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Since it is quiet...weekend full of ugh comments etc

Since it is a quiet, I will give a run down of my weekend full of comments and pregnant people for your amusement (or not..)

1) Went for a pedicure on Friday and was faced with a very pregnant technician and another pg customer.  There was also a sign up offering PG massage.  I was also reading my kindle and low and behold the character turned out to be KU'd unexpectedly of course.  So much for my relaxation..

2) Had to listen to friends of my sister drone on and on about their kids and what kind of legacy they would have when they died.  My sister was cringing for me at least and I had to keep my sunglasses on to not show tears. I guess you have no legacy if you have no kids according to them

3) A friend told me how another friend has declared that she'd "never" do any IF intervention if she can't have kids. If you can't have them, you should just accept that. Great, thanks.  (what I want to say to her is you aren't even married at 39 and of course you don't think IF will happen to you. No one ever thinks it will be them and it is easy to make declarations until you've lived this...)

 

TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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Re: Since it is quiet...weekend full of ugh comments etc

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    Wow, what a fun weekend you had... I'm so sorry.  *hugs*
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    ((hugs))

    people suck!

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    Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)

    It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
    MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
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    reb259reb259 member
    We were at a bbq and one of the guys said i have to ask you guys a question. everytime i drive by your house the cars are in the driveway, you take nice vacations, you have no kids...what do you keep in the garage? H said sex toys and a refrigerator. We have a swing hanging from the ceiling. Best part he said it in front of 4 9 year old girls...including his!!
    I am AMA and all tests on H came back normal
    3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
    Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
    PAIF/SAIF always welcome
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    ((hugs))  sorry you had a shitty weekend Sad
    TTC #1 Since 4/2010, Cycle 30
    Positive for HLA-B27, I'm a mutant :p
    Testing - Me ok, gluten issue? DH - borderline count, low motility
    4/28/11 IUI#1 = BFP!(5/25), EDD 2/2/12 - m/c 5w3d
    7/3, 7/31, 9/25 - IUI#2-4=BFN
    IVF#1 - 1 blast = BFP!! (12/30), EDD 9/9/12, confirmed c/p 4w2d
    FET#1 3/2/12 - 2 blasts =BFP!! EDD 11/18/12, us#1 = twins! Confirmed m/c 5w6d
    4/20-surprise BFP and another c/p 4w2d
    FET#2 7/16/12 - 2 blasts = BFN
    FET#3 8/20/12 - 1 blast - BFP!! Beta #1-2=177, 354
    1st u/s 5w6d, one beautiful little HB :), 2nd u/s 146bpm
    baby girl born 5/10/13

    TTC#2 since 12/17/2014, Cycle 8
    Repeat Testing...FSH=12, AMH=3.8, AFC=28. 
    IUI#5 5/10/15- c/p?
    IVF#2 8/19/15 - cancelled due to cysts
    IVF#2 take two 10/2015 - 5 blasts frozen
    FET#4 12/11/2015 - BFN - 4 blasts remaining
    FET#5 2/18/16 - BFP!!!  Beta1-3, 126, 250, 745!!

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    Tons of love and ((hugs)) to my IF sister NMscubagirl


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    Ughhh - I love it when people are so adamant about what they would or would not do when they've never been in a certain situation.

    My friend who came to visit this weekend (who never suffered from IF) said she bit someone's head off the other day for saying they would never do IVF. She flat out told her "Until you've been there, don't say what you would or wouldn't do - you don't know what you'd be willing to do until you're in that situation." It made me feel good that she stood up for people going through IF even though she's never been through it herself.

    TTC 12/2009
    Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
    IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
    E & C Born 10/19/2012
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    imagetheworms:

    ((hugs))

    people suck!

    Ditto this ^^^

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    09.24.12 It's a Boy!! ---> Jacob Owen

    Our IF Journey Began: October 2009
    **8 Failed IUI's, 1 Blighted Ovum, & 1 Failed IVF**
    Dx: MFI, DOR w/MTHFR Homozygous A1298C & Hypothyroidism
    03.2012 Lab Results: FSH 6.83 AMH 0.67 TSH 3.8 E2 17
    SA 156 million 93% motility 3% morphology

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    Ohh, people can really suck, McIrish!  Sorry that you had to with so many moments like that in a matter of days!

    imagereb259:
    We were at a bbq and one of the guys said i have to ask you guys a question. everytime i drive by your house the cars are in the driveway, you take nice vacations, you have no kids...what do you keep in the garage? H said sex toys and a refrigerator. We have a swing hanging from the ceiling. Best part he said it in front of 4 9 year old girls...including his!!

    Yes  THAT is awesome and hilarious!

