Question from the other side. — The Bump

Question from the other side.

Hello ladies =)

I found out today that I will be (hopefully) beginning a job in August in which I will be working with DCF as a social worker with parents who are adopting children in the DCF system. I will be doing supervised visits with biological parents as well as working with the fostering/adopting parents. (I will be also working with foster parents who are only fostering as biological parents are going to be reunifying.)

I have worked with families in this situation before, but I was always taken out prior to the adoption actually happening, and another SW would step in. I was wondering if you ladies would mind if I lurked and asked the occasional question from time to time being from the other side. I want to be sure that I'm being sensitive to all the parents in the case, and sometimes its difficult to know what to say. I was hoping that I could bring some things to you for input if I were to ever need it.

Thank you!

Re: Question from the other side.

  • Lurk away. Jump in anytime
  • My DH and I are currently taking our PRIDE classes to become foster parents and i look forward to any insight you can provide this board. Welcome!

    Cristina & Austen ~ July 20, 2009

    Me: 25 DH: 24
    TTC since Aug. 2010
    Aug. 2010 ... 17cm tumor removed from right ovary as well as right ovary, Fallopian tube, appendix, and 25% of left ovary
    Sept. 2010 ... E. Coli infection from surgery
    Nov. 2010 ... Start TTC again
    Feb. 2011 ... Find out remaining tube is blocked, IVF is our only option
    Mar. 2011 ... IVF #1 with partial ICSI started, ER 5/24... 18 eggs, 3dt of 3 embryos and froze 6 on 5/27, BFN
    July 2011 ... IVF #2 ER 9/1...17 eggs, 2dt of 1 embryo and 5dt of 2 embryos, embryos on day 5 not to the blastocyst stage so possible egg quality issue, BFN
    Jan. 2012... Bought our first home, IVF put on hold
    Mar. 2012 ... Soft IVF to begin and looking into Foster to Adopt
    ***SAIF/PAIF welcome***

    <a href="" title="Newlyweds"><img src="" alt="Anniversary" border="0" /></a>
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  • Welcome to the board.  I don't mind if you ask questions.
    <a target="_blank" title="" href="">Our Adoption Blog</a>
  • Would love to have you on the board! Welcome!

    :::Our Adoption Journey:::

    Evan James was born 1/24/13 and matched with us 2/20/13. The LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!
  • welcome! i think its great that you are intersted in learning about and being sensitive to all the players involved.

    I've been fostering for a few years now and we recntly adopted our sib group - we plan to continue fostering but arent sure exactly in what capacity.

  • Welcome....
    I have no exposure to Fost/Adopt except with this board and a local acquaintance.

    That said, I'll share an observation that I've while listening to women on this board. 
    It seems like there's lots of room for improved communication between all parties. Bumps in the road are always expected w/any sort of adoption.  As an adoptive parent, I can say that hte worst part about "bumps in the road" is when communication comes to a halt. 

    I hope our dialogue here makes you an outstanding addition to your local team!  You do great work... and maybe the insight of this board will help you understand how important good communication is to the mamas who are in the waiting process :)

    image Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
  • Welcome!  Like all of the pp's I'm excited to hear your insight!  I'm still relatively new to the fostering world (licensed and waiting for our first placement), so I'm interested in understanding all aspects of the system.
  • Thanks for all the positive responses ladies! I can't wait to get to know all of you.
    As of yesterday, I found out that I did get the job, and I'll be starting mid-August. (I have a LO due VERY soon. Tonight I was in L&D because they thought he was coming today! Thankfully he's still stuck in me.)
  • Congrats on the new job!  I'm excited to hear more about it!

    And congrats on continuing to bake your little one!  Although it is exciting to know that he is almost here!

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