Was going to vent, but...

kristin172429 · May 2012

This morning, I was all really to unload on here with a super DH vent because he has been a little flippant/cranky lately and it was really starting to get to me. Coming here helps me unload, see my thoughts from a different perspective, and get some great input/support from you ladies. I made a comment to DH that we needed to talk at some point today because it was really effecting me and we needed to hash it out. Between then and when I was about to sit down and start typing, he came out and apologized!

I don't know what it is, but somehow I found a guy who actually listens. When he came to talk and apologize, he knew exactly what had been bothering me, recognized the behavior, and knew why it was happening (he has a lot going on between illness, possibly losing his job because of illness, and worrying about supporting us with all of that going on since I was laid off). He said he really hadn't intended to take the stress out on me and would be more considerate and careful going forward. I appreciated his self-awareness (even if I had to sort of point out there was an issue). I went from wanting to vent-vent-vent to wanting to give him kudos for being a good guy (and the guy that I know so well - I don't know the cranky guy!).

I was all prepared to have a possibly upsetting talk to hash things out because I wasn't sure if he would see my side to being pleasantly surprised with the issue out in the open and on the way to resolution.

It's things like this that remind me why I keep this guy around. Wink