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Covering my Emotions

I just found out yesterday that I had a chemical pregnancy. I was a little over 5 weeks. I had a wierd feeling when I found out I was pregnant that something was wrong and when I started spotting, it confirmed all my fears. Although I researched all day and knew the good and the bad of what spotting could mean, I still just had a feeling that it wasn't good. Yesterday I made an appointment to see my OB with a tiny bit of hope that she would tell me that I was still pregnant. When she told me the news, I wasn't upset because I had already mentally prepared myself for the news. I kept filling myself with positive thoughts the rest of the day. I told myself to be strong and put a smile on my face while I was at work. When I got home today, I just broke down. I know that God has the right time planned for my pregnancy, but it still hurts my feelings that something we have been trying for a year to acheive was taken away. I am hoping that the reason for this loss will become apparent to me. As for today, I am just sad.

Re: Covering my Emotions

  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  This board has been a wonderful support system for me, and I hope you find it comforting too.  I think going through a range of emotions is just part of dealing with such terrible news.  I know I have been on a roller coaster.  Take all the time you need... the only way that's right is what's right for you.

    FWIW, I also believe that God has a plan even when it doesn't seem like it.  Holding on to that has made my loss easier.


  • It's difficult to be strong all of the time. I'm sorry for your loss. Don't beat yourself up because you're sad... let yourself grieve in whatever way you feel that you must.
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  • I'm sorry for your loss. It's okay to break down and just be sad. I have been going to work and trying to act like nothing's wrong, but as soon as I get in the car I start tearing up.


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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Take all the time you need to be sad or any other emotion you feel.  I hope you can find comfort in this board.  The women here are an amazing support system.   My thoughts are with you. 
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  • I'm sorry for your loss :(  I agree with PP--let yourself feel whatever emotions come up.  I let myself cry at work because I knew that "hiding" from the sadness, grief and anger would only prolong the healing process.  Easier said than done some days I know...

    This board is amazing and offered me a lot of support in my early days.  I hope you can connect with some of the women on here.  You are not alone--it was surprising (and truly sad) to me to find out how common MC is.


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  • Your story sounds exactly like mine. When I found out I never got that elated feeling because I was cramping here and there and something just felt...wrong. By the time the doctors got back to me with my second round of betas to tell me my HCG was dropping and I was losing the baby, I had already lost it...

    I've been told since I was 16 that getting pregnant might be very hard for me to do, so for it to just happen when we weren't trying and having to feel it go...well lets just say, break down. It's the least we should be able to do right now.


    (hugs) sorry for your loss, hun. 

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  • I ditto to what everyone has said. Experience whatever emotions you need to have. Grieving is ok. Hang in there. I am so sorry for your loss. 

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  • It's just not fair and it's something that'll never make a lick of sense. I'm so sorry. (((hugs))) you don't have to wear a smile here.

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    It's just not fair and it's something that'll never make a lick of sense. I'm so sorry. (((hugs))) you don't have to wear a smile here.


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  • LovenizLoveniz member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. The ladies here are very supportive.
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  • JessiUFJessiUF member
    I had sort of the same thing in the sense that I stayed strong and just broke down when I got home.  I guess we all need our time to just break down and cry
  • AlbahAlbah member
    I'm so terribly sorry you are going through this! I completely understand how you feel. :( 
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