Hello. I will keep this short and not write everything in my bio, lol. My husband and I have had 3 ectopic pregnancies and 3 IUI's in the last 6 years. I had surgery for one ectopic which now my left tube is no good and I had surgery for cyst and endometriosis. My fertility Doctor said we will definitely need to do Invitro. However, as many others it's so expensive so you try to look at any and every option. Especially considering we spent $6,000.00 on three IUI's and that did nothing. MY QUESTION IS can I get some of your opinions opinions on if you would try once more naturally or wait to do invitro. The thing is I'm 32 so I don't have long and my husband and I just started building a new house so it would be a while before we could save up that much money and my insurance pays for nothing. It's been on my mind a lot lately about trying on our own once more and just see what the outcome would be. Don't be scared to tell me exactly what you think. I need some support from other women who have been through heartache as I have. It would be greatly appreciated. Sincerely,
Shaun
Re: 3 ECTOPICS AND 3 IUI'S- TRY AGAIN?
BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12
BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13
I am so sorry you find yourself here. My opinion, coming from someone with no medical knowledge or knowledge of risks, would be try natural while you are waiting to save up money to try invitro. I wish I had more knowledge in this so I could give you a knowledgable response. But I hope this helped a little.
First of all, I'm so sorry for all you've been through. I've had one ectopic and lost my right tube. Honestly if I had even one more ectopic I'd move to IVF because after each ectopic the chance of another goes up considerably. I'm not much younger than you, I'll be 31 in a few weeks.
To me the cost of IVF would just be worth it, I'd do whatever I had to do...take out loans, borrow from family, downgrade home and car, anything. I know there are no guarantees but I think its the safest "bet" at preventing another ectopic.
Good luck!
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BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
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Well- honestly- only you know what is best fo you and what you can afford.... I would talk to your RE- some places have special payment plans for invetro- I know mine does... and if yours doesnt- them search around for one that does- once you know what kind of payment plan you could have- then maybe you could make an informed decision... BUt you are ONLY 32- so you do have awhile- so if you decide to try on your own for awhile and save up money- that would be a fine decision as well....
Also- I am so sorry for all your losses!!!
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Why exactly did the dr. tell you that you would definitely need IVF? I have had an ectopic and knew that my chances of another were higher than in the general popluation, but I was never told that my chances of a healthy pg were nil. It was/is harder for me to get pg due to only one tube, but the HSG test I had showed my other tube was clear and I have gotten pg 3x since the ectopic (2 babies, 1 mc).
I think your answer is kind of impossible to answer without a little more info. Is your other tube clear? Which dr. told you you would need IVF for sure and what were his/her reasons?
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