursing, but since it's not a nutritional imperative at this point I would probably be less concerned about missing sessions. I would probably make the effort to go support my family member. But I'm not your DD's mommy. Follow your gut.
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    imagejudahsmommy1:
    I agree that you DD will probably do fine not nursing with your FIL putting her to sleep. When you get home, you can always nurse before you put her in her own bed. If my DS were still interested, I would still be nursing, but since it's not a nutritional imperative at this point I would probably be less concerned about missing sessions. I would probably make the effort to go support my family member. But I'm not your DD's mommy. Follow your gut.

    I agree with this and the poster above.  I would go to the show and let your FIL put her to bed.  As above, you can always nurse her when you get home.  I also agree that she might do better than you think.  Again though, it's your family.  It seems really important to your SIL and even though it's awesome that you still nurse, it's not like she's 3 months.  GL with your decision!

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  • tlxh7tlxh7 member
    Thanks for the advice, ladies!  I needed some outside perspective to tell me it will be okay.  You're all awesome (well, except the AEs)!
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  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member

    DD wouldn't go to sleep for FIL.  Well, maybe collapse exhausted, but she has mad sleep fighting skillz, so I kinda doubt that too.  She won't go to sleep at bedtime for daddy either, the one night a week I'm home nearly an hour after we usually put her to bed.  (We do still nurse before bed, if not always *to sleep*.)

    So, for me, it would come down to deciding if it was worth her staying up until I got back (a couple hours past bedtime) to see it, or if I should skip it for her sleep.  That depends on lots of factors around your family, so I can't say really what I would do in your shoes (I don't have a SIL).  For the most part, I choose not to do things that keep me out past her bedtime, outside of the one night a week I'm working (I teach yoga), which we only started doing near her 2nd birthday.  But that is my choice and it does take options away from me.

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