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XP: FTM Baby b-day party questions
jetskreemr
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FTM here with questions about my DD's first birthday party!
Gifts: I don't want people to feel obligated to bring a gift to her party. And I also know that people will sometimes still bring gifts even if you
request "no gifts please", which makes it awkward for gift-bringers and non-bringers
alike. And then there is the fact that I don't want to stifle anything if anyone really WANTS to bring her a gift. All-in-all, I don't want people to stay away due to feeling obligated to bring a
gift if they don't feel like bringing one -- I'd rather everyone just come
and join the fun and who cares if you bring a gift or not. So the question is: if I don't make any reference AT ALL to gifts on the invite, will people assume they HAVE to bring a gift? Or are people more casual about first birthday parties and some bring gifts and others don't, but don't feel pressure to be required to bring one?
Day/time: My DD's birthday is on Friday June 29th. (The weekend before 4th of July.) We anticipate having between 30-40 people there, mostly adults and a handful of kids. Our 2 party options are either to have the party start around 4pm on Friday and have a BBQ and go however long people last, or have it on Saturday from about 1-3pm. DD naps around 10:30-1:00 every day. She does not take a second nap, so she can sometimes get a bit fussy around 5 or 6. Bedtime is around 6 or 7. So I am torn between having the party when she could potentially be tired and crabby, but would be on her actual birthday and could last for several hours and be fun for the adults, or have the party during the day when she will be more awake, but would then not be during a mealtime and also might break up peoples' weekends more and may not be as fun for the adults. Does anyone have any thoughts about what would be a better day/time?
TIA!
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Re: XP: FTM Baby b-day party questions
People are going to bring gifts to a 1st birthday. I would never show up at a 1st birthday without one.
I would have it on Friday. The first birthday is more for the parents anyway...let her do cake and then send her on to bed and then hang out with your friends.
ETA- I didn't see 4pm...I would start at 5pm and people will get there when they can.
Your DD B-day is the day before mine! LOL
1)As for gifts I would not say anything. If you really wanted to you could tell people through word of mouth. Something along the lines of "Hey by the way no gifts necessary, you coming is gift enough" that way they can if they want but don't have to. My friend put something along the lines of "No gifts necessary, your love self is gift enough" and it was kind of cute. Although "No gifts necessary" is also simple and nice because it shows that they don't have to bring one but can if they want.But I would just leave it off to be honest
2) I would do the party Saturday. That way no one is having to come straight from work to the party and your DD will be happy and awake. Having a crabby birthday kid is no fun and also I know a lot of people are still at work at 4 on a Friday so they would have to be late PLUS come straight from work with work clothes still on, and they may be tired.
I wouldn't even mention gifts. I have never heard of anyone declining to come to a party because they don't want to bring a gift. Gifts can be as simple as a book, so it's not like people are obligated to spend a lot.
As for the day/time, Friday at 4 is too early. I am assuming a majority of your guests work so they probably wouldn't be getting out of work until 5 or 6 so a Friday party shouldn't start until later like 6:30/7:00pm. I would do a Saturday party, maybe think of moving the Saturday party later in the afternoon/early evening and instead of doing a lunch BBQ, you could do more of a dinnertime BBQ and start it at 4 or 5pm on Saturday.
If an invitation had no mention of a gift, I would assume the host is expecting a gift (and I don't think there is anything wrong with that)
As far a party times, my DS's birthday party is starting at 2. He doesn't have set nap times, but I figure if he's tired I will put him down for a nap, no biggie. The only thing I would avoid, would be bedtime (at night party) DS gets crabby around 630-7 usually so it wouldn't work for us.