alright ladies i need some feed back

lauran2010 · May 2012

Ok so my hubby has been offered a new position. Its a huge pay increase, but its working nights 4pm-4am and 5-2am. Im just a little nervous since ill be doing the majority of the things with our LO. DH will sleep we figure till about noon. So ill be doing the morning things, and the evening routine with out any help. I know it sounds like nothing, but for what ever reason it makes me a bit nervous. Ill be going back to work in October and i have no idea what shift would be better for me to work since hubby will be on nights. I can work casual and on call and still get full time that way. So would it be easier for me to work 7-3, or 3-11? We have our inlaws to help with babysitting. If i work 7-3 then DH can go pick up LO when he wakes up. And if i work 3-11 then our in-laws will be at our house until i get home. To me that seems like a lot to ask, it will only be for about 6-7months. With my line of work my doctor puts me on sick leave around 28weeks pregnant, then mat leave. So its kind of short term. What do you think?

lauran2010 · May 2012

Yea thats true if i work 3-11 then i can be with her all day. But im just unsure about in laws putting her to bed and having to stay at our house till im home. That is the shift i was returning to 3-11, so i would of been up with our LO in the am anyways. Dh current job he is gone by 5am. A tough call either way i think.

Thanks for your advice!

cantalopes24 · May 2012

I wouldn't want to expect my parents to be in my house 5 nights a week. I would work day shift.

lauran2010 · May 2012

cantalopes24:
I wouldn't want to expect my parents to be in my house 5 nights a week. I would work day shift.

sorry should of specified, my days off are Thur and Fri, and hubby's are Sat, Sun, Mon. So we only need them Tues and Wed.

nicki731 · May 2012

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a weenie -- but I don't think I'd want my husband to take a night shift job, even if it was more money. Personally I know it would make me miserable not to see him or have any/much help, so the extra money wouldn't be worth the stress to me. Sorry I don't have better advice but hopefully you can find a way to make things work for you and your family. GL!

cantalopes24 · May 2012

lauran2010:
cantalopes24:
I wouldn't want to expect my parents to be in my house 5 nights a week. I would work day shift.

sorry should of specified, my days off are Thur and Fri, and hubby's are Sat, Sun, Mon. So we only need them Tues and Wed.

I still think its a lot to ask of them if you have the option not to. Have you asked if they'd be willing to do it?

lauran2010 · May 2012

I hear you, and thats my opinion too. Id rather him be on the shift he is. But with this company the only way to further your career with them is to be a supervisor for a while. He's been there 7 years already and hasn't had much growth. With this new offer he can almost do anything with the company after. Its not long term, maybe a few years of night shifts. He is thinking more opportunities down the road after.

pennysuedog · May 2012

nicki731:
I hope this doesn't make me sound like a weenie -- but I don't think I'd want my husband to take a night shift job, even if it was more money. Personally I know it would make me miserable not to see him or have any/much help, so the extra money wouldn't be worth the stress to me. Sorry I don't have better advice but hopefully you can find a way to make things work for you and your family. GL!

It is really hard not seeing each other and adjusting to working overnights. He will feel overtired for months until his body adjusts. Makesure this is really what he wants!

lauran2010 · May 2012

cantalopes24:
lauran2010:
cantalopes24:
I wouldn't want to expect my parents to be in my house 5 nights a week. I would work day shift.

sorry should of specified, my days off are Thur and Fri, and hubby's are Sat, Sun, Mon. So we only need them Tues and Wed.
I still think its a lot to ask of them if you have the option not to. Have you asked if they'd be willing to do it?

Yes, it was there idea for me to work my 3-11 shift and them watch our LO. They want my DH and i to still see each other and do family things. And only for 6months. We help them out a lot also, with there yard work and housing projects.

cantalopes24 · May 2012

lauran2010:
I hear you, and thats my opinion too. Id rather him be on the shift he is. But with this company the only way to further your career with them is to be a supervisor for a while. He's been there 7 years already and hasn't had much growth. With this new offer he can almost do anything with the company after. Its not long term, maybe a few years of night shifts. He is thinking more opportunities down the road after.

MH worked 4 to 3 or sometimes 4 five days a week for almost 2 years and he was in school. It sucked because he missed out on some stuff but in general it wasn't bad. He'd come home and sleep til 10 or so and sometimes catch a quick nap before work. If it's a good opportunity for YH I think you can make it work.

lissfriedrice · May 2012

My husband got this job (military) three months ago. We works two weeks of nights 7pm - 7am and then two weeks of days 7am - 7pm. He normally works three days on and three days off, but lately because of people trained etc. he has had two days off. I am a SAHM and full time student taking online courses. We do not have any family or friends here. It was really tough at first since the days he works he sleeps until 3pm or so. I do everything myself, and have adjusted pretty well. We make the most of the time he has off. In my experience it is the beginning adjustment that is tough.

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