I mostly just lurk around the boards these days, but I was wondering what people thought of this.
I was talking to my sister about a week ago on the phone. We were talking about the pregnancy, etc. and out of the blue she says, "Oh! Mom and I were wondering if you wanted to have a small shower? What do you think?"
Now, quick background info. Around here showers have always been thrown by the female family members of the MTB, so that's not an issue; and "sprinkles" are not uncommon.
What I'm annoyed about is the fact that I had just finished saying "Yup, 35 weeks along today" and this is the first time she mentioned a shower.
I felt like answering, "Well a shower might have been nice but there is literally next to no time to plan/throw one before the baby comes, so thanks but no thanks" Instead I told her that I had absolutely no idea that anyone was even thinking of throwing me a shower, and so I hadn't considered the possibility. When I spoke to my mom, it seemed like she had little interest in having a shower. She actually said, "I wasn't sure if you'd want one since it's a second boy in under two years" which roughly translates into, "I don't think it's appropriate for you to have another shower so soon after the first."
Now while I kind of agree with my mom that it's not quite appropriate, I am still annoyed with my sister for offering one so late. I get the feeling that someone may have asked her if/when I was having a shower and she wanted to be able to say, "She doesn't want one" rather than "I never offered to throw her one". (She had been at a relative's shower that day).
I feel like she should not have brought it up, and that she only offered because she knew I'd refuse, but she felt like she had to offer as she had showers for all three of her kids (2 of which I co-hosted).