Troll Update

+j+k+ · May 2012

I decided to tell H. Only because I felt he really needed a reality check. And I made him swear he would not repeat this to anyone ? especially SD ? I didn?t want drama, I wanted him to just see something for what it really is.

So I bring up his FB page, only to find a ?gift? that SD has unwittingly left me. I?ll get to that in a second.

Before I bring up her wall, I ask him, ?When did you talk to SD?? He says in the morning around 10. I said, ?And how did your conversation go?? He says fine, but said he did tell her to not disrespect me or him anymore, that we are her elders, and regardless of how she feels, her behavior toward me is way overboard and completely unacceptable. He said she apologized. To him. Not me. But whatever?

I said, ?Okay. Well, you need to know that did not sink in with her AT ALL and she completely disrespected me again.? I show him her troll comment and her friend?s equally rude responses (who don?t know me at all) and say, ?This was posted around 5PM yesterday ? half a day after your conversation. To be honest, I really don?t care about the comment so much as the fact that she has zero respect for not just me, but you. This and her texts are just like her taking a stick and poking a pitbull. Only this pitbull - or troll ? isn?t playing anymore. But I want you to see who your daughter really is. She really has issues. I?m not saying anything. You should not say anything. It won?t do any good. What you do need to understand however is that this is who your daughter really is, and she?s not a nice person. She is your ex-wife, her mother, all over again. She is doing the very same thing P did am I right?? He said yes. For those that don?t know about SD?s mom, she was a master manipulator and is BSC too.

I told him, ?I think you still need to work very hard on building and having a relationship with her and your grandson. She really, really wants her daddy. So be her daddy. I won?t be a part of it anymore ever again. So you?re on your own on this one. Just don?t make her right by dis-owning her or bringing this up to her.?

As usual, H looked confused and disappointed. Like this is the first time SD has ever pulled something like this. And he had little to say except, ?OK? and how he doesn?t understand why she?s saying this because he thought the conversation went okay.

He said, ?She wants me and her mom to get back together and that?s just not going to happen.? I asked, ?Has she said that recently??. He said no. I told him, ?Maybe when she was a little girl she thought that but now I really think this is about her jealousy toward any woman in your life. She has come between every woman and you. Every single one. And she?ll do it with DD too. Which is why I want DD to have very little exposure to her and I don?t ever want her alone with DD. I don?t want her having a negative effect on DD. DD will NOT become that whether we are together or divorced and I want you to know that I will always teach her that she respect you regardless of how we may feel about one another.

On a side note, H and I have been discussing divorce. Today he said he may stay here and not move back to Texas if that happens. I still have not told him but I think he suspects. He told me I could have it all and he?d just leave. I don?t want it all. I just want out of this hot mess. I am so close to having everything prepared.

DH appeared to agree with not exposing DD to her. I hope so. This is all prep for what is to come and my inability to control who he exposes DD to. DD will soon be speaking coherently and I?ll know if she is ever with SD alone or supervised so I?m beginning to let go of that fear.

+j+k+ · May 2012

I forgot! SD?s ?gift?

So when I pull up SD?s wall she has on there, ?how she wants to punch her kids in the face?. Why? Because they are being five wild boys. I hardly think she was serious, but really, who says that?? And on facebook no less. She then goes on to talk derogatory about their mother and how she wishes people who dump their problems on someone else would appreciate her more.

Oh the irony.

And this is a gift because along with her nasty emails from last month, the unprovoked troll comment, and now this?getting SD named in the CO with limited/rectricted or possibly NO time with DD may be very easy. Not to mention all the other documentation I have on her behavior. I did a Print Screen and it?s in the file. I think I have enough now.

Thank you SD for keeping me current.

So glad this is likely less than a year away from being in my past.