    TTC since honeymoon in 9/2010
    Me: 39, Dx DOR (FSH = 10.5, AMH = 0.43, best AFC = 10), AMA
    MH: 37, Dx Obstructive Azoospermia, multiple successful sperm retrieval procedures

    1/2012: IVF/ICSI #1 Antagonist = cancelled d/t poor response to max stims
    2/2012: IVF/ICSI #2 MDLF (4R, 4M, 1F) = BFP, saw heartbeat, missed m/c 9w0d, D&E
    8/2012: IVF/ICSI #3 EPP/MDLF (7R, 2M, 1F) = BFN

    12/2012: (New RE) Operative hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue

    1/2013: IVF/ICSI #4 Low-dose stim/Antagonist (AFC=6); ER=1/26 (5R-couldn't access rt ovary, 5M, 4F), ET=1/29 (trans 3) = BFP!; 2/11 beta#1(13dp3dt)=2127, 2/13=3367; twin girls due 10/19/13

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    imagejoules12:

    Ohh, people can really suck, McIrish!  Sorry that you had to with so many moments like that in a matter of days!

    imagereb259:
    We were at a bbq and one of the guys said i have to ask you guys a question. everytime i drive by your house the cars are in the driveway, you take nice vacations, you have no kids...what do you keep in the garage? H said sex toys and a refrigerator. We have a swing hanging from the ceiling. Best part he said it in front of 4 9 year old girls...including his!!

    Yes  THAT is awesome and hilarious!

    Love this as well!!!

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


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    AmCheriAmCheri member

    People totally suck.  Even those, like our closest friends, seem to find a way to just suck!

    Our extremely fertile friends visited this weekend.  Lots of comments about "so and so don't have kids, so they don't get it." Or "so and so don't have kids, so it's weird because it's like their dogs are their children." And I got a 20 minute description of the most recent birth story.  Depressing.  I'm sooooo sorry you had the same kind of weekend.  Screw 'em!

    Baby girl Lila born 2013.
    Baby boy Henry born 2015.
    Expecting our capstone baby (boy) early March 2018.
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    I'm sorry people were so crappy. Hugs.
    PAIF and SAIF Always Welcome!
    TTC since 2007
    6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
    IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
    IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
    Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
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    imageMrs.McIrish:
    imagejoules12:

    Ohh, people can really suck, McIrish!  Sorry that you had to with so many moments like that in a matter of days!

    imagereb259:
    We were at a bbq and one of the guys said i have to ask you guys a question. everytime i drive by your house the cars are in the driveway, you take nice vacations, you have no kids...what do you keep in the garage? H said sex toys and a refrigerator. We have a swing hanging from the ceiling. Best part he said it in front of 4 9 year old girls...including his!!

    Yes  THAT is awesome and hilarious!

    Love this as well!!!

    HAHAHA!!  Awesome!

    McIrish, I just don't understand people sometimes.  The legacy thing would have thrown me over the edge this weekend.  I feel for you, hang in there!

     
    me 33/DH 36
    ttc since 10/2008; d/x: mild MFI, stageII endo
    ~~PAIF/SAIF Welcome~~
    11 IUI’s = 1 m/c (7w4d)
    IVF#1 January 2012 BFN, FET #1 April 2012 BFN
    Surprise BFP October 2012 m/c (7w), Surprise BFP April 2013 m/c (6w4d)
    IVF #2: July 2013, ET 1 embryo 7/18, beta 1 @ 14dp3dt - 757, beta 2 @ 16dp3dt - 1762
    U/S 1 @ 6w4d = 1 little frogger with HB of 118, U/S 2 @ 7w3d measuring right on track with HB of 160
    Stick Frogger Stick! Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!   It's a Girl, EDD April 7, 2014

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    people suck and just don't get it.  big hugs.

    ~Lauren~
    **SAIF always welcome.**
    After 2+ years, 3 losses, 3 surgeries, 2 IVFs and 1 FET our little girl is here.
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    I thought that I would never pursue IF treatments but I couldn't imagine not doing it. I hate when people make comments like that.  It's perfectly natural to want to have a baby of your own and no matter what people say, we are not crazy for wanting to do just that.  

    When people say "Oh just adopt." I tell them "It is just as hard, expensive and heart wrenching to adopt as it is to pursue IF treatments."  

    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
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    Bluck...that is one gross situation after another.
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    Hugs hun! Sounds like a craptastic weekend! People suck!
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    Delta04Delta04 member

    Ugh comments indeed!  Sometimes I can't stand people and their inability to think before speaking.  Press the mute button on your microphone please people!!!

    TTC since 3/07. IVF#1 = canceled. IVF#2 = 0% fertilization. IVF#3 = BFN. IVF#4 = c/p.  
    Moving forward with Adoption 2017!
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    Oh my lord...ugh. (((hugs)))
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    TTC since March/April 2010
    DX: MFI - less than 1 million sperm, 26% motility
    DH put on anastrozole to increase counts
    June/July 2011 100 mg Clomid + TS IUI#1 & IUI 2 - BFN :-(
    Forced break due to DH getting spinal surgery in August 2011
    IVF - January 2012: BFN
    FET in April 2012 - BFP at 6dp5dt! Beta #1 at 9dp5dt: 82.5, Beta #2 at 12dp5dt: 352 Beta #3 at 19dp5dt: 6000, saw heartbeat and one little bean at 5W6D!
    After nearly 3 years of waiting our LO was born December 18th 2012!
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