My BFF and mom are planning my shower. I am not clear on how involved is standard for the mom to be....
How much are you doing???
The MTB's level of involvement depends entirely on her hosts. If your BFF and mother specifically ask for your input, you can act or suggest accordingly but if not, it's no big deal since it's their gift to you, anyway.
For my own showers, the only involvement I had was checking to see if the dates worked for me and providing the hosts with addresses.
I'm having 2 showers and with them I have 2 very different roles. My mom is planning one of them in my hometown and I have helped pick the date and sent a guest list but she's pretty much made it clear that she'll handle the rest so I'm enjoying that. Even if it goes against my nature (i'm an uber planner and hate surprises) The other shower is being thrown by my SIL (h's sister) and she is basically giving me say in whatever I want since the shower will be held in our city (40 mins from her) I haven't said too much other than I want it to be a pool party co-ed barbecue because I figure there's not that much else to say. I really just want to hang at the pool with my friends and family.
I think it varies by host(s) on how much the MTB is involved.
Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12 **TEAM GREEN!**
Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12
Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14 **TEAM GREEN!**
Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14